Library Resources with responding relationally
What can we do when someone tells us we're contributing to a pattern we're genuinely not seeing (nor experiencing)? What makes these patterns visible to some people but not others? This article addresses these things by talking about what to factor in when receiving feedback; handling feedback; responding relationally; paying attention to social location; considering impact; plus, broadening our perspective to bring in greater care and awareness.
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- Skill Level All Skill Levels
- Duration Read time: 5 - 8 minutes
- Production Date 08/2018
- Premium Members N/A
- Points 2
- Multi Trainer Num 1
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- Intermediate Skill Level
- Roxanne Manning
- Roxanne
- Manning
- All Skill Levels
- Beginner Skill Level
- Roxy Manning
- Roxy
- Advanced Skill Level
- equity
- Privilege blindness
- social location
- feedback
- consideration
- responding relationally
- inclusivity
- responding to minorities
- privilege
- lack of awareness
- marginalized groups
Getting "feel good" empathy can become an addiction. Even to the point of seeing people who don't offer empathy as "not being NVC". Rachelle urges us to notice how this view of NVC can be seductive, and even dangerous. In this article, she explains how we can expand our compassionate awareness when we go beyond equating NVC with harmony and empathy. She asks us to become more open to noticing others' experiences even if it challenges our personal and collective belief systems -- and especially when it upsets us to consider it.
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- Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
- Duration Read time: 10 - 15 minutes
- Production Date 03/2018
- Premium Members n/a
- Points 4
- Multi Trainer Num 1
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- Rachelle Lamb
- Rachelle
- Lamb
- empathy
- NVC myth
- misconceptions
- questioning NVC culture
- myths
- status quo
- confrontation
- interdependence
- interconnectedness
- responding relationally
- hearing needs
- care for impact
- receptivity
- ineffective NVC
- relationship blocks
- resistance
- hard to hear messages
- social responsibility
- society
- care for the whole
- receiving feedback
- questioning the status quo
- Beginner Skill Level
- Intermediate Skill Level
- Advanced Skill Level
- silent empathy
Could our "need for autonomy" be getting in the way of "partnership consciousness" (as NVC is sometimes called). Could "autonomy" also block healthy relationships with not only ourselves and with others, but also with the planet? This article invites us to consider how "autonomy" may colour our NVC practice at the peril of our critical values. Values such as our care for impact, shared responsibility, interdependence, compassion, consideration, and more...
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- Skill Level All Skill Levels
- Duration Read time: 8 - 12 minutes
- Production Date 01/2018
- Premium Members n/a
- Points 3
- Multi Trainer Num 1
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- Lamb
- Rachelle
- Rachelle Lamb
- responding relationally
- interconnectedness
- web of life
- partnership
- partnership consciousness
- togetherness
- shared needs
- shared responsibility
- healthy relationship
- care for impact
- autonomy
- consideration
- silo mentality
- individualism
- avoidant attachment
- closed heart
- questioning NVC
- questioning NVC culture
- NVC myth
- doing NVC vs being NVC
- dominant culture
- status quo
- relationship blocks
- care for the whole
- earth sustainability
- planetary sustainability
- interdependence
- self centered
- anthropocentric
- human centered
- questioning the status quo
- Introductory Skill Level
- Beginner Skill Level
- Intermediate Skill Level
- Advanced Skill Level
- All Skill Levels
- selfish
When we don't like what someone is saying to us, sometimes people encourage us to hear their needs, and "not take it personally" -- and we're inclined to agree. Could "not taking it personally" close our hearts and awareness to others, life and ourselves? Rachelle Lamb invites us to take a closer look at what it's like when we attend to the situation from our hearts, and skillfully reflect upon our actions with tenderness.
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- Skill Level All Skill Levels
- Duration Read time: 10 - 15 minutes
- Production Date 04/2018
- Premium Members n/a
- Points 5
- Multi Trainer Num 1
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- Rachelle Lamb
- Rachelle
- Lamb
- avoidant attachment
- interdependence
- social responsibility
- relationship
- individualism
- silo mentality
- criticism
- feedback
- defensiveness
- shadow
- care for impact
- judgement
- consideration
- hearing needs
- hard to hear messages
- interconnectedness
- responding relationally
- closed heart
- open heart
- questioning NVC
- responsiveness
- All Skill Levels
- Beginner Skill Level
- Intermediate Skill Level
- Advanced Skill Level