social changeIn the Spotlight:
Social Change

Personally, I heard Marshall repeatedly speak of his vision and desire to see NVC as a form of social change (for examples, see the two interviews I conducted with him for The Cleveland Free Times and The Sun magazine). He also repeatedly referenced books such as Walter Wink's The Powers that Be and Rianne Eisler's, The Chalice and the Blade, both of which concern power in human society, how it has shifted over thousands of years, and how (in the case of Wink's book) civil disobedience is a nonviolent challenge of power and its "habits" and structures.

For Marshall, I believe the compelling question for him was: How can all people and all beings' needs matter and be held with care? As part of this (as illustrated by the book references above), he questioned and even challenged hierarchal structures, power over, and societal norms and expectations where power resided (his referring–with his characteristic humor—to corporations as "gangs" is one example of this). "Power-over" is a "label" or term that Marshall used repeatedly. This is what I see "privilege" referencing: "power-over" patterns on a societal level in how we relate to each other and all life.

That he decided to call the practice he developed "Nonviolent Communication" and saw NVC as a direct extension of Gandhi's principles, is the ultimate example of his views and intentions. I don't think I need to remind anyone that Gandhi was focused on civil disobedience, a radical way of practicing compassion to challenge power and power-over. Marshall saw NVC as an extension of these principles. In effect, NVC is Rosenberg's "experiment" in direct action every day, in each conversation and interaction.

—Dian Killian

It's not enough that we believe that if we purify the self, energy will radiate to take care of things. I agree... it's simply not enough. I remember 15 years ago thanking Marshall for creating this wonderful tool for personal growth and transformation. I remember his response, "I want NVC to be used for social change." I still vividly remember that conversation .. and how awkward I felt that I didn't quite grasp the vision he had. I still don't know if I do, but I feel much closer to it now though than I ever have.

—Rachelle Lamb
Ingrid Bauer

Ingrid Bauer

CNVC Certified Trainer from Saltspring Island, British Columbia, Canada

Ingrid Bauer has been teaching and writing extensively about compassionate parenting since 1997. When she discovered Nonviolent Communication (NVC) in 2000, she was thrilled to find a practice that supported her desire to live compassion and grow world peace from the roots by addressing how we raise and interact with children, and how we practice peace in creating communities that nourish and care for each individual. For this reason, and as a mother of four children aged 2 to 24 years, she is dedicated to sharing NVC with parents and families. Much of her work addresses this arena.

Ingrid is a CNVC Certified Trainer and a graduate of the BayNVC Leadership Program. Since 2006, she has been leading the Parent Peer Leadership Program, part of the joint CNVC and BayNVC Peaceful Families, Peaceful World Project, initially created by Inbal Kashtan. She offers workshops, telecourses, retreats and family camps internationally, with a special focus on parenting and leadership training. She also offers private counseling and parent coaching. Ingrid lives with her family on Saltspring Island on Canada’s west coast.

Website: Ingrid's Web page

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NVC Library Resources with Ingrid Bauer

Ingrid shares about the three primary keys of parenting & NVC, two child rearing models, developmental needs for children and how to foster secure attachment.
As parents, we often face challenging situations on a daily basis and struggle to create what we most long for. In this 6 session telecourse recording, you will learn how Nonviolent Communication can support a family culture where cooperation, trust, and peace are nurtured, and children and parents can flourish together.
Children need our love, unconditional acceptance, and care, else they’ll chase after it by acting out. Listen in as Ingrid shares activities that support the practice of engaging in connective behavior.
This 3-part telecourse recording explores what it means to practice “power with” parenting with babies, toddlers and preschoolers. Ingrid has been teaching and writing about very young children for a decade and has a special passion for this age range.
Ingrid guides parents to navigate everyday parenting challenges using the NVC model, such as the behavior of a frustrated child, a messy room, transition times and a child who collapses when things don't work out as she had hoped.
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