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Navigating Tense Conversations

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 2 - 3 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 2 - 3 minutes
Trainer Tip: Here are some options for tense moments in conversations: try a "redo", understand and recognize your habits, pause to regroup, empathize with the person so they feel heard, check your mind frame before speaking, and name some appreciations about one another.

Differentiating Between Feelings And Faux Feelings

Introductory Skill Level • Learning Tool • N/A
Introductory Skill Level
Learning Tool
N/A
This chart is intended as an aid to translating words that are often confused with feelings. These words imply that someone is doing something to you and generally connote wrongness or blame. To use this list, when somebody says “I’m feeling rejected,” you might translate this as: “Are you feeling scared because you have a need for inclusion?”

Acknowledging the Impact of Identity Within Social Change Movements (Part 1 of 2)

with Mary Mackenzie and Roxy Manning
All Skill Levels • Article • Read time: 23-35 mins
All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 23-35 mins
In this transcript, clinical psychologist and organizational consultant, Roxy Manning, PhD, offers ways for us to increase our capacity to (1) See things that we otherwise wouldn't; (2) Bring more relevance to our groups, organizations and social change movements; (3) Talk openly about microaggressions: statements or (in)actions that (inadvertently) minimize, diminish or negate somebody's...

Opening Hearts in Israel, Palestine, India and Sri Lanka

Beginner Skill Level • Article • 11 pages
Beginner Skill Level
Article
11 pages
CNVC Certified Trainer Shantigarbha Warren offers a report of his recent NVC training trip to Israel/Palestine, India and Sri Lanka and clarifies how NVC can support social change in three very different contexts. Included is an exercise, based on Gandhi’s teaching.

The Cause of Our Feelings

with John Kinyon and Miki Kashtan
Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 3 pages
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
3 pages
Ask the Trainer: “I would love some clarity about the NVC perspective on the cause of our feelings. It seems to me that my needs may be met or not, but the cause of my painful feelings is my story around the situation.”

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 13. The Eight Most Powerful Things You Can Do to Build an Inspiring Relationship

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 4 pages
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
4 pages
What are the most powerful things I can do to build an inspired relationship? I answered the question with romantic relationships in mind; however, I believe the answer below applies to all important relationships.

What the World Needs

Beginner Skill Level • Article • 3 pages
Beginner Skill Level
Article
3 pages
In this written transcript of a live presentation, Inbal Kashtan shares how she first became aware of poverty. She explains how empathy is a vital and powerful force for creating peace in our world today, and a powerful means of creating a world that works for all of us.

Engage Your Curiosity

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 1-2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 1-2 minutes
Trainer Tip: When someone acts in baffling ways we can either wonder about what’s going on with the other person, create our own stories about it (blame, resent, make assumptions), or inform ourselves by asking. This is an opportunity to learn something new.

Anatomy of a Trigger: Change Your Focus and Improve the Outcome

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 7-10 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 7-10 minutes
When you or anyone is upset, what could underneath it all? There may be more than is immediately visible. This article invites us to explore what it looks like to inquire deeper, take self-responsibility, examine our assumptions, attachments, interpretations, and "certainties" that could be hidden behind the needs that are aching to be attended to...

Nonviolence in the Face of Hatred

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 14 - 21 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 14 - 21 minutes
When Anita's sister reveals that the Ku Klux Klan broke into her home and dragged her out into a field towards a burning cross, Anita's commitment to nonviolence is challenged. Here, Miki highlights practices and lessons from her story of inner struggle -- including an insight about how, even in extreme polarization, our freedom and healing is wrapped up in others' freedom and healing.

Change Your Response to Conflict — Change Your Life (Complete Course)

with Ike Lasater and John Kinyon
Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 05:12 hours:minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
05:12 hours:minutes
Listen to this introductory 4-session Mediate Your Life telecourse recording to change your response to conflict and change your life.

 
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