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Connection Requests: Motivations and Examples Article

with Inbal Kashtan and Miki Kashtan

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • 5 pages

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
5 pages

Connection requests focus on the quality of connection between people instead of on any particular strategy or solution.

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Tips for the Road Series: Tip 3. Get Empathy before Making Important Decisions

with Eric Bowers

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page

Eric explains how we can often avoid regret by getting empathy before making important decisions.

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Workplace Series: When Purpose Trumps Connection

with Miki Kashtan

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 00:06 hours:minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
00:06 hours:minutes

In most business environments, purpose holds a higher priority than connection. Listen to Miki discuss the strategy of using minimum connection to remain true to the purpose at hand, and how the purpose of empathy may differ in the workplace.

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Facilitating Connection

with Jim & Jori Manske

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 00:59 hours:minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
00:59 hours:minutes

Expressing ourselves honestly is sometimes scary because we can't predict where the conversation will go after we've made ourselves vulnerable. This recording will demonstrate how the power of our honesty is enhanced by ending on a clear and present request.

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Written Check-in and Self Connection Exercise

with Jim & Jori Manske

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read Time: 1-2 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read Time: 1-2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Tap into feelings, needs and requests for greater self connection with the six steps in this worksheet.

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Cradle of Compassion (Connecting with Request Energy)

with Jim & Jori Manske

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read Time: 3-5 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read Time: 3-5 minutes

Here are two practices for connecting with "request energy". One of them helps us practice in the moment (7 steps). The other one helps us connect to ourselves (11 steps).

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Taste of Compassionate Leadership Series: Sowing the Quilt of Connection

with Jim & Jori Manske

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 01:03 hours:minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
01:03 hours:minutes

Jim Manske offers practices to stay in dialogue without defensiveness, especially when it's difficult. Listen to Jim discuss the refining of our commitment to connection and how to respond to others' defensiveness too.

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Awareness of Marginalization Can Support Connection

with Bob Wentworth

Intermediate Skill Levels • Article • Read time: 7 - 11 minutes

Intermediate Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 7 - 11 minutes

With abundant evidence that most people have unconscious biases against people --even when that bias runs counter to their own values-- there's a strong chance you recreate this disconnect with people far more often than you recognize. So even with a high degree of NVC skills you may behave in a way that seems "NVC" but also reproduces the painful patterns that marginalized people all-too-often...

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Taste of Compassionate Leadership Series: Connection Time

with Rodger Sorrow

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 00:22 hours:minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
00:22 hours:minutes

Rodger Sorrow introduces us to "Connection Time," a practice for you and a significant other to deepen, broaden and mend your relationship with each other.

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Differentiating Between Feelings And Faux Feelings

with NVC Academy

Introductory Skill Level • Learning Tool • N/A

Introductory Skill Level
Learning Tool
N/A

This chart is intended as an aid to translating words that are often confused with feelings. These words imply that someone is doing something to you and generally connote wrongness or blame. To use this list, when somebody says “I’m feeling rejected,” you might translate this as: “Are you feeling scared because you have a need for inclusion?”

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Power Relations and Connection Across Differences in US Society: An NVC Perspective (Complete Course)

with Inbal Kashtan and Roxy Manning

Advanced Skill Level • Audio • 03:17 hours:minutes

Advanced Skill Level
Audio
03:17 hours:minutes

Join CNVC Certified Trainers Inbal Kashtan and Roxy Manning, for a passionate and intimate exploration of how NVC can support personal and social transformation in the area of power relations and social divisions. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

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Connecting When Worldviews Conflict (Complete Course)

with John Kinyon and Matthew Rich

Advanced Skill Level • Audio • 6 hours

Advanced Skill Level
Audio
6 hours

John Kinyon and Matthew Rich examine the ways in which people’s worldviews can be different and why this often creates conflict. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

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Connecting Feelings and Needs

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page

Trainer Tip: When we connect our feelings to our needs, we put ourselves in a postion to get our needs met and mourn when they aren't met. Here's a practical tip you can practice daily to improve the quality of your life.

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Connecting to Self

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page

Trainer Tip: Q: How do we get the love we want? A: Ask for it.

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Connect Before Correct

with Sylvia Haskvitz

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 2 pages

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
2 pages

Ask the Trainer: "Recently, I was sitting in my weekly practice group trying to connect to my reasons for wanting to give empathy to a particular person. She was telling us about some painful feeling she was having, but was not connecting to her needs."

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I'll Work on Me, You Work on You

with Jim Manske

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 5-8 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 5-8 minutes

As a beginner in NVC, you might find your attempts to practice your NVC only increases conflict, disconnection and upset in your interactions with people. Or perhaps people start seeing you as inauthentic. From there, you may find yourself sinking deeper into self-judgement. In this article, Jim Manske shows us how to shift these potential unintended outcomes, into deeper NVC consciousness that...

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Connected Parenting: Making Observations

with Inbal Kashtan

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 00:07 hours:minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
00:07 hours:minutes

In this brief audio snippet, CNVC Certified Trainer and founder of the CNVC Parenting Project, Inbal Kashtan, explores observation in contrast to interpretation, and leads an exercise in observation.

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Connected Parenting: Everyone's Needs Matter

with Inbal Kashtan

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 00:04 hours:minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
00:04 hours:minutes

In this brief audio snippet, CNVC Certified Trainer and founder of the CNVC Parenting Project, Inbal Kashtan, offers a profound insight that can change how we see and relate to our children.

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NVC and the Enneagram: Expanding Awareness, Connection and Compassion (Complete Course)

with Jean Morrison and Sylvia Haskvitz

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 02:42 hours:minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
02:42 hours:minutes

Join Sylvia and Jean in this fascinating exploration of NVC and the Enneagram, a system of nine basic personality types.

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Connecting with Spiritual Clarity

with Jim Manske

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 2 - 3 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 2 - 3 minutes

We can cultivate spiritual clarity through bringing attention to our intentions, mourning, gratitude, and the dynamic flow of feelings and needs. This can bring more autonomy, choice and liberate the energy of connection and contribution. We can also awaken our hearts to see the reality that our well-being is mutually interdependent. Read on for more.

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