Can the Social Order Be Transformed through Personal Practice? - Part 2

All Skill Levels •  Article •  Read time: 18 - 27 minutes
All Skill Levels
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Read time: 18 - 27 minutes
We can't alone (nor with lone communities) transform the hidden structures of violence and domination. Dialogue alone isn't disruptive enough. We can easily be in dialogue with Trump supporters while the planet burns up, millions are still hungry, and we go extinct. NVC seriously risks reinforcing vast inequities and abuses if we're not radically engaging systemic constraints, and impacts of our choices that go beyond our immediate circle. Read on for ways to leverage NVC practices to expand true social change.

Apart and Together: Responding to Opportunity in Extreme Times

All Skill Levels •  Article •  Read time: 12 - 18 minutes
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Read time: 12 - 18 minutes
This pandemic is an immense opportunity, and a dire catastrophe in the making. It's a crisis within many planetary crisis's -- during which, our habits as individuals, and as a collective, are challenged because they don't work. And we are pushed to respond freshly and join forces in ways that seemed impossible before. Read on for more about this first in a series of articles.

Money, Value, and Our Choices

Advanced Skill Level •  Article •  Read time: 10 - 15 minutes
Advanced Skill Level
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Read time: 10 - 15 minutes
How much money to pay? And how much money to ask for? The supply and demand logic basically say that we ask for the most that “the market can absorb” and pay “the least that we can get away with.” We can instead, we can engage in experiments that focus on connecting to and satisfying needs. We can also engage with our varying degrees of access to resources within the existing economy and consider how we want to make choices about resources, especially when we have access to power.

Dialogue with Anyone About Anything (complete course)

Intermediate Skill Level •  Audio •  4 hours
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
4 hours

A chosen, interdependent world… In most cases, that's sure not the world we live in today, is it.  But it could be the world we live in tomorrow. And you can choose to be part of bringing that better world to life – to be part of a gradual, joyful transformation – simply by using the dynamic, living power of Dialogue.

 The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.


Expressing Our Pain Without Blame

Intermediate Skill Level •  Article •  Read time: 4 - 6 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 4 - 6 minutes
The more we can stay present with our hurt, and own our interpretations, we are more likely to express what's important to us without blame and also to become resilient. From there, the listener can have more space to offer their full presence and empathy. Read on for more.

Ego, Mind, and Culture

All Skill Levels •  Article •  Read time: 10 - 15 minutes
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Read time: 10 - 15 minutes
The “mind” or our “ego” are often depicted as a static entity, an unchangable part of human nature, and as obstacles or negative parts of ourselves to overcome. This view creates maligning, a split within us, while remaining invisibly part and parcel of authority-based societies --the dominant culture and institutions into which we are born. Instead, I want to advocate an integration of reason and emotion, mind and heart, plus self and others.

The Nuts and Bolts of Not Taking Things Personally

Intermediate Skill Level •  Article •  Read time: 12 - 18 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
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Read time: 12 - 18 minutes
Why is it so difficult to not take things personally? It's because everything reinforces the sense that whatever is being said is indeed about us – both from without and from within. However, we can get better at not taking things personally with a practice of shifting our focus by being open to multiple interpretations, understanding that our reaction is about our own need, and noticing how the other person’s words, no matter how they sound to us, are an expression of their needs. We can then be more present and available to navigate the situation.

The Powers No One Can Take Away From Us

All Skill Levels •  Article •  Read time: 16 - 24 minutes
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Read time: 16 - 24 minutes
We can choose our stories of interpretation, and how to respond. And while stories of self-sufficiency can (to a degree) give us more influence over our own lives, they don't erase oppression, war, nor climate change. When stories omit a lens that includes impacts of interdependence, oppression, and structural inequities, stories can also keep us disconnected and blocked from compassion for self and others -- and perpetuating an oppressive status quo. However, with this lens we can make greater compassion and collective liberation possible. Even as the outcome is unknown.

Can the Social Order Be Transformed through Personal Practice? The Case of Nonviolent Communication - Part 1 of 2

Intermediate Skill Level •  Article •  Read time: 15 - 23 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 15 - 23 minutes
By focusing on NVC process and practice without factoring in the interdependent, systemic dimension we unwittingly diminish the power of NVC. We reinforce the dominant paradigm, rather than challenging it -- making NVC one more tool for compliance. NVC principles can turn against its own purpose in cruel ways. NVC could also empower social change. We'll need our attention on this matter if we are to contribute to transforming the oppression we face and our collective march towards extinction.

Moving from Fault to Cause: Looking for Systemic Solutions to White Supremacy

All Skill Levels •  Article •  Read time: 13 - 19 minutes
All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 13 - 19 minutes
We can see throughout many examples in history that when we look for "who" is at fault, and thereby seek social change through shaming that person (or that group), it tends to lead to disastrous long term consequences. Even if it works in the short term. Instead, if we want to end cycles of violence we can seek to understand systemic causes and context of individuals' behaviour. And from there, look for solutions that stem from this understanding.

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