Library Resources with Advanced Skill Level

When something happens that we don't like no amount of resentment nor magical thinking will make it disappear. Instead, we can mourn to dissolve our own resistance, resentment, and numbness of resignation. Mourning can allow us to feel pain with acceptance, and without needing to be okay with what happened. Acceptance can bring us to a place where even all the anguish in the world is fully, part of life.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 7 - 11 minutes
  • Production Date 04/2013
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 4
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles
When someone expresses upset about our actions, and we focus on our intention being seen and understood (e.g. "I didn’t mean to hurt you”) it doesn't support the speaker in being heard more deeply with care. Here we'll explore this dynamic in a way that supports more clarity and the possibility of greater personal liberation. Read on for more.

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  • Skill Level Advanced Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 12 - 18 minutes
  • Production Date 08/2013
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 8
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles
Anger can result in violence or in a movement towards positive change. We can see this happen in the push for racial justice. When you perceive anger as a form of violence your nervous system becomes activated. Your perspective narrows and old conditioning can take over leading to overwhelm, defensiveness, hatred, or violence. Read on for four ways to to respond to our own or others' anger in a way that mobilizes desired change.

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  • Skill Level All Skill Levels
  • Duration Read time: 3-5 minutes
  • Production Date 06/2020
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles
Working for racial justice is a shift in perspective—a shift in understanding and empathy that leads to a change in our actions: to listen instead of talk, to follow instead of lead, to yield rather than dominate. And to accept that I will continue to mess up. Part of working to undo racism is having the humility to know when our own understanding is limited. Read on for more this, and how it relates to meditation -- plus personal and collective liberation.

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  • Skill Level All Skill Levels
  • Duration Read time:5 - 8 minutes
  • Production Date 06/2020
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 4
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles
The existing unequal risks and impacts people of certain race, class and identities face in society is magnified in these strenuous times -- especially with things such as illness, financial well being, discrimination, attacks, and death. As responsive NVC practitioners we can stand in solidarity with those who are differentially impacted. Read on for this, and additional ways to spot common pitfalls of doing so.

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  • Skill Level Advanced Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 15 - 23 minutes
  • Production Date 05/2020
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 12
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles
It’s essential to give ourselves time to grapple with the complex feelings surrounding the brutality of state-sanctioned racism and violence. But if all we do is reflect and attend to our emotions we fail to show up, where and when it counts. So let's not perpetuate the violence by standing idly. Instead, here's ten things you can do to move into concrete action to address the continued, untenable, and horrific violence of racism. A list of resources is included.

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  • Skill Level All Skill Levels
  • Duration Read time:7 - 11 minutes
  • Production Date 06/2020
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 8
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles
Amidst racial violence, there are things that NVC can offer. And there are places where NVC culture needs to be more vigilant. Here are examples of where, amidst incredible loss and pain, "allies" and communities commonly (and often unknowingly) create false equivalences, minimization and re-injure those who've been historically marginalized -- even when they offer empathy, or aim to stay "safe". Read on to cultivate greater understanding and ways to respond differently.

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  • Skill Level All Skill Levels
  • Duration Read time: 23 - 34 minutes
  • Production Date 06/2020
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 14
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles
Perhaps human violence persists because we believe that violence is inevitable and there's nothing we can do about it -— even though there is notable evidence that this is likely not true. Read on for some research and theory on how cultures evolve to be collaborative or violent. Plus, learn benefits of collaboration and downsides to force, punishment, and control. These provide implications for how we might move towards a culture of more peace.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Levels
  • Duration Read time: 8 - 12 minutes
  • Production Date 4/2016
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 6
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles
With abundant evidence that most people have unconscious biases against people --even when that bias runs counter to their own values-- there's a strong chance you recreate this disconnect with people far more often than you recognize. So even with a high degree of NVC skills you may behave in a way that seems "NVC" but also reproduces the painful patterns that marginalized people all-too-often experience. Read on for ways to transform pitfalls of NVC into more reliable connection.

Additional Info

  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Levels
  • Duration Read time: 7 - 11 minutes
  • Production Date 8/2017
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 4
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles
The less blame and criticism, the easier it is for others to hear us. From this perspective, it’s in our best interest to come from curiosity and care. This way differences can bring us together and help us know one another. The more mutual understanding, the easier it is to work together and find creative solutions. Read on for more on this, with a story about how a black man inspired 200 members of the KKK to leave the organization.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration N/A
  • Production Date 1/2010
  • Premium Members Premium Members
  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles
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