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As you witness injustices in the world, tension, anger, hopelessness, despair and more, may rise up in you. These feelings may lead to reactive thinking that doesn't contribute to healing nor wise action. Mourning is a universal need. If your culture pushed away grief and its emotional expression, you may have habits that block your access to the aliveness of grief. Read on for ways to give grief the space and support it needs.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 5-7 minutes
  • Production Date 10/2020
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 4
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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The ability to identify your needs and take effective action to meet them is one way to define agency. Access to agency is complex and varies widely from person to person. Access to agency depends upon a variety of conditions. For example, if you struggle with agency, shame may tell you that you're broken in some way. If agency comes easily in an area, then you may view others who struggle with it, as lazy or stubborn. Read on for more.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 3-5 minutes
  • Production Date 07/2020
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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If it's a tender topic and/or you are looking for a particular level of responsiveness, you can let listeners know what you want back before you share -- or you can ask them for a particular kind of response right after you share. The more you can do this, the more it can create supportive relationships in your life. Read on for ways to ask for a particular kind of responsiveness to meet particular needs.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 3-5 minutes
  • Production Date 10/2019
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 4
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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For effective dialogue clarify your needs, boundaries, and requests beforehand. Setting boundaries is telling someone what you're going to do in order to meet or protect needs for yourself or others. Whereas with requests, even if you have preferences, you still hold open curiosity about strategies to collaborate with others in meeting needs. Read on for more.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 3-5 minutes
  • Production Date 05/2020
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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Little negative impacts can become big when left unattended. Watch for things like using a sharp tone, choosing not to share something, going along with something when you don’t really want to, trying to convince your partner, impulsively turning away, shrinking, losing access to parts of yourself, hiding, daydreaming about a different life, and judgmental thoughts. Instead, shift the dynamic: take responsibility, provide empathy, and commit to change.

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  • Skill Level Advanced Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 4-6 minutes
  • Production Date 05/2019
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 4
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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The pandemic asks us to examine the way we have always done things. It asks to try something new and notice what happens. This is an opportunity to ask why you have done holidays in a certain way and what needs it met to do it that way. Perhaps it is an opportunity to experiment and see what new things might arise. Read on for questions to ask yourself that might help you process your triggers, "should's", feelings, needs and dilemmas.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 4 - 6 minutes
  • Production Date 11/2020
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 4
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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When someone offers continual unsoliticed feedback or advice, setting a boundary may not be easy if you care about how they might hear you. And if you don't set a boundary, you may eventually become resentful and say something you regret. Instead, here are six ways to respond, with varying degrees of effectiveness.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 6-9 minutes
  • Production Date 1/2020
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 6
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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Subtle boundary violations are more difficult to catch and name in the moment, than obvious boundary violations. Becoming more aware of these moments and finding the words to set a boundary are critical to supporting healthy relating long-term. Three categories of subtle boundary violations are (1.) lack of mutuality, (2.) voice tone and volume, and (3.) speaking for or about someone. Read on to learn more about all three.

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  • Skill Level Applied NVC
  • Duration Read time: 7-11 minutes
  • Production Date 12/2017
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 6
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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Physical distancing is opportunity to creatively to meet your needs in new ways. In this containment, with very few cues from others and the environment you now have a rare opportunity with less external distraction to rethink what's truly supportive -- and make significant changes to the less noticable habits of mind, standards and "should's". Applying questions and noticing certain symptoms can support. Read on for more.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 5-9 minutes
  • Production Date 04/2020
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 4
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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Here's a list of words that pose as feelings, but are actually interpretations of what you think someone is doing to you. They trigger defensiveness in another thereby preventing a connected dialogue. Behind each of these words are precious feelings and needs. This sheet includes ways to distinguish feelings from interpretations.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 1-2 minutes
  • Production Date 04/2020
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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