Martha Lasley

Martha Lasley

CNVC Certified Trainer from Ithaca, New Yourk, USA

Martha Lasley, MBA, is a founding partner of Leadership that Works, an organization that trains and coaches visionaries for social change. She works with movers, shakers and changemakers to support profound personal and organizational transformation. Her passion is integrating coaching, facilitating, and Nonviolent Communication in organizations.

She has authored three books: Coaching for Transformation, Facilitating with Heart, and Courageous Visions. For ten years she was on the faculty at Capella University where she taught MBA courses including: Coaching and Developing Others; Facilitating Change; Leveraging Workplace Diversity; and Teambuilding.

As a certified trainer for the Center for Nonviolent Communication, she has had the privilege of leading many International Intensive Trainings with Marshall Rosenberg, and serves on the CNVC International Intensive Training Resource Team.

With a lot of humility, Martha is part of Showing up for Racial Justice, a group that moves white folks into accountable action through community organizing, mobilizing, and education. Each month she hosts the meetings for Coaches for Equality and Diversity, a community of coaches who have a passion for understanding and addressing equality and diversity dynamics. One of her greatest pleasures is leading Authentic Communication Groups, where folks use Nonviolent Communication and Internal Family Systems to explore power dynamics, give and receive real feedback and offer empathic support.

Website: Leadership That Works

With coaching or counselling clients, their resistance can show up as “bracing against” something. But if we push back against their resistance, we miss noticing what they're protecting or embracing. By going into resistance clients build awareness and often shift when they get clear about their underlying needs, and new choices. Some clients don’t shift even after we’ve tried everything. In that case, read on to learn about Frank Farrelly's "provocative therapy".
How can we respond when we’re horrified by what someone says? How can we deepen our connection to our humanness and authenticity when the impact is hurtful? Read on to see examples of the three steps of "calling out", "calling in", and "calling forth".
A challenge is an expansion of making a clear, positive doable request — and, when given, the person feels deeply seen by the challenger. A challenge isn't just about getting someone to take action on something important to them; it's a fierce form of empathy that supports people in connecting with their life force, and integrates it into their lives with action. A real challenge is tied to the receiver's goals, passions and dreams -- and expands their potential.
If we are in the dominant group, intervening to prevent violence or an "ouch" is a way to ally with marginalized folks. We can intervene to meet their needs, rather than our own. In other words, we can intervene without putting our experience at center stage. To that end, here are six ways to ask if an intervention is welcome.
It's never too late to have a happy childhood. In this class, Martha will share the process for witnessing a wounded child. She will work with a volunteer to demonstrate the power of creating safety, listening empathically, and honoring the child's deepest needs.
Martha firmly believes in the old adage, "It's never too late to have a happy childhood." Why? Because your wounded child carries all your burdens, and can tell you exactly what they need in order to find healing! Listen.
As a child, holding onto old and painful messages may have been necessary for your survival. Now that you’re an adult, however, you can learn how to re-orient yourself and give yourself the gift of that happy childhood. How? Through empathic listening, reparenting, and unburdening! If you’re a wounded healer who’s willing to dive into the deepest of all emotions — to witness the tender experiences you’ve never before dared to feel — this course offers you a whole new world.
In our internal conversations, some voices dominate others, which can leave us feeling fragmented or overwhelmed. But when we dive beneath the surface and really listen to our many parts, we connect vulnerably to our full humanity.
Connection Central: Nonviolent Communication Articles (NVC)
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