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When someone offers continual unsoliticed feedback or advice, setting a boundary may not be easy if you care about how they might hear you. And if you don't set a boundary, you may eventually become resentful and say something you regret. Instead, here are six ways to respond, with varying degrees of effectiveness.
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- Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
- Duration Read time: 6-9 minutes
- Production Date 1/2020
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Working for racial justice is a shift in perspective—a shift in understanding and empathy that leads to a change in our actions: to listen instead of talk, to follow instead of lead, to yield rather than dominate. And to accept that I will continue to mess up. Part of working to undo racism is having the humility to know when our own understanding is limited. Read on for more this, and how it relates to meditation -- plus personal and collective liberation.
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- Skill Level All Skill Levels
- Duration Read time:5 - 8 minutes
- Production Date 06/2020
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- Points 2
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- Black Lives Matter
- social change
- ally
- Justice
- racism
- Privilege blindness
- privilege
- white privilege
- All Skill Levels
- Advanced Skill Level
- Oren J Sofer
- Oren
- Sofer
- Oren Jay Sofer
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- social justice
- white centering
- humility
- defensive
- white fragility
- white guilt
- meditation
- listening
- presence
- mistakes
- misunderstandings
- microaggression
- feedback
- impact
- white supremacy
- intentions
- society
- marginalization
- liberation
- equity
People find confrontation inspirational when done with full compassion and intention to support. To do this, transform your own judgments or distress, come with useful content plus spot-on timing, and the best interests of the receiver in mind. Read on for questions you can ask yourself in preparation for this, and more.
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- Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
- Duration Read time: 7 - 10 minutes
- Production Date 11/2010
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Trainer Tip: To reduce defensiveness and hurt feelings when talking to your partner about your sexual needs that haven't been met, keep the conversation focused on your needs, not her lack of skill, and make a very specific request. From there, you can both explore any shared needs, blocks, or support needed to bring you both closer to your needs.
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- Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
- Duration Read time: 1-2 minutes
- Production Date 10/2005
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- Points 2
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A big part of why receiving feedback is so challenging is because so few people around us know how to give feedback untainted with criticism, judgment, or our personal upset. But, if we wait for others to offer us usable, digestible, manageable feedback, we will not likely receive sufficient feedback for our growth and learning. Instead, we can grow in our capacity to fish the pearl that’s buried within. Here are three specific suggestions for how.
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- Skill Level All Skill Levels
- Duration Read time: 5 - 7 minutes
- Production Date 05/2010
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This 5-session telecourse recording is designed to support you in learning what makes giving and receiving feedback challenging and how you can turn these experiences into opportunities for learning, connection, and effective functioning.
The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.
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- Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
- Duration 8 - 11 hours
- Production Date 02/08/2011
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- Points 1
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- feedback
- commitment
- courage
- fierceness
- Integrity
- purpose
- enemy images
- vulnerability
- collaboration
- Intermediate Skill Level
- choice
- peace
- workplace
- relationships
- listening
- connection
- compassion
- strategies
- requests
- needs
- honesty
- consciousness
- Miki Kashtan
- Miki
- Mikki
- Kashtan
- complete course
- first session free
Trainer Tip: Notice an opportunity today to use honesty as a means to connect with someone else. Consider what type of honesty might stimulate pain in others.
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- Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
- Duration Read time: 1-2 minutes
- Production Date 10/2005
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What can we do when someone tells us we're contributing to a pattern we're genuinely not seeing (nor experiencing)? What makes these patterns visible to some people but not others? This article addresses these things by talking about what to factor in when receiving feedback; handling feedback; responding relationally; paying attention to social location; considering impact; plus, broadening our perspective to bring in greater care and awareness.
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- Skill Level All Skill Levels
- Duration Read time: 5 - 8 minutes
- Production Date 08/2018
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- Points 2
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- Intermediate Skill Level
- Roxanne Manning
- Roxanne
- Manning
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- Beginner Skill Level
- Roxy Manning
- Roxy
- Advanced Skill Level
- equity
- Privilege blindness
- social location
- feedback
- consideration
- responding relationally
- inclusivity
- responding to minorities
- privilege
- lack of awareness
- marginalized groups
When we don't like what someone is saying to us, sometimes people encourage us to hear their needs, and "not take it personally" -- and we're inclined to agree. Could "not taking it personally" close our hearts and awareness to others, life and ourselves? Rachelle Lamb invites us to take a closer look at what it's like when we attend to the situation from our hearts, and skillfully reflect upon our actions with tenderness.
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- Skill Level All Skill Levels
- Duration Read time: 10 - 15 minutes
- Production Date 04/2018
- Premium Members n/a
- Points 5
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- Rachelle Lamb
- Rachelle
- Lamb
- avoidant attachment
- interdependence
- social responsibility
- relationship
- individualism
- silo mentality
- criticism
- feedback
- defensiveness
- shadow
- care for impact
- judgement
- consideration
- hearing needs
- hard to hear messages
- interconnectedness
- responding relationally
- closed heart
- open heart
- questioning NVC
- responsiveness
- All Skill Levels
- Beginner Skill Level
- Intermediate Skill Level
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It can be challenging to tell people that you don’t like a certain behaviour or action of theirs. Even with supportive intentions and compassionate language your message might be difficult for someone to receive. Of course, we are not responsible for others’ reactions, but we are responsible to care about each other, and there are effective ways to express ourselves with more care.
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- Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
- Duration 1 page
- Production Date 01/2016
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- Points 1
- Multi Trainer Num 1
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