NVC resources that include teachings about the interdependence
Rachelle Lamb

Rachelle Lamb

CNVC Certified Trainer from Victoria, British Columbia, Canada

Rachelle Lamb is the president of Mindful Communication based in Victoria, BC, Canada. Her lifelong interest in personal development and relationship dynamics, along with her ability to address the unique needs of her audiences, consistently produces powerful learning experiences.

Rachelle's interest in communication became a primary focus in 2000 when she met author and international peacemaker, Dr. Marshall Rosenberg. She found Rosenberg’s Nonviolent Communication (NVC) process to be so transformational that she trained with Dr. Rosenberg and was later certified in 2002 by the Center for Nonviolent Communication.

Rachelle is a senior CNVC Certified Trainer in Canada. She has been interviewed by newspapers, radio and television and has been invited to co-train at International Intensive Trainings (IIT) with Dr. Rosenberg. She is the author and publisher of ’Steps To Conscious Living' (2000) and NVC Communication Basics: A Concise Overview of Nonviolent Communication (2003).

She is available for keynotes and in-house trainings.

Website: Mindful Communication

The Four Responses Exercise

You can use this exercise for NVC workshops or trainings to provide participants with a glimpse of the impact of their responses on others, and to learn a new way of communicating. Print it off on standard paper or postcard stock, then cut across the middle.
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Needs & Feelings List

This two page learning tool contains lists of needs, feelings, faux feelings, and feelings that might be mixed with thoughts...
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Four Steps of Nonviolent Communication

This is 2 pages. The first page summarizes each of the four steps of the NVC model and the second page describes the ways in which our language alienates us from ourselves and each other.
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Things We Know and Forget

Here's a list of 13 reminders to help you prepare for a challenging dialogue...
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Guiding Questions

These guiding questions will help you review your motives and approach before engaging in especially important conversations. Carry it with you, share it with the other person if possible, and make a decision to stay on track instead of getting pulled into old speaking and listening habits that aren't working.
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Why Do I Feel Depressed?

When does identifying our or others' needs become a coping mechanism that hides the real problems that go unaddressed, and thereby reinforcing problems?  This article zooms out to take a look at how dealing with our needs in the absence of the larger picture can inadvertertly support unhealthy ways of operating, rather than become a healthy solution.  It asks us to see what could be hidden -- both on the personal and societal levels.
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Compassion: Mature, Astute & Courageous

Getting "feel good" empathy can become an addiction. Even to the point of seeing people who don't offer empathy as "not being NVC". Rachelle urges us to notice how this view of NVC can be seductive, and even dangerous. In this article, she explains how we can expand our compassionate awareness when we go beyond equating NVC with harmony and empathy. She asks us to become more open to noticing others' experiences even if it challenges our personal and collective belief systems -- and especially when it upsets us to consider it.
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The Shadow Side of Autonomy

Could our "need for autonomy" be getting in the way of "partnership consciousness" (as NVC is sometimes called). Could "autonomy" also block healthy relationships with not only ourselves and with others, but also with the planet? This article invites us to consider how "autonomy" may colour our NVC practice at the peril of our critical values. Values such as our care for impact, shared responsibility, interdependence, compassion, consideration, and more...

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Don't Take It Personally

When we don't like what someone is saying to us, sometimes people encourage us to hear their needs, and "not take it personally" -- and we're inclined to agree.  Could "not taking it personally" close our hearts and awareness to others, life and ourselves?  Rachelle Lamb invites us to take a closer look at what it's like when we attend to the situation from our hearts, and skillfully reflect upon our actions with tenderness.
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Marshall Rosenberg's Vision of Social Change

What could be, more often than not, overlooked when we think about or represent NVC or Marshall Rosenberg's work?  This article busts some commonly held ideas and approaches to NVC.  It challenges us to widen the lens of what it really means to be "life-serving", or speaking and hearing the "language of life".  And it also speaks to how thinking can deepen feeling and relatedness...

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