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Standing in Your Truth and Setting Boundaries

Standing in Your Truth and Setting Boundaries

Standing in Your Truth and Setting Boundaries

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 8-12 minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 8-12 minutes

Unhook from a reactive dynamic, by staying with your needs and requests, and release attachment to outcome. Start by shifting your attention from the other person to get clear on what's true for you. Read on for strategies to transform reactivity, possible boundary setting behaviors, typical signs of escalation, and more.

Listen to the Universe

Listen to the Universe

Listen to the Universe

with Christine King and Jean Morrison

Beginner Skill Level • Article • N/A

Beginner Skill Level
Article
N/A

Listen to the Universe is a fun group exercise to explore how we focus our attention and interpret what we experience.

Why Don’t They Get It?

Why Don’t They Get It?

Why Don’t They Get It?

with Roxy Manning

All Skill Levels • Article • Read time: 5 - 8 minutes

All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 5 - 8 minutes

What can we do when someone tells us we're contributing to a pattern we're genuinely not seeing (nor experiencing)? What makes these patterns visible to some people but not others? This article addresses these things by talking about what to factor in when receiving feedback; handling feedback; responding relationally; paying attention to social location; considering impact; plus, broadening our...

Can the Social Order Be Transformed through Personal Practice? The Case of Nonviolent Communication - Part 1 of 2

Can the Social Order Be Transformed through Personal Practice? The Case of Nonviolent Communication - Part 1 of 2

Can the Social Order Be Transformed through Personal Practice? The Case of Nonviolent Communication - Part 1 of 2

with Miki Kashtan

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 15 - 23 minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 15 - 23 minutes

By focusing on NVC process and practice without factoring in the interdependent, systemic dimension we unwittingly diminish the power of NVC. We reinforce the dominant paradigm, rather than challenging it -- making NVC one more tool for compliance. NVC principles can turn against its own purpose in cruel ways. NVC could also empower social change. We'll need our attention on this matter if we...

Confidentiality Agreement

Confidentiality Agreement

Confidentiality Agreement

with Miki Kashtan

Advanced Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 4 pages

Advanced Skill Level
Trainer Tip
4 pages

Ask the Trainer: "A participant in our beginners' NVC practice group asked the co-facilitators if there was a confidentiality agreement that was typically used in NVC practice groups?"

How to Invite Shared Vulnerability

How to Invite Shared Vulnerability

How to Invite Shared Vulnerability

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 3-4 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 3-4 minutes

Shared vulnerability can build more intimacy, mutuality, being seen and heard, empathy, or community. Inviting shared vulnerability means earning another’s trust that you can consistently offer attentive, curious, and compassionate listening. Here are four strategies to invite shared vulnerability.

Communicating with Children

Communicating with Children

Communicating with Children

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 2-3 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 2-3 minutes

Trainer tip: Empathy can offer profound learning opportunities to children, expand their feelings and needs vocabulary, and teach them the positive results of valuing everyone’s needs. Read on for a story that illustrates this.

Marshall Rosenberg's Vision of Social Change

Marshall Rosenberg's Vision of Social Change

Marshall Rosenberg's Vision of Social Change

with Rachelle Lamb

All Skill Levels • Article • Read time: 12 - 18 minutes

All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 12 - 18 minutes

What could be, more often than not, overlooked when we think about or represent NVC or Marshall Rosenberg's work? This article busts some commonly held ideas and approaches to NVC. It challenges us to widen the lens of what it really means to be "life-serving", or speaking and hearing the "language of life". And it also speaks to how thinking can deepen feeling and relatedness...

Meeting Our Need for Honesty

Meeting Our Need for Honesty

Meeting Our Need for Honesty

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page

Trainer Tip: Mary offers a perspective on how to know if our need for honesty is being met.

Knowing Ourselves

Knowing Ourselves

Knowing Ourselves

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page

Trainer Tip: The question is not what other people think of you, but what you think of yourself. Who are you, really? Take a moment to consider what you value.

How to Interrupt

How to Interrupt

How to Interrupt

with Jeff Brown

Intermediate Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 3 pages

Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
3 pages

Ask the Trainer: "I feel a lot of fear or nervousness about approaching a neighbor who uses 'wastebasket talk.' Once she's engaged, there are only two techniques that interrupt the flow: leaving or interrupting."

What the World Needs

What the World Needs

What the World Needs

with Inbal Kashtan

Beginner Skill Level • Article • 3 pages

Beginner Skill Level
Article
3 pages

In this written transcript of a live presentation, Inbal Kashtan shares how she first became aware of poverty. She explains how empathy is a vital and powerful force for creating peace in our world today, and a powerful means of creating a world that works for all of us.

Parenting Series: When Your Child Only Has “No” for an Answer

Parenting Series: When Your Child Only Has “No” for an Answer

Parenting Series: When Your Child Only Has “No” for an Answer

with Inbal Kashtan

Beginner Skill Level • Video • 00:08 hours:minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Video
00:08 hours:minutes

In this video download, expert parent trainer and author of Parenting From Your Heart, Inbal Kashtan responds to the age-old question: "Why do children do things to annoy parents?"

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 6. Ask to Understand

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 6. Ask to Understand

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 6. Ask to Understand

with Eric Bowers

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page

Who does not want to be understood? In Tip #6, Eric shows you how to deepen connection and trust by checking your understanding with the person you are conversing with.

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 12. Connect to the Living Energy of Your Needs

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 12. Connect to the Living Energy of Your Needs

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 12. Connect to the Living Energy of Your Needs

with Eric Bowers

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page

For many, the word “need” is associated with lack, neediness, and scarcity. These associations are the opposite of the meaning of needs in Nonviolent Communication (NVC). In NVC, needs are the motivational energy of our innate wholeness and desire to grow, like the energy of a plant pushing it up through the soil and toward the sun.

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 22. Lead Yourself with Compassion

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 22. Lead Yourself with Compassion

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 22. Lead Yourself with Compassion

with Eric Bowers

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 3 - 6 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
3 - 6 minutes

Eric offers some tips for nurturing and affirming ourselves as a daily practice.

Don't Take It Personally

Don't Take It Personally

Don't Take It Personally

with Rachelle Lamb

All Skill Levels • Article • Read time: 10 - 15 minutes

All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 10 - 15 minutes

When we don't like what someone is saying to us, sometimes people encourage us to hear their needs, and "not take it personally" -- and we're inclined to agree. Could "not taking it personally" close our hearts and awareness to others, life and ourselves? Rachelle Lamb invites us to take a closer look at what it's like when we attend to the situation from our hearts, and skillfully reflect upon...

Embracing Leadership within Yourself (Complete Course)

Embracing Leadership within Yourself (Complete Course)

Embracing Leadership within Yourself (Complete Course)

with Miki Kashtan

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 4 - 6 hours

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
4 - 6 hours

Join Miki as she covers a lot of territory, defining leadership, helping us lead when we're not in the leadership chair, showing us how to have power in every moment and engage our fear instead of let it run us. Get some powerful leadership tools you can put to use today. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

Adding Active Bystander Skills to Your NVC Toolkit

Adding Active Bystander Skills to Your NVC Toolkit

Adding Active Bystander Skills to Your NVC Toolkit

with Lore Baur

Intermediate Skill Level • Video • 44 minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Video
44 minutes

CNVC Certified Trainer Lore Baur asks: "Have you ever seen something happen that made you feel uncomfortable and you didn't know what to do?" That's the "bystander effect:" a well-researched and commonly experienced phenomenon. Training can help you overcome it, enabling you to discern what to do and how to support others in ways that reduce trauma and increase safety.

Nonviolent Communication Circle of Life

Nonviolent Communication Circle of Life

Nonviolent Communication Circle of Life

with Christine King and Jean Morrison

Introductory Skill Level • Learning Tool • N/A

Introductory Skill Level
Learning Tool
N/A

The NVC Circle of Life is a mandala illustrating the process and consciousness of Nonviolent Communication. Mandala literally means "sacred circle" and symbolizes wholeness, balance and harmony.

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