In the Spotlight: Parenting & Anger

NVC and ParentingNVC shares two key premises with attachment parenting: Human actions are motivated by attempts to meet needs, and trusting relationships are built through attentiveness to those needs. Both premises contrast with prevailing childrearing practices and with the assumptions about human beings that underlie these practices. Instead of focusing on authority and discipline, attachment parenting and NVC provide theoretical and practical grounds for nurturing compassionate, powerful, and creative children who will have resources to contribute to a peaceful society.

Marshall Rosenberg, founder and education director of the Center for Nonviolent Communication, asks parents two questions to point out the severe limitations of using power-over tactics such as reward and punishment: “What do you want the child to do?” and “What do you want the child’s reasons to be for doing so?” Do we really want our child to do something out of fear? Guilt? Shame? Obligation? Desire for reward? While helping us meet our needs without coercion, NVC also helps us resist giving in to our children’s every wish by teaching us to express our feelings, needs, and requests clearly, and to expect our needs to be considered. When we consistently express our commitment to attending to everyone’s needs–not just theirs, not just our own–we model a way of life to our children and create power with them: the power of choosing to contribute to making life more wonderful for everyone.

Listen now to part 1 of Parenting and Anger: Walking the Ultimate Path to Peace, with John Kinyon and Stephanie Bachmann Mattei  All may listen to and enjoy the first session of this course just below.

Jim & Jori Manske

Jim & Jori Manske

CNVC Certified Trainers from Maui, Hawaii, USA

For more than 41 years, Jim and Jori Manske have been partners in both in life and work. As co-creators of peaceworks, they offer training, mediation, facilitation, organizational development, consulting and mentoring. They have been working with a variety of businesses, community groups, government, NGO's, private groups and individuals for decades. They are both Certified Trainers for the Center for Nonviolent Communication (cnvc.org) and have been leaders in offering NVC to the world.

They co-authored Pathways to Liberation: A Matrix of Self-Assessment along with two colleagues, a tool used globally by those seeking to become certified trainers.

Currently living in Haiku on Maui, Jim and Jori are board members of the Network for Nonviolent Communication, a 501c3. They offer several online trainings and support certification candidate pods weekly and monthly and enjoy contributing to the growing NVC communities in Asia.

More information at radicalcompassion.com or call 1-505-228-8734

NVC Library Resources with Jim & Jori Manske

Join CNVC Certified Trainer Jori Manske in an exploration of how gratitude can enable you to remain more present moment to moment, thus enabling you to flourish in your life!
Watch this video with CNVC Certified Trainer Jim Manske to explore the practice of Self-Empathy through a different lens.  Included is a unique four-step Self-Empathy process that culminates in a focus of gratitude.
In this brief audio, Jim Manske uses a live situation to demonstrate how to use the NVC process in an apology. Jim starts by identifying the four steps to self-connection before expressing your apology.
An exploration of four types of feedback: destructive criticism, constructive criticism, feedback by demonstration and dialogue.
In this audio presentation, Jori offers clarity about the three different layers of empathy and the value of differentiating each layer. If you're looking for a daily practice for deepening your empathy skills ...
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