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In the Spotlight: Grief, Mourning & Loss


Without the capacity to mourn, we distance ourselves from our personal losses. From loss of relationships, of important people from our lives and our world. From loss of our dreams. From loss of our physical abilities and capacities. From loss of places that meant something dear to us. We cannot distance ourselves from loss without separating from life itself.
—Kristin Masters

Need a little help unearthing feelings or issues that have gotten tangled up with grief or loss? Check out Kristin Masters' gentle, healing telecourse, Dealing with Loss: Coming Back to Life. Her tender words may help you work through what is blocking your grief. All may listen to and enjoy the first session of this course. Listen just below...

Mary Mackenzie

Mary Mackenzie

CNVC Certified Trainer from Long Beach, California, USA

Mary Mackenzie, M.A., is an author, trained mediator, and CNVC Certified Trainer of Nonviolent Communication. She holds a master's degree in human relations from Northern Arizona University and is the co-founder of the NVC Academy, the only online school for learning Nonviolent Communication.

Mary teaches Nonviolent Communication and other spiritually-based programs to individuals, couples, families, organizations, and spiritual communities through a wide variety of workshops and retreats. Her book Peaceful Living: Daily Meditations for Living with Love, Healing and Compassion offers inspiring practical methods for creating peace in our everyday lives.

As a pioneer of online NVC training, Mary runs her company in harmony with what she teaches. She and NVC Academy co-founder, Mark Schultz, paved the way to NVC online training in 2006 and have been instrumental in alleviating the financial and geographical barriers to learning NVC skills.

One of her passions is facilitating critical dialogues between people, and she has spent more than 20 years learning a wide variety of effective processes she can draw on in a moment's notice. Known for her clear communication style, she is especially skilled in helping individuals within groups put aside their preferences and find ways to collaborate with each other that are in alignment with their values. Her ability to cut through the confusion in a group has helped many teams quickly move forward in their desired progress.

To reach Mary:
mary@nvcacademy.com
928.380.8077
or visit: nvcacademy.com or marymackenzie.net

NVC Library Resources with Mary Mackenzie

Be present to the life in your group even when it differs from the agenda! Learn how to pivot and meet the needs of the facilitator, of the individual, or the group – and learn how to live in the possibility that all needs can be valued, even though all needs may not always be met.
  • Interrupt in a way that increases connection
  • Minimize shame or defensiveness
  • Elevate others’ enjoyment of learning
  • Invite more joy, curiosity, and closeness into your interactions
  • Learn the complexities of intersectionality
  • Gain a deeper understanding of life experiences
  • Clear the way for a more authentic connection
  • Deepen your ability to hold others in compassion
Trainer Tip: In Nonviolent Communication, we see expressing honesty as a gift of our authenticity, and a chance for others to support us in getting our needs met -- this can flourish and deepen our relationships. We can notice and act on opportunities to be honest with the components of OFNR (Observations, Feelings, Needs, and Requests).
Trainer Tip: When we sympathize, we relate an aspect of someone’s story to ourselves. When we empathize, we reflect the feelings and needs of the other. Empathy helps people connect more deeply to their own and another’s pain, and helps resolve issues with clarity and ease. Notice when you're giving someone sympathy rather than empathy.
When we ask something of a person and threaten negative repercussions if she doesn’t comply, we're making a demand. Demands limit the possible responses and reduce joyful participation. Instead, look to find mutually satisfying resolutions. And look for ways to change your demand into a request. Read on for more.
  • Clarify and accentuate your personal teaching style
  • Gain tools for creating safety and ease in your groups
  • Learn to easily create workshop outlines and teaching activities
  • Come away with tips that will keep your workshops alive
  • Enjoy having 20 minutes in a quiet, rejuvenating, and healing space
  • Let your mind to rest and relax in a beloved community of like-minded others
  • Release any fears about your life or our world that you may be holding
  • Tenderly weave the harmonizing light of peace and quiet joy into your heart
Instead of wondering, invest time today to ask at least one friend your friendship enhances her life. Such clarification can deepen the connection.
There are endless ways to meet our needs. Conflict occurs when we argue over strategies. When we actively value everyone’s needs, we foster openness and deeper connection in our relationships. Today look for opportunities to focus on needs in order to resolve an issue with at least one person.
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