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The Radical Act of Reclaiming Attention

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read Time: 5 - 8 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read Time: 5 - 8 minutes
Given all that we are facing today as a society and a species, amongst some of the things we need is a well nourished heart. To nourish our hearts we need to discern where to wisely put our attention. Here are three practices to reclaim your attention, and replenish your reserves, so that you have the inner resources to do the work that is calling you. They are: train the mind, nourish the...

Paying Attention In Troubled Times

All Skill Levels • Article • Read time: 5 - 8 minutes
All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 5 - 8 minutes
Our world is facing stressful times. And the more stress you experience, the less resourced you can become. But consider that you're not messed up, but rather, the challenges you bear is a response to manufactured environments and culture that are more hostile than they are kind towards our human souls and bodies. Cultural repair must be part of our work if we are going to attend to the whole.

Getting Our Need for Love Met

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 1-2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 1-2 minutes
Trainer Tip: List specific things that would signify love to you. Based on who the other person is and who you are, how could your need for love be met? Being specific is important. General statements, such as “I just want you to love me” or “I would like you to be more attentive and listen to me more” won’t work. (S)he may already think (s)he is attentive. What would being attentive look like...

From Obedience and Shame to Freedom and Belonging: Transforming Patriarchal Paradigms of Child-Rearing in the Age of Global Warming

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • 33 pages
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
33 pages
What will it take to reclaim our fundamental relatedness with all things alive, surrender our attempts to control nature, and find a way of living that averts or mitigates the worst possible catastrophes awaiting us while it's still possible?

The Shadow Side of Autonomy

All Skill Levels • Article • Read time: 8 - 12 minutes
All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 8 - 12 minutes
Could our "need for autonomy" be getting in the way of "partnership consciousness" (as NVC is sometimes called). Could "autonomy" also block healthy relationships with not only ourselves and with others, but also with the planet? This article invites us to consider how "autonomy" may colour our NVC practice at the peril of our critical values. Values such as our care for impact, shared...

Acknowledging the Impact of Identity Within Social Change Movements (Part 2 of 2)

with Mary Mackenzie and Roxy Manning
All Skill Levels • Article • Read time: 22-35 mins
All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 22-35 mins
In part two, of this two-part transcript, clinical psychologist and organizational consultant, Roxy Manning, Ph.D., offers a way we can help people from marginalized groups free more of their energy for greater joy, meaning and contribution to our groups, social change movements, and organizations. Roxy and Mary Mackenzie also show that while there's often that risk of inadvertently creating...

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 5. Separate Needs from Outcomes and Strategies

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page
Eric Bowers explains how needs and strategies correlate to different brain hemispheres, and how relaxing into our needs opens us to greater possibilities.

The Cause of Our Feelings

with John Kinyon and Miki Kashtan
Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 3 pages
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
3 pages
Ask the Trainer: “I would love some clarity about the NVC perspective on the cause of our feelings. It seems to me that my needs may be met or not, but the cause of my painful feelings is my story around the situation.”

Practicing Non-Reactivity

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 3 - 5 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 3 - 5 minutes
For this practice assume that reactivity is arising any time you are distracted and not enjoying something. Practice throughout the day by focusing for a few moments on something specific that you find pleasing. Notice the sensation of joy or pleasure in your body, and hold attention there longer than usual. This interrupts tension and contraction. Keep remembering to do this. When you go too...

How to Open Your Holiday Presence

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 00:48 hours:minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
00:48 hours:minutes
In this telecourse recording, you will learn and practice self-awareness skills to fine tune your attention to met needs; savoring feelings of well-being; expressing these feelings to others; and receiving other people's messages of joy, gratitude, inspiration and more!

Acknowledging the Impact of Identity Within Social Change Movements (Part 1 of 2)

with Mary Mackenzie and Roxy Manning
All Skill Levels • Article • Read time: 23-35 mins
All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 23-35 mins
In this transcript, clinical psychologist and organizational consultant, Roxy Manning, PhD, offers ways for us to increase our capacity to (1) See things that we otherwise wouldn't; (2) Bring more relevance to our groups, organizations and social change movements; (3) Talk openly about microaggressions: statements or (in)actions that (inadvertently) minimize, diminish or negate somebody's...

Inviting Depth in Conversation

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 3 - 5 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 3 - 5 minutes
Conversation can become more satisfying with depth. Depth is occurs when connection unfolds towards a depth of intimacy, presence, attunement, sensing -- and silent connection where another is attentively seen and heard. Inviting this level of sharing in conversation relies on at least three major elements: attentive silence, the desire to connect and be known, and focus on present moment...

Compassion: Mature, Astute & Courageous

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 10 - 15 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 10 - 15 minutes
Getting "feel good" empathy can become an addiction. Even to the point of seeing people who don't offer empathy as "not being NVC". Rachelle urges us to notice how this view of NVC can be seductive, and even dangerous. In this article, she explains how we can expand our compassionate awareness when we go beyond equating NVC with harmony and empathy. She asks us to become more open to noticing...

Zero Step

Beginner Skill Level • Video • 00:54 hours:minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Video
00:54 hours:minutes
Jim and Jori’s Zero Step helps you focus your attention on your intention to connect, and then affirms your intention to live in the present. Listen in as they demonstrate the process — and learn about the benefits of using and cultivating it!

NVC and Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR)

Intermediate Skill Level • Video • 00:42 hours:minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Video
00:42 hours:minutes
Nonviolent Communication and Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction are both life-giving practices, deeply rooted in our natural abilities for attention, care, empathy, and compassion. Join Stephanie and Maurizio guide us through an exploration of both Nonviolent Communication and Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction and the relationships we cultivate with ourselves and others.

 
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