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Standing in Your Truth and Setting Boundaries

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 8-12 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 8-12 minutes
Unhook from a reactive dynamic, by staying with your needs and requests, and release attachment to outcome. Start by shifting your attention from the other person to get clear on what's true for you. Read on for strategies to transform reactivity, possible boundary setting behaviors, typical signs of escalation, and more.

Why Don’t They Get It?

All Skill Levels • Article • Read time: 5 - 8 minutes
All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 5 - 8 minutes
What can we do when someone tells us we're contributing to a pattern we're genuinely not seeing (nor experiencing)? What makes these patterns visible to some people but not others? This article addresses these things by talking about what to factor in when receiving feedback; handling feedback; responding relationally; paying attention to social location; considering impact; plus, broadening our...

Can the Social Order Be Transformed through Personal Practice? The Case of Nonviolent Communication - Part 1 of 2

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 15 - 23 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 15 - 23 minutes
By focusing on NVC process and practice without factoring in the interdependent, systemic dimension we unwittingly diminish the power of NVC. We reinforce the dominant paradigm, rather than challenging it -- making NVC one more tool for compliance. NVC principles can turn against its own purpose in cruel ways. NVC could also empower social change. We'll need our attention on this matter if we...

How to Invite Shared Vulnerability

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 3-4 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 3-4 minutes
Shared vulnerability can build more intimacy, mutuality, being seen and heard, empathy, or community. Inviting shared vulnerability means earning another’s trust that you can consistently offer attentive, curious, and compassionate listening. Here are four strategies to invite shared vulnerability.

Marshall Rosenberg's Vision of Social Change

All Skill Levels • Article • Read time: 12 - 18 minutes
All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 12 - 18 minutes
What could be, more often than not, overlooked when we think about or represent NVC or Marshall Rosenberg's work? This article busts some commonly held ideas and approaches to NVC. It challenges us to widen the lens of what it really means to be "life-serving", or speaking and hearing the "language of life". And it also speaks to how thinking can deepen feeling and relatedness...

How to Interrupt

with Jeff Brown
Intermediate Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 3 pages
Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
3 pages
Ask the Trainer: "I feel a lot of fear or nervousness about approaching a neighbor who uses 'wastebasket talk.' Once she's engaged, there are only two techniques that interrupt the flow: leaving or interrupting."

What the World Needs

Beginner Skill Level • Article • 3 pages
Beginner Skill Level
Article
3 pages
In this written transcript of a live presentation, Inbal Kashtan shares how she first became aware of poverty. She explains how empathy is a vital and powerful force for creating peace in our world today, and a powerful means of creating a world that works for all of us.

Parenting Series: When Your Child Only Has “No” for an Answer

Beginner Skill Level • Video • 00:08 hours:minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Video
00:08 hours:minutes
In this video download, expert parent trainer and author of Parenting From Your Heart, Inbal Kashtan responds to the age-old question: "Why do children do things to annoy parents?"

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 12. Connect to the Living Energy of Your Needs

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page
For many, the word “need” is associated with lack, neediness, and scarcity. These associations are the opposite of the meaning of needs in Nonviolent Communication (NVC). In NVC, needs are the motivational energy of our innate wholeness and desire to grow, like the energy of a plant pushing it up through the soil and toward the sun.

Don't Take It Personally

All Skill Levels • Article • Read time: 10 - 15 minutes
All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 10 - 15 minutes
When we don't like what someone is saying to us, sometimes people encourage us to hear their needs, and "not take it personally" -- and we're inclined to agree. Could "not taking it personally" close our hearts and awareness to others, life and ourselves? Rachelle Lamb invites us to take a closer look at what it's like when we attend to the situation from our hearts, and skillfully reflect upon...

Embracing Leadership within Yourself (Complete Course)

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 4 - 6 hours
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
4 - 6 hours
Join Miki as she covers a lot of territory, defining leadership, helping us lead when we're not in the leadership chair, showing us how to have power in every moment and engage our fear instead of let it run us. Get some powerful leadership tools you can put to use today. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

Adding Active Bystander Skills to Your NVC Toolkit

with Lore Baur
Intermediate Skill Level • Video • 44 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Video
44 minutes
CNVC Certified Trainer Lore Baur asks: "Have you ever seen something happen that made you feel uncomfortable and you didn't know what to do?" That's the "bystander effect:" a well-researched and commonly experienced phenomenon. Training can help you overcome it, enabling you to discern what to do and how to support others in ways that reduce trauma and increase safety.

 
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