Library Resources with Intermediate Skill Level

Tolerating reactivity, name-calling, blaming, guilt-tripping, or stonewalling can lead to resentment and hurt. Plus, the more you stay in a reactive dynamic, the more you are likely to reinforce the pattern. Setting life-serving boundaries arund reactivity is about letting another know that you aren’t going to participate in that kinds of dynamics. This means knowing what helps with handling difficulties and asking for that.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 4-6 minutes
  • Production Date 12/2019
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles
The existing unequal risks and impacts people of certain race, class and identities face in society is magnified in these strenuous times -- especially with things such as illness, financial well being, discrimination, attacks, and death. As responsive NVC practitioners we can stand in solidarity with those who are differentially impacted. Read on for this, and additional ways to spot common pitfalls of doing so.

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  • Skill Level Advanced Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 15 - 23 minutes
  • Production Date 05/2020
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 12
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles
It’s essential to give ourselves time to grapple with the complex feelings surrounding the brutality of state-sanctioned racism and violence. But if all we do is reflect and attend to our emotions we fail to show up, where and when it counts. So let's not perpetuate the violence by standing idly. Instead, here's ten things you can do to move into concrete action to address the continued, untenable, and horrific violence of racism. A list of resources is included.

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  • Skill Level All Skill Levels
  • Duration Read time:7 - 11 minutes
  • Production Date 06/2020
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 8
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles
Amidst racial violence, there are things that NVC can offer. And there are places where NVC culture needs to be more vigilant. Here are examples of where, amidst incredible loss and pain, "allies" and communities commonly (and often unknowingly) create false equivalences, minimization and re-injure those who've been historically marginalized -- even when they offer empathy, or aim to stay "safe". Read on to cultivate greater understanding and ways to respond differently.

Additional Info

  • Skill Level All Skill Levels
  • Duration Read time: 23 - 34 minutes
  • Production Date 06/2020
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 14
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles
Perhaps human violence persists because we believe that violence is inevitable and there's nothing we can do about it -— even though there is notable evidence that this is likely not true. Read on for some research and theory on how cultures evolve to be collaborative or violent. Plus, learn benefits of collaboration and downsides to force, punishment, and control. These provide implications for how we might move towards a culture of more peace.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Levels
  • Duration Read time: 8 - 12 minutes
  • Production Date 4/2016
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 6
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles
What's my intention? What needs am I trying to meet? What do I want the other person to know or understand? How can I say it in a way they are most likely to hear? These are four questions we can use in preparation for an important conversation. Read on for more on this, plus four accompanying practices.

Additional Info

  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 5 - 8 minutes
  • Production Date 11/2019
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 4
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles
With abundant evidence that most people have unconscious biases against people --even when that bias runs counter to their own values-- there's a strong chance you recreate this disconnect with people far more often than you recognize. So even with a high degree of NVC skills you may behave in a way that seems "NVC" but also reproduces the painful patterns that marginalized people all-too-often experience. Read on for ways to transform pitfalls of NVC into more reliable connection.

Additional Info

  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Levels
  • Duration Read time: 7 - 11 minutes
  • Production Date 8/2017
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 4
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles
The less blame and criticism, the easier it is for others to hear us. From this perspective, it’s in our best interest to come from curiosity and care. This way differences can bring us together and help us know one another. The more mutual understanding, the easier it is to work together and find creative solutions. Read on for more on this, with a story about how a black man inspired 200 members of the KKK to leave the organization.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration N/A
  • Production Date 1/2010
  • Premium Members Premium Members
  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles
In pandemic we can notice where we seek security. For some, financial systems that seemed to offer security have suddenly become unpredictable. For others, living without such privilege, resources are even more difficult to access. And we become more vulnerable to illness and death. These changes can trigger fear, but also motivate choices that contribute to a sense of security. Read on for more.

Additional Info

  • Skill Level All Skill Levels
  • Duration Read time: 4-6 minutes
  • Production Date 04/2020
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 4
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles
Being self-responsible is about empowerment — via noticing what is potentially in our locus of control, getting to know ourselves better, looking at our own role in how we experience life, and making conscious choices to act within our own power. This requires us to be mindful in relating our stories to our needs. Read on for more on this, and the various pifalls within thinking about self responsibility.

Additional Info

  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 6 - 9 minutes
  • Production Date 12/2011
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 4
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles
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