Opening Hearts in Israel, Palestine, India and Sri Lanka

CNVC Certified Trainer Shantigarbha Warren offers a report of his recent NVC training trip to Israel/Palestine, India and Sri Lanka and clarifies how NVC can support social change in three very different contexts. Included is an exercise, based on Gandhi’s teaching.

An Introduction to Self-Empathy and Focusing

In this brief video, CNVC Certified Trainer and Inner Relationship Focusing Guide and teacher, Gina Cenciose, teaches that our inner relationship is the basis for both Focusing and NVC work.

Enemy Images Process and Exercise

Ask the Trainer: "What guidance do you have for working with enemy images? Can you say some things about processes and/or exercises that can bring relief from this trap?"

Stoking the Fires of Joy: Living with Gratitude (Complete Course)

Bask in this telecourse recording with Kathleen Macferran and explore ways to nurture and maintain greater depths of joy by focusing on gratitude. The reward? To increase your ability to live fully present to the joy in life, even in the midst of pain. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

Improving Relationships as a Primary Goal

Trainer Tip: We can improve our relationships by focusing our attention first on connection instead of other stragegies.

Using Anger as a Beacon

Trainer Tip: Anger is a prominent call to gain our attention. Mary explains why it's worth heeding that call.

Choosing Whom We Empathize With

Trainer Tip: One of the basic philosophies of Nonviolent Communication is valuing everyone’s needs equally. That means that you consider your needs to be equal to another person’s needs. If someone asks you for empathy, and you choose to empathize at you own expense, you're not living in a Nonviolent Communication consciousness. Be aware of your own needs today when someone asks you to be their...

Using Anger to Serve Life

Trainer Tip: Sometimes we need to empathize with a person before he can hear our anger. Consider that all anger is an expression of an unmet need. If we focus on the need, rather than the actions, we are more likely to connect compassionately with other people. Be aware of opportunities to empathize with someone’s anger today.

The Jackal as a Teacher

Trainer tip: Why do NVC practitioners sometimes use the jackal as a metaphor in the NVC world? What can it teach us? Read on for more.

Empathy, a Potent Healer

Trainer tip: Empathy, hearing feelings and needs behind someone’s words, can be incredibly healing -- and it can help us come to better understanding and resolution. Empathize with at least on person today. Read on for an example of applied empathy.

Hidden Needs

Ask the Trainer: "I've been feeling frustrated and angry quite a bit lately over very simple things. Can you help me get to the root of my hidden needs?"

Empathy Hurdles

Miki Kashtan poignantly shares about the challenges of empathizing with another when we really don't understand their actions.

Creating and Sustaining Strong Teams (Part 1)

A clear sense of shared purpose is essential to creating a strong team. Listen in as Miki and our participants examine how much time teams dedicate to shared purpose, and what they do to support their ability to be a team working toward that shared purpose, rather than a group of individuals.

Overcoming Patriarchy 5-7-2017

The focus on patriarchy emerges from the understanding that patriarchy plays a foundational role in everything. Yes, I mean it: everything. Patriarchy is not the same as sexism; patriarchy is to sexism very much what structural racism is to (interpersonal) racism: it's a system that runs independently of any one person's attitudes or behaviors. Join Miki for her first in a series of discussions...

Past Stories, Present Feelings

Ask the Trainer: "I have noticed that sometimes when I am in a story-telling mood I am usually trying to prove that I am right and once I connect with a need the urge to give all the information goes away."

Healing the Blame that Binds

Blame is the game that protects me from the understanding that the cause of all my emotional distress, fear, shame and guilt comes from the part of me I call "the inner voice."

Four Types of Feedback

An exploration of four types of feedback: destructive criticism, constructive criticism, feedback by demonstration and dialogue.