Library Resources with Intermediate Skill Level

Why is it so difficult to not take things personally? It's because everything reinforces the sense that whatever is being said is indeed about us – both from without and from within. However, we can get better at not taking things personally with a practice of shifting our focus by being open to multiple interpretations, understanding that our reaction is about our own need, and noticing how the other person’s words, no matter how they sound to us, are an expression of their needs. We can then be more present and available to navigate the situation.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 12 - 18 minutes
  • Production Date 02/2013
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 8
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles
Most reactivity in intimate relationships comes from a lack of confidence in maintaining intimacy, autonomy, or security. What may help is naming what's happening, interrupting shame, and anchoring or reassuring yourself. You can also reflect on the effects of acting from reactivity. Knowing what helps center you, ask your partner to do or say specific things that might help. Read on for more.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 3-5 minutes
  • Production Date 2/2019
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 4
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles

What specifically is leadership? And why do so many people step back from it? Listen in as Miki shares her experience and thoughts around changing the paradigm of leadership, as well as the role – and challenges – of using NVC when working for social change. Check it out.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 1 hour
  • Production Date 11/16/2019
  • Premium Members n/a
  • Points 0
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Audio (Public)
In healing reactivity try identifying your most common complaints, wishes, or requests. Or when you tend to defend, justify, get angry, or protect. Find the tender needs. You can recall when you experienced deep nourishment of that need. Several times a week nourish your tender needs. Be clear about the strategy to address needs by answering key questions. Read on for more.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 3-5 minutes
  • Production Date 6/2018
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles
We can choose our stories of interpretation, and how to respond. And while stories of self-sufficiency can (to a degree) give us more influence over our own lives, they don't erase oppression, war, nor climate change. When stories omit a lens that includes impacts of interdependence, oppression, and structural inequities, stories can also keep us disconnected and blocked from compassion for self and others -- and perpetuating an oppressive status quo. However, with this lens we can make greater compassion and collective liberation possible. Even as the outcome is unknown.

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  • Skill Level All Skill Levels
  • Duration Read time: 16 - 24 minutes
  • Production Date 05/2019
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 10
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles
Is there someone you wish was more willing? Try guessing what obstacles they might be struggling with. And allow yourself to feel your grief. As you grapple with your own desire for someone to find their willingness, its essential to recognize that this is about you and your needs. You can also express your needs honestly, make requests for how to collaborate, and be responsive to what they want. Read on for more on this, plus four common ways someone’s willingness might be blocked.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 4-6 minutes
  • Production Date 2/2019
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles
By focusing on NVC process and practice without factoring in the interdependent, systemic dimension we unwittingly diminish the power of NVC. We reinforce the dominant paradigm, rather than challenging it -- making NVC one more tool for compliance. NVC principles can turn against its own purpose in cruel ways. NVC could also empower social change. We'll need our attention on this matter if we are to contribute to transforming the oppression we face and our collective march towards extinction.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 15 - 23 minutes
  • Production Date 09/2019
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 10
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles
We can see throughout many examples in history that when we look for "who" is at fault, and thereby seek social change through shaming that person (or that group), it tends to lead to disastrous long term consequences. Even if it works in the short term. Instead, if we want to end cycles of violence we can seek to understand systemic causes and context of individuals' behaviour. And from there, look for solutions that stem from this understanding.

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  • Skill Level All Skill Levels
  • Duration Read time: 13 - 19 minutes
  • Production Date 09/2017
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 8
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles
Given all that we are facing today as a society and a species, amongst some of the things we need is a well nourished heart. To nourish our hearts we need to discern where to wisely put our attention. Here are three practices to reclaim your attention, and replenish your reserves, so that you have the inner resources to do the work that is calling you.  They are: train the mind, nourish the heart, and stay connected to purpose.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration Read Time: 5 - 8 minutes
  • Production Date 06/2019
  • Premium Members n/a
  • Points 4
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles
What don't we know about ourselves? Our unconscious contracts impact us, our shadow selves, and our relationships. In this snippet, Sarah uses her own unconscious contract to demonstrate navigating through reactions to today’s political environment. Listen.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 11 minutes
  • Production Date 11/17/2018
  • Premium Members Premium Members
  • Points 0
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Audio (Public)
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