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Articles (53)

Increasing diversity in NVC circles

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 9 - 13 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 9 - 13 minutes
Want to increase diversity, plus improve group dynamics and group functioning? There are things you can do to make NVC settings more welcoming to people of color. Learn more about how to use NVC; attend to impact; help the community understand and demonstrate more awareness;…

How I Changed My Relationship to Time

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 8 - 12 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 8 - 12 minutes
What would happen if you considered that time is a concept, and that it doesn't rule your life? What would it mean to make all choices based on needs and not on time? Do you obey the external rhythm of the clock over and above…

The Nuts and Bolts of Not Taking Things Personally

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 12 - 18 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 12 - 18 minutes
Why is it so difficult to not take things personally? It's because everything reinforces the sense that whatever is being said is indeed about us – both from without and from within. However, we can get better at not taking things personally with a practice…

Angry and Taken Advantage of

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 4-6 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 4-6 minutes
Finding your power in seemingly powerless situations doesn't mean denying what happened, your feelings, your needs, nor the behavior of others that didn't meet needs. It does mean reexamining those situations with the intention to compassionately look for your contribution and for clues to your…

Invisible Power & Privilege - Part 2

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 3 - 5 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 3 - 5 minutes
How do we address historical and present challenges regarding the invisibility of privilege and power? What can we do, especially if we are people with privilege, to transform these conditions?  However challenging these kinds of situations are, and whatever our position, we can move towards more…

Connected Decision Making

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 2-3 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 2-3 minutes
If you're stuck when making a decision with someone, it's likely that you've skipped hearing and connecting to one another's needs. Slow down and listen for what's really important underneath the content. This allows you to make decisions that are more fulfilling and harmonious.

Money, Needs, and Resources

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 9 - 13 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 9 - 13 minutes
Unless we change our collective ways on the planet, we will one day exceed the earth’s carrying capacity. We can only address the planet's very real limits of physical resources at the level of social organization. To operate empathically is to adjust our collective social…

Healing a Repetitive Reactive Dynamic

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 3-5 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 3-5 minutes
In healing reactivity try identifying your most common complaints, wishes, or requests. Or when you tend to defend, justify, get angry, or protect. Find the tender needs. You can recall when you experienced deep nourishment of that need. Several times a week nourish your tender…

Dissolving Reactivity With Your Partner

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 3-5 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 3-5 minutes
Most reactivity in intimate relationships comes from a lack of confidence in maintaining intimacy, autonomy, or security. What may help is naming what's happening, interrupting shame, and anchoring or reassuring yourself. You can also reflect on the effects of acting from reactivity. Knowing what helps…

Holding Dilemmas Together in the Workplace

All Skill Levels • Article • Read time: 11 - 16 minutes
All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 11 - 16 minutes
When we are transparent about our concerns, brainstorm solutions together, and look towards making a decision with the other person, we can increase understanding, partnership, and mutual support. This invites people to work on the same issue from the same direction, collaboratively seek solutions, and…

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