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Trainer Tip: Be aware of opportunities today to choose empathizing over arguing with someone who is angry, and notice how it affects your ability to resolve the situation. Read on for more.
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- Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
- Duration Read time: 1-2 minutes
- Production Date 10/2005
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- Points 2
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Getting "feel good" empathy can become an addiction. Even to the point of seeing people who don't offer empathy as "not being NVC". Rachelle urges us to notice how this view of NVC can be seductive, and even dangerous. In this article, she explains how we can expand our compassionate awareness when we go beyond equating NVC with harmony and empathy. She asks us to become more open to noticing others' experiences even if it challenges our personal and collective belief systems -- and especially when it upsets us to consider it.
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- Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
- Duration Read time: 10 - 15 minutes
- Production Date 03/2018
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- Points 4
- Multi Trainer Num 1
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- empathy
- NVC myth
- misconceptions
- questioning NVC culture
- myths
- status quo
- confrontation
- interdependence
- interconnectedness
- responding relationally
- hearing needs
- care for impact
- receptivity
- ineffective NVC
- relationship blocks
- resistance
- hard to hear messages
- social responsibility
- society
- care for the whole
- receiving feedback
- questioning the status quo
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When we don't like what someone is saying to us, sometimes people encourage us to hear their needs, and "not take it personally" -- and we're inclined to agree. Could "not taking it personally" close our hearts and awareness to others, life and ourselves? Rachelle Lamb invites us to take a closer look at what it's like when we attend to the situation from our hearts, and skillfully reflect upon our actions with tenderness.
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- Skill Level All Skill Levels
- Duration Read time: 10 - 15 minutes
- Production Date 04/2018
- Premium Members n/a
- Points 5
- Multi Trainer Num 1
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- Rachelle Lamb
- Rachelle
- Lamb
- avoidant attachment
- interdependence
- social responsibility
- relationship
- individualism
- silo mentality
- criticism
- feedback
- defensiveness
- shadow
- care for impact
- judgement
- consideration
- hearing needs
- hard to hear messages
- interconnectedness
- responding relationally
- closed heart
- open heart
- questioning NVC
- responsiveness
- All Skill Levels
- Beginner Skill Level
- Intermediate Skill Level
- Advanced Skill Level