Is Nonviolent Use of Force an Oxymoron?

Intermediate Skill Level •  Article •  Read time: 37 - 56 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 37 - 56 minutes
What do we actually mean by “use of force” and what counts as such? Here's a template that will be unpacked in this article: "Use of force is consistent with nonviolence to the extent that we use the least amount of force possible, with the most love possible, aiming at (re)creating conditions for dialogue; that we make the choice using as much nonreactive discernment as possible, with as much support for the choice as possible, and while mourning not seeing another way to respond to a situation in which vital needs are at stake except to use force". Read on for more.

Nonviolence In The Face of Rape or Assault

All Skill Levels •  Article •  Read time: 1 - 2 minutes
All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 1 - 2 minutes
Here's a brief anecdote showing how one woman was able transform a situation, where a man was about to assault or rape her. She responded in a creative way that lead them both to see each others' humanity -- navigating them both to safety. As part of her ingenuity he ended up spending the night in her house, in another room.

Addressing Needs Beyond Market Economies. (Part 2/9 from the "Apart and Together" series)

All Skill Levels •  Article •  Read time: 22 - 31 minutes
All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 22 - 31 minutes
Within the pandemic, limitations of our market economies are more visible. Extreme need is exposed when the economy is collapsing and so many people are without jobs. We can now see how it’s possible to direct resources where they are most needed, solely out of care and interconnection. This is a call to explore a more viable way of living, that centers relationship over transaction.

Abusive Relationships and Nonviolence

Intermediate Skill Levels •  Article •  Read time: 8 - 12 minutes
Intermediate Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 8 - 12 minutes
In order to bring in more nonviolence into the world, we need to take our own needs seriously and recognize that no amount of seeing someone’s innocence would mean putting up with more of their harmful behavior. We need to disentangle compassion towards another from the willingness to tolerate more harmful actions. At times this means finding enough self-love, support, or clarity, to take decisive action. Read on for more.

Mourning Our Way to Acceptance

Beginner Skill Level •  Article •  Read time: 7 - 11 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 7 - 11 minutes
When something happens that we don't like no amount of resentment nor magical thinking will make it disappear. Instead, we can mourn to dissolve our own resistance, resentment, and numbness of resignation. Mourning can allow us to feel pain with acceptance, and without needing to be okay with what happened. Acceptance can bring us to a place where even all the anguish in the world is fully, part of life.

Intention and Effect

Advanced Skill Level •  Article •  Read time: 12 - 18 minutes
Advanced Skill Level
Article
Read time: 12 - 18 minutes
When someone expresses upset about our actions, and we focus on our intention being seen and understood (e.g. "I didn’t mean to hurt you”) it doesn't support the speaker in being heard more deeply with care. Here we'll explore this dynamic in a way that supports more clarity and the possibility of greater personal liberation. Read on for more.

Can the Social Order Be Transformed through Personal Practice? - Part 2

All Skill Levels •  Article •  Read time: 18 - 27 minutes
All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 18 - 27 minutes
We can't alone (nor with lone communities) transform the hidden structures of violence and domination. Dialogue alone isn't disruptive enough. We can easily be in dialogue with Trump supporters while the planet burns up, millions are still hungry, and we go extinct. NVC seriously risks reinforcing vast inequities and abuses if we're not radically engaging systemic constraints, and impacts of our choices that go beyond our immediate circle. Read on for ways to leverage NVC practices to expand true social change.

Responding to Opportunity in Extreme Times. (Part 1/9 from the "Apart and Together" series)

All Skill Levels •  Article •  Read time: 12 - 18 minutes
All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 12 - 18 minutes
This pandemic is an immense opportunity, and a dire catastrophe in the making. It’s a crisis within many planetary crises — during which, our habits as individuals, and as a collective, are challenged because they don’t sustain us. Now we are pushed to respond freshly and join forces in ways that seemed impossible before.

Money, Value, and Our Choices

Advanced Skill Level •  Article •  Read time: 10 - 15 minutes
Advanced Skill Level
Article
Read time: 10 - 15 minutes
How much money to pay? And how much money to ask for? The supply and demand logic basically say that we ask for the most that “the market can absorb” and pay “the least that we can get away with.” We can instead, we can engage in experiments that focus on connecting to and satisfying needs. We can also engage with our varying degrees of access to resources within the existing economy and consider how we want to make choices about resources, especially when we have access to power.

Dialogue with Anyone About Anything (complete course)

Intermediate Skill Level •  Audio •  4 hours
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
4 hours

A chosen, interdependent world… In most cases, that's sure not the world we live in today, is it.  But it could be the world we live in tomorrow. And you can choose to be part of bringing that better world to life – to be part of a gradual, joyful transformation – simply by using the dynamic, living power of Dialogue.

 The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.


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