social changeIn the Spotlight:
Social Change

Personally, I heard Marshall repeatedly speak of his vision and desire to see NVC as a form of social change (for examples, see the two interviews I conducted with him for The Cleveland Free Times and The Sun magazine). He also repeatedly referenced books such as Walter Wink's The Powers that Be and Rianne Eisler's, The Chalice and the Blade, both of which concern power in human society, how it has shifted over thousands of years, and how (in the case of Wink's book) civil disobedience is a nonviolent challenge of power and its "habits" and structures.

For Marshall, I believe the compelling question for him was: How can all people and all beings' needs matter and be held with care? As part of this (as illustrated by the book references above), he questioned and even challenged hierarchal structures, power over, and societal norms and expectations where power resided (his referring–with his characteristic humor—to corporations as "gangs" is one example of this). "Power-over" is a "label" or term that Marshall used repeatedly. This is what I see "privilege" referencing: "power-over" patterns on a societal level in how we relate to each other and all life.

That he decided to call the practice he developed "Nonviolent Communication" and saw NVC as a direct extension of Gandhi's principles, is the ultimate example of his views and intentions. I don't think I need to remind anyone that Gandhi was focused on civil disobedience, a radical way of practicing compassion to challenge power and power-over. Marshall saw NVC as an extension of these principles. In effect, NVC is Rosenberg's "experiment" in direct action every day, in each conversation and interaction.

—Dian Killian

It's not enough that we believe that if we purify the self, energy will radiate to take care of things. I agree... it's simply not enough. I remember 15 years ago thanking Marshall for creating this wonderful tool for personal growth and transformation. I remember his response, "I want NVC to be used for social change." I still vividly remember that conversation .. and how awkward I felt that I didn't quite grasp the vision he had. I still don't know if I do, but I feel much closer to it now though than I ever have.

—Rachelle Lamb
Stephanie Bachmann Mattei

Stephanie Bachmann Mattei

CNVC Certified Trainer from Land O Lakes, Florida

Stephanie Bachmann Mattei, the mother of 3 children (biological and adopted), was born and raised in Italy, where she earned her Bachelor in Languages and a PhD in Philosophy. Stephanie moved to the USA in 1993 after marrying her husband.

Stephanie is a certified trainer and assessor with the Center for Nonviolent Communication ( as well as a 200hr certified Yoga teacher and Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction - MBSR qualified teacher.   Her core intertwined themes in life are spirituality, parenting, and healing. She is passionate to share her understanding of NVC as a process to empower oneself and others to celebrate the humanity in one's own being, and to encounter the humanity in the other person. In the words of Dr. Bruce Perry, "Being born human does not ensure being humane." 

NVC offers transformational processes to support the journey from human to humane by providing clear tools for healing and reconciliation of warring parts within our psyche, for emerging into our wholeness, for consistently re-connecting with our authenticity, and for practicing the gift of mindful and compassionate presence for ourselves and others.

Parenting is one of Stephanie's niches. Parenting, being a major way of transmitting our unconscious wounds as well as our conditioning to social and cultural blueprints, becomes a powerful and far-reaching tool for social transformation. As Gandhi proclaimed: "If we want to change the world we shall start with the children." 

On the practical level, this led Stephanie to serve for over 10 years as a volunteer leader with La Leche League International. In 2006, Stephanie graduated from the "Parent Peer Leadership Program" ( ) -a program of the Peaceful Families Peaceful World Project of the International Center for Nonviolent Communication and BayNVC. She has been serving in this program as an assistant first and as a co-trainer since 2009. 

Aware of the specific challenges and joys of raising an adopted child, Stephanie also offers  NVC-based workshops and coaching to adoptive families. 

In Stephanie's experience, parenting inevitably ends up being a call to integrate our unprocessed experiences and to bring healing to ourselves. To that respect, Stephanie loves tying NVC with mindfulness-based neuroscience to support self-understanding, healing, and wholeness.

Stephanie is also one of the assessors of the CALF Program -Candidates Active Learning Forum-, ( serving candidates in the USA and other English speaking countries. Being Italian she also wholeheartedly serves candidates of NVC community in Italy.

NVC Library Resources with Stephanie Bachmann Mattei

Practice leads to change of consciousness! Enjoy an MBSR guided practice with Stephanie Bachmann Mattei: STOP = Stop, Take a few mindful breaths, Observe, and Proceed. Listen.
CNVC Certified Trainer Stephanie Bachmann Mattei leads you through an 8 minute meditation designed to develop a more integrated body and feelings/needs awareness.
Parenting can bring out the worst in us. Let's learn to meet the challenges of parenting with awareness, self-compassion and a spirit of inquiry, and explore a few practices to regain self-regulation, choice and freedom, staying anchored in the realization that as human beings we do have the capacity to respond with discernment rather than habitual reactivity.
CNVC Certified Trainer Stephanie Bachmann Mattei explores the biological basis of our inner jackal voices.
In this stimulating audio recording, Stephanie Mattei covers several "hot" parenting topics such as: boundary issues, strategy resilience, how to shift your right/wrong mentality and understanding the concept of fairness. While unraveling these topics, Stephanie intersperses some practical neuroscience around brain regulation and brain-wise conflict prevention.
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