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Understanding I’m Not Responsible for Another's Feelings

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Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 2 pages
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Ask the Trainer: "I understand that I'm not responsible for someone else's feelings, but my girlfriend doesn't. Do you have ideas for how I could get her to understand this concept?"

An NVC “Do-Over”

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Trainer Tip: When we respond in a way that is less than our ideal in terms of using NVC, we don't have to give up and think we are no good at NVC or that NVC doesn't work!

Connect Before Correct

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Ask the Trainer: "Recently, I was sitting in my weekly practice group trying to connect to my reasons for wanting to give empathy to a particular person. She was telling us about some painful feeling she was having, but was not connecting to her needs."

Modeling Behaviors You’d Like to Receive

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Trainer Tip: The ways that we interact with our children shape the way they will interact in their world. How do your actions model compassion, tolerance, and love for your children?

The Cause of Our Feelings

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 3 pages
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Ask the Trainer: “I would love some clarity about the NVC perspective on the cause of our feelings. It seems to me that my needs may be met or not, but the cause of my painful feelings is my story around the situation.”

Is NVC Always, in the End, “Just One-on-One”?

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 3 pages
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Ask the Trainer: "Can you share stories of transforming group conflict, or is NVC strictly intended for 'one-on-one' work?"

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 13. The Eight Most Powerful Things You Can Do to Build an Inspiring Relationship

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 4 pages
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What are the most powerful things I can do to build an inspired relationship? I answered the question with romantic relationships in mind; however, I believe the answer below applies to all important relationships.

Every Angry Message is a "Please"

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Trainer Tip: Anger can be an opportunity to hear the "Please" behind the words and create a path to resolve conflicts compassionately.

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 7. Talk about Conflict When You’re Not in Conflict

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 4 pages
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Conflict is a normal and natural part of life. To varying degrees, it happens whenever two or more people consistently spend time together. Resolving conflict effectively and peacefully, in a way in which all parties feel respected and valued, does not feel natural for those…

The Sweetest Game in Town: Contributing Without Praise

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 2 pages
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Inbal answers a parent's question about praise and offers a perspective on how praise translates into the NVC framework.

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