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Differentiating Needs from Strategies

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 2-3 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 2-3 minutes
Trainer tip: When we focus on needs further possibilities are more likely to open up. When we focus on a particular strategy, our world can feel scarce and conflicts can arise. Resolution comes when we value everyone’s needs and seek mutually satisfying solutions. We can ask for support towards this outcome.

Power Relations and Connection Across Differences in US Society: An NVC Perspective (Complete Course)

with Inbal Kashtan and Roxy Manning
Advanced Skill Level • Audio • 03:17 hours:minutes
Advanced Skill Level
Audio
03:17 hours:minutes
Join CNVC Certified Trainers Inbal Kashtan and Roxy Manning, for a passionate and intimate exploration of how NVC can support personal and social transformation in the area of power relations and social divisions. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

I'll Work on Me, You Work on You

with Jim Manske
Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 5-8 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 5-8 minutes
As a beginner in NVC, you might find your attempts to practice your NVC only increases conflict, disconnection and upset in your interactions with people. Or perhaps people start seeing you as inauthentic. From there, you may find yourself sinking deeper into self-judgement. In this article, Jim Manske shows us how to shift these potential unintended outcomes, into deeper NVC consciousness that...

Creating the Life You Want With Powerful Requests (Complete Course)

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 05:11 hours:minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
05:11 hours:minutes
In this telecourse recording, expert trainer Miki Kashtan will help you uncover what prevents you from asking for everything you want without fear. The class includes daily practices for ongoing skill building.

Colloquial NVC Options

Intermediate Skill Level • Learning Tool • 2 pages
Intermediate Skill Level
Learning Tool
2 pages
How can we express ourselves in a way that supports a natural flow of connection while maintaining a focus on NVC consciousness? This handout from CNVC Certified Trainer, Miki Kashtan, offers seven options that support NVC enthusiasts in evolving from classical to colloquial NVC language.

Demands vs Requests

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 2-3 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 2-3 minutes
Trainer tip: Demands are more likely to limit the possibilities and create distance between people. The trick to asking something as a request is valuing everyone’s needs equally. When you value everyone’s needs equally, then you are more willing to come to solutions that satisfy everyone. It thus opens possibilities and helps build connection.

Transforming Power Relations: The Invisible Revolution

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • 9 pages
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
9 pages
Miki explains how teachers and administrators can become more effective in relating to themselves, other faculty and staff, and they can contribute more to students' ability to feel connected and energized. Nonviolent Communication provides specific tools to empower ourselves and others to live more in line with our values and deeper needs.

Not Trusting the “Yes”

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 00:24 hours:minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
00:24 hours:minutes
In this audio recording, Miki demonstrates how to stay in a dialogue when you don't trust someone's "yes," how to equalize power between people and how to allow space for others to say "no" to our requests. In this 2-part audio series, Miki demonstrates how to stay in a dialogue when you don’t trust someone’s “yes,” how to equalize power between people and how to allow space for others to say...

Getting Conversations Back on Track

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 4 - 6 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 4 - 6 minutes
What can you do to move towards connection when you you sense reactivity, defense, withdrawal or conflict arising? You can make a connection request, check the congruence between your body language and your words, and get curious about the impact of your actions. When you've tried everything you could also acknowledge that something is off, and choose to come back together when both parties have...

Key Assumptions and Intentions of NVC

with Inbal Kashtan and Miki Kashtan
Introductory Skill Level • Learning Tool • 3 pages
Introductory Skill Level
Learning Tool
3 pages
NVC practice is based on several key assumptions and intentions. When we live based on these assumptions and intentions, self-connection and connection with others become increasingly possible and easy, helping us contribute to a world where everyone’s needs are attended to peacefully.

 
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