Library Resources with self sabotage

In healing reactivity try identifying your most common complaints, wishes, or requests. Or when you tend to defend, justify, get angry, or protect. Find the tender needs. You can recall when you experienced deep nourishment of that need. Several times a week nourish your tender needs. Be clear about the strategy to address needs by answering key questions. Read on for more.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 3-5 minutes
  • Date Written/Produced 6/2018
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  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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Trainer Tip: What do you value the most? Take a look at your actions and notice the values that your actions demonstrate (not what you want them to show, but what they do show), and see if they are in alignment.   Where there is a gap take steps to create actions that are in alignment with your values

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 1-2 minutes
  • Date Written/Produced 10/2005
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Trainer Tips
Trainer Tip: We often find ourselves slipping into old behaviors that we would rather change. This is because we don’t have a new plan for responding to the same old situations. In that case, notice whether you are slipping into old behaviors today. Connect to your unmet needs and then identify a new strategy for the situation.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 1-2 minutes
  • Date Written/Produced 10/2005
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Trainer Tips
Trainer Tip: Find your deepest need. Then notice when you do things, or have done things, that keep you from meeting your most important need. And then take conscious action that is in alignment with the need you want to meet.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 1-2 minutes
  • Date Written/Produced 10/2005
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Trainer Tips
For each reactive pattern there is a perceived threat to a tender need. Knowing these tender needs helps us figure out how to interrupt these patterns and creating new ways of perceiving and relating to life. In addition to knowing the need, knowing the healing response and the primary reactive behavior helps with transformation.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 6-9 minutes
  • Date Written/Produced 2/2018
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 4
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles
When we have an inner conflict, how can we bring ourselves closer where we want to be? Miki explains about how we can deepen our self understanding in a way that can transform our own reactivity, urges, and false either/or views -- so that we can bring in more presence, choice, and options.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 13 - 19 minutes
  • Date Written/Produced 10/2015
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 12
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles
When building successful relationships, it can be very helpful to see yourself as a collection of different inner parts that developed due to various life experiences. Without empathy and acknowledgment, our inner parts tend to work against us. That's when we're called upon to build and develop our inner leadership...

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  • Skill Level All Skill Levels
  • Duration Read time: 2 - 3 minutes
  • Date Written/Produced 11/2018
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Trainer Tips
 
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