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Defusing Anger

Defusing Anger

Defusing Anger

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page

Trainer Tip: Many of us are afraid of our anger because we haven’t learned how to express it in a way that brings relief or that helps us meet our needs in the situation. Consider a different approach to anger, one that helps you fully express your anger and is more likely to help you meet your needs for relief, to be heard, or to be understood.

Parenting and Anger: Walking the Ultimate Path to Peace (Complete Course)

Parenting and Anger: Walking the Ultimate Path to Peace (Complete Course)

Parenting and Anger: Walking the Ultimate Path to Peace (Complete Course)

with John Kinyon and Stephanie Bachmann Mattei

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 6 - 8 hours

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
6 - 8 hours

John and Stephanie combine mediating conflict, parenting and study of brain science to this ground-breaking course recording on how to funnel your anger and your child’s anger toward mutual caring and peace. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy. nvctraining.com

Expressing Anger Peacefully

Expressing Anger Peacefully

Expressing Anger Peacefully

with Raj Gill

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 01:16 hours:minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
01:16 hours:minutes

In this prerecorded telecourse, Raj Gil uses an interactive dialogue and proven exercises to help you develop a profoundly healthy response to anger, right in the moment.

Looking at Anger from an NVC Perspective

Looking at Anger from an NVC Perspective

Looking at Anger from an NVC Perspective

with Wes Taylor

Beginner Skill Level • Video • 00:11 hours:minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Video
00:11 hours:minutes

In this vintage 1999 video, CNVC Certified Trainer, Wes Taylor leads a group of young people in a lively discussion on working with anger.

The Mobilizing Power of Anger

The Mobilizing Power of Anger

The Mobilizing Power of Anger

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé

All Skill Levels • Article • Read time: 3-5 minutes

All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 3-5 minutes

Anger can result in violence or in a movement towards positive change. We can see this happen in the push for racial justice. When you perceive anger as a form of violence your nervous system becomes activated. Your perspective narrows and old conditioning can take over leading to overwhelm, defensiveness, hatred, or violence. Read on for four ways to to respond to our own or others' anger in a...

Using Anger as a Warning

Using Anger as a Warning

Using Anger as a Warning

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page

Trainer Tip: If you are feeling anger, you are experiencing an unmet need. When you recognize it as a warning signal, it can be a life-serving tool.

Using Anger to Serve Life

Using Anger to Serve Life

Using Anger to Serve Life

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 1-2 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 1-2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Sometimes we need to empathize with a person before he can hear our anger. Consider that all anger is an expression of an unmet need. If we focus on the need, rather than the actions, we are more likely to connect compassionately with other people. Be aware of opportunities to empathize with someone’s anger today.

Using Anger as a Beacon

Using Anger as a Beacon

Using Anger as a Beacon

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page

Trainer Tip: Anger is a prominent call to gain our attention. Mary explains why it's worth heeding that call.

Self-Righteous Anger

Self-Righteous Anger

Self-Righteous Anger

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page

Trainer Tip: Have you ever noticed that some of your behaviors ensure that your needs for peace and relief won’t be met? Take judgments for instance. The more we have, the less peaceful and happy we feel.

NVC Life Hacks 4: Anger

NVC Life Hacks 4: Anger

NVC Life Hacks 4: Anger

with Shantigarbha Warren

Beginner Skill Level • Video • 00:04 hours:minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Video
00:04 hours:minutes

Anger is an emotion we'd often like to disown! Shantigarbha offers us five tips for "finding the life" in our anger, and ends with a short, guided reflection.

Transforming Anger: The Enemy Image Process and Learning/Growth Spiral

Transforming Anger: The Enemy Image Process and Learning/Growth Spiral

Transforming Anger: The Enemy Image Process and Learning/Growth Spiral

with John Kinyon

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 01:11 hours:minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
01:11 hours:minutes

Transforming anger is a key practice for returning to conscious presence and connection with self and others when triggered into a reaction. Join John Kinyon to learn this essential life skill.

When Someone's Anger Stimulates Fear for My Physical Safety

When Someone's Anger Stimulates Fear for My Physical Safety

When Someone's Anger Stimulates Fear for My Physical Safety

with Arnina Kashtan

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 00:07 hours/minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
00:07 hours/minutes

CNVC Certified Trainer Arnina Kashtan tells us to look to our inner dialogue and the other's needs when we're feeling fear of physical violence that's been stimlated by someone's anger.

Being Honest About Our Anger

Being Honest About Our Anger

Being Honest About Our Anger

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page

Trainer Tip: Mary shares how staying present to our anger and finding the underlying feelings and needs can lead to deeper connection and more satisfying outcomes.

Anger’s Two Kinds of Reactivity

Anger’s Two Kinds of Reactivity

Anger’s Two Kinds of Reactivity

with Sarah Peyton

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read Time: 6 - 9 minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read Time: 6 - 9 minutes

There's reactive anger - the sudden outbursts of words, temper or action that create a nervous system response in another. And then there's the anger that's a reaction to someone's anger -- a nervous system startle-response. Instead of either of these, we can learn to heal with empathy, look for unequal power dynamics, take responsibility to make repairs, and shift into the clean, life-serving,...

Responding to Anger

Responding to Anger

Responding to Anger

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 5-8 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 5-8 minutes

When someone wants to speak angrily about another, do you want to move away, try to calm them, argue, set a boundary, or offer empathy? What supports you to stay self connected? You can set boundaries regarding listening so that you're less likely to defend the other party, or attempt to talk your friend down from their judgments, thereby escalating the situation. Disagreements can also ignite...

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 10. Take It to the Trees

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 10. Take It to the Trees

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 10. Take It to the Trees

with Eric Bowers

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page

One of the most important things you can do to live a meaningful and rewarding life filled with vitality is reclaim your emotions. Eric offers a tip to reclaim your emotions, rescuing you from the numb and deadening state of “fine."

How to Interact with an Angry Practice Group Member

How to Interact with an Angry Practice Group Member

How to Interact with an Angry Practice Group Member

with Liv Larsson

Intermediate Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 2 pages

Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
2 pages

Ask the Trainer: “I would like some suggestions on how to interact with a member of the practice group I started. This individual speaks and acts in a manner I interpret as angry and controlling.”

Using Therapeutic Communication to Connect with Patients

Using Therapeutic Communication to Connect with Patients

Using Therapeutic Communication to Connect with Patients

with Melanie Sears

Advanced Skill Level • Article • 5 pages

Advanced Skill Level
Article
5 pages

"I was taught in Nursing School that when someone expressed a feeling to reflect it back. I tried this technique in the room of a patient who had just received a diagnosis of cancer."

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 7. Talk about Conflict When You’re Not in Conflict

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 7. Talk about Conflict When You’re Not in Conflict

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 7. Talk about Conflict When You’re Not in Conflict

with Eric Bowers

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 4 pages

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
4 pages

Conflict is a normal and natural part of life. To varying degrees, it happens whenever two or more people consistently spend time together. Resolving conflict effectively and peacefully, in a way in which all parties feel respected and valued, does not feel natural for those of us who grew up with punitive, adversarial, or avoidant approaches to conflict. Eric offers some tips for approaching...

Every Angry Message is a "Please"

Every Angry Message is a "Please"

Every Angry Message is a "Please"

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page

Trainer Tip: Anger can be an opportunity to hear the "Please" behind the words and create a path to resolve conflicts compassionately.

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