In the Spotlight: Parenting & Anger

NVC and ParentingNVC shares two key premises with attachment parenting: Human actions are motivated by attempts to meet needs, and trusting relationships are built through attentiveness to those needs. Both premises contrast with prevailing childrearing practices and with the assumptions about human beings that underlie these practices. Instead of focusing on authority and discipline, attachment parenting and NVC provide theoretical and practical grounds for nurturing compassionate, powerful, and creative children who will have resources to contribute to a peaceful society.

Marshall Rosenberg, founder and education director of the Center for Nonviolent Communication, asks parents two questions to point out the severe limitations of using power-over tactics such as reward and punishment: “What do you want the child to do?” and “What do you want the child’s reasons to be for doing so?” Do we really want our child to do something out of fear? Guilt? Shame? Obligation? Desire for reward? While helping us meet our needs without coercion, NVC also helps us resist giving in to our children’s every wish by teaching us to express our feelings, needs, and requests clearly, and to expect our needs to be considered. When we consistently express our commitment to attending to everyone’s needs–not just theirs, not just our own–we model a way of life to our children and create power with them: the power of choosing to contribute to making life more wonderful for everyone.

Listen now to part 1 of Parenting and Anger: Walking the Ultimate Path to Peace, with John Kinyon and Stephanie Bachmann Mattei  All may listen to and enjoy the first session of this course just below.

Jim & Jori Manske

Jim & Jori Manske

CNVC Certified Trainers from Maui, Hawaii, USA

For more than 41 years, Jim and Jori Manske have been partners in both in life and work. As co-creators of peaceworks, they offer training, mediation, facilitation, organizational development, consulting and mentoring. They have been working with a variety of businesses, community groups, government, NGO's, private groups and individuals for decades. They are both Certified Trainers for the Center for Nonviolent Communication (cnvc.org) and have been leaders in offering NVC to the world.

They co-authored Pathways to Liberation: A Matrix of Self-Assessment along with two colleagues, a tool used globally by those seeking to become certified trainers.

Currently living in Haiku on Maui, Jim and Jori are board members of the Network for Nonviolent Communication, a 501c3. They offer several online trainings and support certification candidate pods weekly and monthly and enjoy contributing to the growing NVC communities in Asia.

More information at radicalcompassion.com or call 1-505-228-8734

NVC Library Resources with Jim & Jori Manske

Join Jim Manske as he leads you through a self-connection exercise to guide you toward welcoming whatever enters into your awareness.
Jim and Jori offer a tip to stay present in the face of our reactivity to witnessed conflict.

Join CNVC Certified Trainers and Mediators Jori and Jim Manske in an exploration of using Nonviolent Communication in the context of Mediation and Conflict Resolution.

The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

What is it that enables us to thrive? How can we influence our capacity to live a meaningful and fulfilling life? Join Jim and Jori Manske in this exciting telecourse recording on the intersection of NVC and cutting-edge Positive Psychology, the science of human thriving.

The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

Jim and Jori discuss sharing power through exploring our experience of having and not having power, how we make choices about our power and examining our relationship to power itself.
Jim and Jori offer practical tools to help us develop patience through a process they call WAIT: Wake up, Accept, Insight, Take a step.
Jim leads a self-connection exercise focused on how our lives are interwoven with people we love, acquaintances, people unknown to us, and even those who have come before us or will come after us.
Jim and Jori Manske explore the considerations of expressing ourselves honestly, considerations that lead to more fully conscious and nonviolent connections.
Listen to Jim and Jori Manske share their understanding of discernment to gain clarity, insight, and wisdom for making life-serving distinctions and choices.
Listen to Jim and Jori Manske share how we are conditioned to disconnect from our own feelings and how we can unlearn this habit to experience more full and rich inner lives.
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