Understanding Selfishness, Self-Responsibility, and Self-Care

Article •  Read time: 6 - 9 minutes
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Article
Read time: 6 - 9 minutes
What we refer to as "selfishness" is action taken without concern for the impact or cost of that action. Self-responsibility, on the other hand, includes actively living from the truth of interdependence, care for your and others needs, thriving of all, and more. We can access clarity of self care when we have open flexibility, curiosity, and responsiveness. Read on for more on the indicators and attributes of each of these distinctions.

Nonviolent Communication Basics

Article •  Read Time: 4 - 6 minutes
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Article
Read Time: 4 - 6 minutes
Here are some very basic forms and distinctions of NVC. It covers the 4 D's, OFNR, some NVC distinctions, tips, quotes from Marshall Rosenberg, and "feelings and needs" lists, and more. As with any art, these rudiments necessarily must be learned, practiced, understood, embodied and then let go of so as not to become rote and block creativity.

Privilege Literacy: Why we Need to Know About the Effects of Power, Privilege and Status to Live Nonviolently

Article •  Read Time: 15 - 23 minutes
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Article
Read Time: 15 - 23 minutes
Our brains make patterns out of everything to save effort. But this has consequences on both how we treat others and on our ability to live nonviolently. The more we know about our own patterns, the more choice we have. Read on to learn our most important tendencies in groups, and what we can do in response.

Needs-Based Negotiation

Trainer Tip •  1 - 2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: When we create situations that value one person’s needs at the expense of another, we open the door for someone to lose. Instead, look to see if you can speak openly and honestly, value the other person’s needs, and create solutions that value all stakeholder needs.


Does Anyone Deserve Anything?

Article •  Read time: 13 - 20 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 13 - 20 minutes
Our world trains us to think in terms of providing for everyone’s needs because they deserve it, earned it, or they possess the resources -- it's fair, socially just, supports equality or because people have rights. Instead, can we step outside this worldview to look at providing for everyone’s needs because those needs exist -- can we hold this basic reverence for life? Are we able to have a needs-based dialogue when such a reframe could alienate those who live in the worldview of earn/deserve?

What Do You Deserve? And Do You Really Want to Deserve Anything?

Article •  Read time: 5 - 8 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 5 - 8 minutes
We can trick ourselves into keeping the status quo, feeling unworthy, and blocking access to critical awareness necessary that allows for new creative solutions to emerge -- when we think in terms of who has "earned" or “deserved” what.

The Four D's of Disconnection

Learning Tool •  1 page
Introductory Skill Level
Learning Tool
1 page
Learn to recognize four forms of thinking and speaking that are likely to lead to disconnection.

 
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