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Articles (53)

Connected Decision Making

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 2-3 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 2-3 minutes
If you're stuck when making a decision with someone, it's likely that you've skipped hearing and connecting to one another's needs. Slow down and listen for what's really important underneath the content. This allows you to make decisions that are more fulfilling and harmonious.

Money, Needs, and Resources

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 9 - 13 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 9 - 13 minutes
Unless we change our collective ways on the planet, we will one day exceed the earth’s carrying capacity. We can only address the planet's very real limits of physical resources at the level of social organization. To operate empathically is to adjust our collective social…

Healing a Repetitive Reactive Dynamic

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 3-5 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 3-5 minutes
In healing reactivity try identifying your most common complaints, wishes, or requests. Or when you tend to defend, justify, get angry, or protect. Find the tender needs. You can recall when you experienced deep nourishment of that need. Several times a week nourish your tender…

Dissolving Reactivity With Your Partner

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 3-5 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 3-5 minutes
Most reactivity in intimate relationships comes from a lack of confidence in maintaining intimacy, autonomy, or security. What may help is naming what's happening, interrupting shame, and anchoring or reassuring yourself. You can also reflect on the effects of acting from reactivity. Knowing what helps…

Holding Dilemmas Together in the Workplace

All Skill Levels • Article • Read time: 11 - 16 minutes
All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 11 - 16 minutes
When we are transparent about our concerns, brainstorm solutions together, and look towards making a decision with the other person, we can increase understanding, partnership, and mutual support. This invites people to work on the same issue from the same direction, collaboratively seek solutions, and…

Six Ways to Check If An Allied Intervention Is Welcome

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 2 - 3 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 2 - 3 minutes
If we are in the dominant group, intervening to prevent violence or an "ouch" is a way to ally with marginalized folks. We can intervene to meet their needs, rather than our own. In other words, we can intervene without putting our experience at center…

Help for Overwhelm

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 3-5 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 3-5 minutes
Reducing overwhelm requires you to reconnect with your authentic choice, be present and compassionate with what's happening, heal trauma, and interrupt the trauma response. Read on for ways that may help you reconnect with your choice, presence and more on trauma.

Moving from Fault to Cause: Looking for Systemic Solutions to White Supremacy

All Skill Levels • Article • Read time: 13 - 19 minutes
All Skill Levels
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Read time: 13 - 19 minutes
We can see throughout many examples in history that when we look for "who" is at fault, and thereby seek social change through shaming that person (or that group), it tends to lead to disastrous long term consequences. Even if it works in the short…

Helping Another Find Willingess

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 4-6 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
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Read time: 4-6 minutes
Is there someone you wish was more willing? Try guessing what obstacles they might be struggling with. And allow yourself to feel your grief. As you grapple with your own desire for someone to find their willingness, its essential to recognize that this is about…

The Radical Act of Reclaiming Attention

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read Time: 5 - 8 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read Time: 5 - 8 minutes
Given all that we are facing today as a society and a species, amongst some of the things we need is a well nourished heart. To nourish our hearts we need to discern where to wisely put our attention. Here are three practices to reclaim…

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