When does identifying our or others' needs become a coping mechanism that hides the real problems that go unaddressed, and thereby reinforcing problems?  This article zooms out to take a look at how dealing with our needs in the absence of the larger picture can inadvertertly support unhealthy ways of operating, rather than become a healthy solution.  It asks us to see what could be hidden -- both on the personal and societal levels.

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  • Date Written/Produced 04/2018
  • Duration Read time: 7 - 11 minutes
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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Points 4
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles
Getting "feel good" empathy can become an addiction. Even to the point of seeing people who don't offer empathy as "not being NVC". Rachelle urges us to notice how this view of NVC can be seductive, and even dangerous. In this article, she explains how we can expand our compassionate awareness when we go beyond equating NVC with harmony and empathy. She asks us to become more open to noticing others' experiences even if it challenges our personal and collective belief systems -- and especially when it upsets us to consider it.

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  • Date Written/Produced 03/2018
  • Duration Read time: 10 - 15 minutes
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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Points 8
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles
This ten question exercise will help build your feelings vocabulary. It is helpful to differentiate between words that describe what we think others are doing around us, and words that describe actual feelings. These "faux feelings" often reveal more about how we think others are behaving than what we are actually feeling ourselves. Feeling words are always about us, not the other person.

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  • Date Written/Produced 09/11/2018
  • Duration 10 minutes
  • Premium Members n/a
  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Points 3
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Practice Exercises
Test your skills and have some fun with the NVC Game!

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  • Production Date 10/10/2015
  • Completion Time 15 minutes
  • Access Access this resource
  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Points 3
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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