Roxy Manning

Roxy Manning

CNVC Certified Trainer from San Francisco, California, USA

Roxy’s life experience as an Afro-Caribbean immigrant combined with her academic training and professional work as a licensed clinical psychologist and CNVC Certified Trainer have cultivated a deep passion in her for work that supports social change, whether that’s with individuals, couples, or institutions.

As a facilitator, she’s thrilled by the process of holding opposing voices and ushering groups from discord towards values-driven solutions that work for everyone. Her own inner work coupled with her professional experience has grown her capacity to meet people with varying levels of education, disparate life experiences, and the most intense feelings in ways that help them feel heard, respected, supported and loved. She has worked with individuals and groups committed to social justice in Sri Lanka, Japan, The Netherlands, and Thailand. Roxy also consulted with businesses, nonprofits, and academic institutions and government organizations around the U.S., wanting to move towards equitable and diverse hiring practices and workplace cultures.

Roxy brought Nonviolent Communication into her psychotherapy practice in 2003, and has been offering classes and workshops in NVC since 2005. She served as the Executive Director of BayNVC from 2014-2017, was a trainer for BayNVC’s NVC Leadership Program from 2008-2017, and has been a trainer for the Nonviolent Leadership for Social Justice Retreat since she co-founded it in 2007. She served as an elected member of the Center for Nonviolent Communication’s Implementation Council from 2017 – 2018, where she collaborated with other experienced NVC practitioners tasked with reinventing CNVC’s communication, and moving the organization’s decision-making structures toward effective democratization and connection to the NVC community worldwide.   As a psychologist, Roxy maintains a private therapy practice, and works with the City and County of San Francisco’s Disability Evaluation and Consultation Unit, serving the homeless and disenfranchised mentally ill population.

Read some of Roxy’s articles on her website here: http://www.roxannemanning.com/musings/

Website: BayNVC

When conflict or criticism occurs, we can notice two layers of meaning to create connection: the content and the needs the speaker is holding. When we are able to recognize this --and ideally engage open-heartedly, with curiosity, make clear requests, imagining what they want, no matter how their expression was framed -- we have more opportunity to support the longevity of our relationships, and to decrease our loneliness when together.
The existing unequal risks and impacts people of certain race, class and identities face in society is magnified in these strenuous times -- especially with things such as illness, financial well being, discrimination, attacks, and death. As responsive NVC practitioners we can stand in solidarity with those who are differentially impacted. Read on for this, and additional ways to spot common pitfalls of doing so.
Amidst racial violence, there are things that NVC can offer. And there are places where NVC culture needs to be more vigilant. Here are examples of where, amidst incredible loss and pain, "allies" and communities commonly (and often unknowingly) create false equivalences, minimization and re-injure those who've been historically marginalized -- even when they offer empathy, or aim to stay "safe". Read on to cultivate greater understanding and ways to respond differently.
"All humans share the same needs" -- tragically, this idea can hide the reality that some people with less power in society have needs that go unmet to a greater extent, much longer, and with more dire consequences. Often, when the marginalized bring up experiences related to their membership in a certain group, their pain isn't acknowledged, and focus shifts to the listener's discomfort. The concept of universal human needs can be used to silence and minimize their pain. Read on for how to proceed.
  • Explore the relationship between personal healing and social change
  • Gain a fuller understanding of power and privilege
  • Clarify the difference between equity and equality
  • Learn how to navigate social issues with deeper love and compassion
  • Create effective, equitable processes in your community
Listen to Roxy expand our notion of making observations.

With humility, tenderness, and courage, Roxy challenges your perspectives and encourages you to open your heart and mind. Roxy uses concrete examples and visual tools to illustrate complex concepts.

When someone's in immense pain and uses words that are hard to hear, see if you can bring in as much compassion as you would to someone who was cut with a sword. Focusing on what's important to them, and not so much on how it was said. This may support greater understanding and healing. Otherwise, we risk prioritizing needs, norms, and inequities of the dominant culture, over caring for people who bear the invisible brunt of such norms.

Finding ways of connecting across differences can be challenging and confusing — Join Roxanne Manning for an exploration and discussion of the concepts she's found helpful for navigating these kinds of difficult situations and enrich your life!

Want to increase diversity, plus improve group dynamics and group functioning? There are things you can do to make NVC settings more welcoming to people of color. Learn more about how to use NVC; attend to impact; help the community understand and demonstrate more awareness; factor in historical context; engage; create a more inclusive climate; and more!

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