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Here are some very basic forms and distinctions of NVC. It covers the 4 D's, OFNR, some NVC distinctions, tips, quotes from Marshall Rosenberg, and "feelings and needs" lists, and more. As with any art, these rudiments necessarily must be learned, practiced, understood, embodied and then let go of so as not to become rote and block creativity.

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  • Skill Level All Skill Levels
  • Duration Read Time: 4 - 6 minutes
  • Production Date 07/2017
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 7
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles
When we ask something of a person and threaten negative repercussions if she doesn’t comply, we're making a demand. Demands limit the possible responses and reduce joyful participation. Instead, look to find mutually satisfying resolutions. And look for ways to change your demand into a request. Read on for more.

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  • Skill Level Introductory Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 1-2 minutes
  • Production Date 10/2005
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Trainer Tips
Trainer tip: Be aware of times when you are judging others, demanding, making comparisons, or denying responsibility for your actions. Notice how these communication patterns affect your connection with other people.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 2-3 minutes
  • Production Date 10/2005
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Trainer Tips
Trainer tip: Demands are more likely to limit the possibilities and create distance between people. The trick to asking something as a request is valuing everyone’s needs equally. When you value everyone’s needs equally, then you are more willing to come to solutions that satisfy everyone. It thus opens possibilities and helps build connection.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 2-3 minutes
  • Production Date 10/2005
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Trainer Tips
When you want to be heard, first check if your listener is available. This honors yourself, and the other person’s choice about listening. You need to be clear about wanting a particular quality of listening, and that you are willing to wait if that isn’t available in the moment. Read on for how to ask for listening in a way that can build trust that your request isn't a demand.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 2-3 minutes
  • Production Date 04/2019
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles
Sometimes when we regard needs as something that could be met or unmet by another person or by a situation we unconsciously hold the belief that our needs should be met. Or we end up holding blame or implying wrongdoing. People are more likely to resist a request made from this stance. Instead, here are practices to increasingly losen any remaining attachment or demand energy -- and open our hearts to ourselves and others while we make requests.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 5 - 8 minutes
  • Production Date 10/2019
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles

Taking 100% Responsibility offers a powerful antidote to the all-too-common dynamic of blaming that leaves you in the victim position and unable to have the relationship you want. Miki invites you to assume a stance of leadership while holding full care for both parties’ needs. No longer will you need to wait for the other person to change, nor will you need to give up your needs to reach harmony.

The preview session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 4 - 6 hours
  • Production Date 04/17/2015
  • Premium Members Premium Members
  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Audio

Sometimes there are moments when empathy has no effect at all on one another.  Why?  One reason could be that our brains might be less receptive because of unseen forces that affect our nervous system and relationship with others.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration Read Time: 10 - 15 minutes
  • Production Date 11/2017
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles
When you or anyone is upset, what could underneath it all?  There may be more than is immediately visible.  This article invites us to explore what it looks like to inquire deeper, take self-responsibility, examine our assumptions, attachments, interpretations, and "certainties" that could be hidden behind the needs that are aching to be attended to...

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 7-10 minutes
  • Production Date 10/2017
  • Premium Members n/a
  • Points 3
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles

Sometimes there are moments when empathy has no effect at all on one another.  Why?  One reason could be that our brains maybe less receptive because of unseen forces that affect our nervous system and relationship to others...

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 3 - 5 minutes
  • Production Date 10/20/2017
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles
 
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