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The Cause of Our Feelings

The Cause of Our Feelings

The Cause of Our Feelings

with John Kinyon and Miki Kashtan
Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 3 pages
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
3 pages
Ask the Trainer: “I would love some clarity about the NVC perspective on the cause of our feelings. It seems to me that my needs may be met or not, but the cause of my painful feelings is my story around the situation.”
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Differentiating Between Feelings And Faux Feelings

Differentiating Between Feelings And Faux Feelings

Differentiating Between Feelings And Faux Feelings

with NVC Academy
Introductory Skill Level • Learning Tool • N/A
Introductory Skill Level
Learning Tool
N/A
This chart is intended as an aid to translating words that are often confused with feelings. These words imply that someone is doing something to you and generally connote wrongness or blame. To use this list, when somebody says “I’m feeling rejected,” you might translate this as: “Are you feeling scared because you have a need for inclusion?”
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Feelings vs. Thoughts Vocabulary Builder

Feelings vs. Thoughts Vocabulary Builder

Feelings vs. Thoughts Vocabulary Builder

with Mark Schultz
Beginner Skill Level • Practice Exercise • 10 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Practice Exercise
10 minutes
This ten question exercise will help build your feelings vocabulary. It is helpful to differentiate between words that describe what we think others are doing around us, and words that describe actual feelings. These "faux feelings" often reveal more about how we think others are behaving than what we are actually feeling ourselves. Feeling words are always about us, not the other person.
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A List of Feelings We All Have (Emotions and Sensations)

A List of Feelings We All Have (Emotions and Sensations)

A List of Feelings We All Have (Emotions and Sensations)

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Introductory Skill Level • Learning Tool • N/A
Introductory Skill Level
Learning Tool
N/A
The following list of words are used to express a combination of emotional states and physical sensations. This list is neither exhaustive nor definitive. It is meant as a starting place to help you develop your emotional vocabulary and further support your communication with others.
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Evaluations vs. Feelings

Evaluations vs. Feelings

Evaluations vs. Feelings

with Mary Mackenzie
Introductory Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 1-2 minutes
Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 1-2 minutes
Trainer tip: Beware that your expression of feelings helps you own how you feel, rather than blaming the other person for doing something you see as wrong. Expressing your feelings helps the other person know how deeply this issue affects you. Plus it can bring more clarity and connection to all parties. Read on for more.
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Some Ideas for Using the Feelings & Needs Cards

Some Ideas for Using the Feelings & Needs Cards

Some Ideas for Using the Feelings & Needs Cards

with Peggy Smith
Beginner Skill Level • Practice Exercise • Read time: 4 - 6 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Practice Exercise
Read time: 4 - 6 minutes
This guide features three activities that use feelings and needs cards: two verions of "Feelings and Needs Poker" and one for "Self-Empathy". Great for practicing alone, with a partner, or in a group.
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Feelings Are a Response to Our Met or Unmet Needs

Feelings Are a Response to Our Met or Unmet Needs

Feelings Are a Response to Our Met or Unmet Needs

with Mary Mackenzie
Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 1-2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 1-2 minutes
Trainer Tip: Our particular needs and expectations in the moment, influences how we feel. So if you are feeling hurt, sad, angry, or disappointed, try to consider what your unmet needs are, and see if there are other ways you can get them met. Today, track how your needs affect your feelings.
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Cause of Feelings

Cause of Feelings

Cause of Feelings

with Sylvia Haskvitz
Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 00:13 hours:minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
00:13 hours:minutes
Many of us blame other people for our feelings but our own state of needs is the true cause. In this powerful audio, Sylvia teaches you how to manage your emotions in challenging situations and demonstrates the process of Screaming in Giraffe.
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The Heart of the Matter: Connecting More Deeply to Your Feelings and Needs

The Heart of the Matter: Connecting More Deeply to Your Feelings and Needs

The Heart of the Matter: Connecting More Deeply to Your Feelings and Needs

with Miki Kashtan
Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 02:21 hours:minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
02:21 hours:minutes
Do you want to increase your capacity to identify and connect with feelings and needs? Would you like to enhance your ability to translate judgments? Join Miki for this deep dive into feelings and needs.
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Feelings Cards

Feelings Cards

Feelings Cards

with Peggy Smith
Beginner Skill Level • Learning Tool • Read time: 1 - 2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Learning Tool
Read time: 1 - 2 minutes
Print-and-cut these 56 feelings cards for one-on-one, partner or group activities, to help support the pratice of empathy. Includes eight blank cards for you to customize.
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