dian killian 200x250In the Spotlight: Dian Killian


Dian Killian, Ph.D., is the founder and director of Work Collaboratively and shares Collaborative Communication with organizations, groups, and individuals.

She designs and leads transformative communication trainings in the U.S., Europe, and Asia for diverse organizations including large NGOs, multinationals, non-profits, startups, and Fortune 100 companies. Her clients have included the U.N. Nations Development Program (UNDP), New York University, Merck Inc., HCL Technologies (India), Americorps, and Maryknoll Missionaries, among many others.

Dr. Killian is also a certified executive/life coach (graduate of the Coaching for Transformation program), and founder and former director of the Center for Collaborative Communication. She is the co-author of two books, Connecting Across Differences: A Guide to Compassionate, Nonviolent Communication (in English and German), and Urban Empathy: True Life Adventures of Compassion on the Streets of NY. She also publishes a blog and podcast and has been featured frequently as a guest speaker/trainer.

In addition to her work with organizations, Dian designs and leads workshops and retreats for the general public, including the International NVC Women’s Retreat, which she founded, as well as programs at the New York Open Center, Kripalu, Life Labs, the Omega Institute, and the 92nd Street Y, among others. She is also on the faculty of the NVC Academy.

Dian is also leading a live 9-month course,  The “Let’s Work Collaboratively” Coaching Program. Check it out!

Mary Mackenzie

Mary Mackenzie

CNVC Certified Trainer from Long Beach, California, USA

Mary Mackenzie, M.A., is an author, trained mediator, and CNVC Certified Trainer of Nonviolent Communication. She holds a master's degree in human relations from Northern Arizona University and is the co-founder of the NVC Academy, the only online school for learning Nonviolent Communication.

Mary teaches Nonviolent Communication and other spiritually-based programs to individuals, couples, families, organizations, and spiritual communities through a wide variety of workshops and retreats. Her book Peaceful Living: Daily Meditations for Living with Love, Healing and Compassion offers inspiring practical methods for creating peace in our everyday lives.

As a pioneer of online NVC training, Mary runs her company in harmony with what she teaches. She and NVC Academy co-founder, Mark Schultz, paved the way to NVC online training in 2006 and have been instrumental in alleviating the financial and geographical barriers to learning NVC skills.

One of her passions is facilitating critical dialogues between people, and she has spent more than 20 years learning a wide variety of effective processes she can draw on in a moment's notice. Known for her clear communication style, she is especially skilled in helping individuals within groups put aside their preferences and find ways to collaborate with each other that are in alignment with their values. Her ability to cut through the confusion in a group has helped many teams quickly move forward in their desired progress.

To reach Mary:
mary@nvcacademy.com
562.856.9417
or visit: www.nvcacademy.com or www.peaceworkshop.org 

NVC Library Resources with Mary Mackenzie

Borrowing teaching exercises from others can be fun and easy. However, when you develop your own, it deepens your learning and enables you develop your own teaching style.
Trainer Tip: What are your goals, hopes and dreams? For greater success it’s important to make your goals concrete, specific, and focused on what do you want (rather than what you don't want).
Trainer Tip: List specific things that would signify love to you. Based on who the other person is and who you are, how could your need for love be met? Being specific is important. General statements, such as “I just want you to love me” or “I would like you to be more attentive and listen to me more” won’t work. (S)he may already think (s)he is attentive. What would being attentive look like to you? And how will he know if (s)he’s been attentive enough?
Trainer Tip: Sometimes we need to empathize with a person before he can hear our anger. Consider that all anger is an expression of an unmet need. If we focus on the need, rather than the actions, we are more likely to connect compassionately with other people. Be aware of opportunities to empathize with someone’s anger today.
Trainer Tip: Acknowledge that the person’s life has been affected by your actions and enjoy the feeling of warmth you have when you contribute to a life. Try verbally acknowledging how you feel when you hear that you have enhanced her life.
Trainer Tip: Our particular needs and expectations in the moment, influences how we feel. So if you are feeling hurt, sad, angry, or disappointed, try to consider what your unmet needs are, and see if there are other ways you can get them met. Today, track how your needs affect your feelings.
Trainer Tip: Making a request is critical because it can greatly lessen any tension in the situation. Plus, it can clarify for you and the people in your life what it would take to meet your need. Make at least one specific and doable request to someone today.
Trainer Tip: What do you value the most? Take a look at your actions and notice the values that your actions demonstrate (not what you want them to show, but what they do show), and see if they are in alignment.   Where there is a gap take steps to create actions that are in alignment with your values
Do you find yourself struggling sometimes with self-empathy? Are you looking for greater clarity and ease around it? We’ve got your back. Get yourself a piece of paper and follow Mary Mackenzie through the intensive self-empathy method she calls The Mackenzie Wrap! Check it Out.
Trainer Tip: Only after we connect to our unmet need can we make sound decisions that will transform our experience. For example, if you feel bored, connect to your unmet needs (eg. need for understanding the relevance, etc) and then look for strategies that will meet them (eg. ask the speaker how this topic relates to our lives).
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