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Trainer Tips (162)

Needs Analysis—an Activity to Uncover Your Strategies

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Beginner Skill Level
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1 - 2 minutes
Trainer Tip: Find your deepest need. Then notice when you do things, or have done things, that keep you from meeting your most important need. And then take conscious action that is in alignment with the need you want to meet.

It’s All About Please and Thank You

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Beginner Skill Level
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1 - 2 minutes
Trainer Tip: People’s choice of words may be difficult to hear. In fact, we may feel downright aggravated by them. Whether we enjoy these statements or not, we can begin to recognize that behind each statement is a desire to meet needs, either by saying…

Requests, the Fourth Component of Compassionate Communication

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Beginner Skill Level
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1 - 2 minutes
Trainer Tip: Making a request is critical because it can greatly lessen any tension in the situation. Plus, it can clarify for you and the people in your life what it would take to meet your need. Make at least one specific and doable request…

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 15. Keep Asking for Help

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Beginner Skill Level
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1 - 2 minutes
Asking for help is difficult for many of us, but can yield rich rewards.

Meeting Our Needs

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Beginner Skill Level
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1 - 2 minutes
Trainer Tip: Discovering the unmet needs is only a starting point. The other part is to understand what it will take to meet that need, and make a request that will accomplish this. This way, we can resolve situations before they escalate. Everyone benefits when…

How to Hear Difficult Messages

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Beginner Skill Level
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1 - 2 minutes
Trainer Tip: Be aware of opportunities today to choose empathizing over arguing with someone who is angry, and notice how it affects your ability to resolve the situation. Read on for more.

Doing Something Different

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Beginner Skill Level
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1 - 2 minutes
Trainer Tip: Commit to doing one thing right now that will bring you closer to meeting a need today. Do it today. Don’t put it off. This is your life.

If It Ain’t Broke, Don’t Fix It

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Beginner Skill Level
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1 - 2 minutes
Trainer Tip: Have you heard the saying, “If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it”? Communication is like that too. Don’t try to adjust your communication and behaviors if they already work for you.

Stopping: Practicing Awareness of Thinking

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
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1 - 2 minutes
Here's a practice for cultivating more awareness of our thinking and choices, when our feelings and thoughts become stimulated.

Appreciation vs. Approval, Compliments or Praise

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
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1 - 2 minutes
Trainer Tip: When we acknowledge our met needs, rather than labeling the other person as good or bad, we achieve a clarity of mind that deepens our connection to ourselves and other people.

 
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