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NVC and Inner Relationship Focusing

NVC and Inner Relationship Focusing

NVC and Inner Relationship Focusing

with Gina Cenciose

Intermediate Skill Level • Video • 02:48 hours:minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Video
02:48 hours:minutes

In this inspiring video, Gina Cenciose, CNVC Certified Trainer and Inner Relationship Focusing Guide and Instructor, offers an in-depth view of the distinctions and similarities between NVC and Inner Relationship Focusing (also known as IRF and Focusing).

An Introduction to Self-Empathy and Focusing

An Introduction to Self-Empathy and Focusing

An Introduction to Self-Empathy and Focusing

with Gina Cenciose

Beginner Skill Level • Video • 00:25:33 hours/minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Video
00:25:33 hours/minutes

In this brief video, CNVC Certified Trainer and Inner Relationship Focusing Guide and teacher, Gina Cenciose, teaches that our inner relationship is the basis for both Focusing and NVC work.

The Wheel of Awareness

The Wheel of Awareness

The Wheel of Awareness

with Gina Cenciose and Shulamit Berlevtov

Intermediate Skill Level • Practice Exercise • 00:11 hours:minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Practice Exercise
00:11 hours:minutes

Join CNVC Certified Trainer and Certified Focusing Teacher Shulamit Berlevtov in this brief exercise called the Wheel of Awareness. This exercise will help you become aware of how to distinguish and differentiate your life experience.

Are You Living Your True Potential?

Are You Living Your True Potential?

Are You Living Your True Potential?

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 5-8 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 5-8 minutes

How can we live up to our true potential, a life filled with relationships and experiences that truly meet our needs? In this article, Mary offers us a way to bring about inner transformation that can lead to seeing ourselves, others and life differently -- for greater agency, empowerment and choice.

Self-Empathy for Self-Evolution (complete course)

Self-Empathy for Self-Evolution (complete course)

Self-Empathy for Self-Evolution (complete course)

with Kelly Bryson

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 7-10 hours

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
7-10 hours

Join Kelly Bryson and go Psychologically and Spiritually Spelunking into your own Caverns of Consciousness, using the inner mining tools of NVC Self-Empathy, Progoff Journaling processes, Focusing, and individual work. Get self-empathy tools that will help you rejuvenate yourself and your relationships. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

Creating Peace and Change: A Multi-Level Approach

Creating Peace and Change: A Multi-Level Approach

Creating Peace and Change: A Multi-Level Approach

with Dian Killian

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 12 - 18 minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 12 - 18 minutes

Why does NVC practice, and NVC training/coaching, appear to be not enough to bridge divides between people? This article takes a look at the trickle down effect of our societal conditioning, what we can add to our NVC lense, and what we can do "upstream" when NVC doesn't seem to be enough. Additionally, the article talks about unseen constraints that men, women and minority groups face in...

Anatomy of a Trigger: Change Your Focus and Improve the Outcome

Anatomy of a Trigger: Change Your Focus and Improve the Outcome

Anatomy of a Trigger: Change Your Focus and Improve the Outcome

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 7-10 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 7-10 minutes

When you or anyone is upset, what could underneath it all? There may be more than is immediately visible. This article invites us to explore what it looks like to inquire deeper, take self-responsibility, examine our assumptions, attachments, interpretations, and "certainties" that could be hidden behind the needs that are aching to be attended to...

Practicing Non-Reactivity

Practicing Non-Reactivity

Practicing Non-Reactivity

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 3 - 5 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 3 - 5 minutes

For this practice assume that reactivity is arising any time you are distracted and not enjoying something. Practice throughout the day by focusing for a few moments on something specific that you find pleasing. Notice the sensation of joy or pleasure in your body, and hold attention there longer than usual. This interrupts tension and contraction. Keep remembering to do this. When you go too...

Calling Out / Calling In

Calling Out / Calling In

Calling Out / Calling In

with Roxy Manning

Advanced Skill Level • Article • Read time: 12 - 18 minutes

Advanced Skill Level
Article
Read time: 12 - 18 minutes

When someone's in immense pain and uses words that are hard to hear, see if you can bring in as much compassion as you would to someone who was cut with a sword. Focusing on what's important to them, and not so much on how it was said. This may support greater understanding and healing. Otherwise, we risk prioritizing needs, norms, and inequities of the dominant culture, over caring for people...

Transforming Painful Patterns

Transforming Painful Patterns

Transforming Painful Patterns

with Arnina Kashtan

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • 7 pages

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
7 pages

Why is it so difficult to change our patterns even when we want to, even when we experience shame or despair about them? Here are common pitfalls and concrete steps to overcome them in the future.

Stoking the Fires of Joy: Living with Gratitude (Complete Course)

Stoking the Fires of Joy: Living with Gratitude (Complete Course)

Stoking the Fires of Joy: Living with Gratitude (Complete Course)

with Kathleen Macferran

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 05:26 hours:minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
05:26 hours:minutes

Bask in this telecourse recording with Kathleen Macferran and explore ways to nurture and maintain greater depths of joy by focusing on gratitude. The reward? To increase your ability to live fully present to the joy in life, even in the midst of pain. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

A Talk About Needs

A Talk About Needs

A Talk About Needs

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 00:10 hours:minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
00:10 hours:minutes

"Everything someone does or says is an attempt to meet a need," says CNVC Certified Trainer Mary Mackenzie. Once you gain skills at living in a "needs-consciousness" you will literally change your life and improve all of your relationships.

Developing Your Tracking Skills (Part 2)

Developing Your Tracking Skills (Part 2)

Developing Your Tracking Skills (Part 2)

with Mary Mackenzie

Intermediate Skill Level • Video • 00:10 hours:minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Video
00:10 hours:minutes

Mary continues her discussion of tracking skills, focusing on tracking requests, agreements with the group and tracking time. Mary also examines how to monitor the purpose of the session, discerning if and when to shift the agreement about the purpose for meeting. Mary closes with some final helpful tips to hone your tracking skills.

Naturalizing NVC Language Q&A

Naturalizing NVC Language Q&A

Naturalizing NVC Language Q&A

with Jeff Jean Kathleen Karl Mary Sylvia

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 00:49 hours:minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
00:49 hours:minutes

Join CNVC Certified Trainers Jeff Brown, Jean Morrison, Karl Steyaert, Kathleen Macferran, Mary Mackenzie and Sylvia Haskvitz in a lively Q&A session focusing on naturalizing NVC into our daily interactions.

Five Core Practices For Meaningful Conversation

Five Core Practices For Meaningful Conversation

Five Core Practices For Meaningful Conversation

with Oren Jay Sofer

Applied NVC • Article • Read Time: 4 - 6 minutes

Applied NVC
Article
Read Time: 4 - 6 minutes

If you’re interested in improving your relationships, advancing in your career, or enhancing your capacity for change in life in general, communication is a powerful lever. Presence, listening, bringing curiosity and care, focusing on what matters, and pausing with silence, are all key. Read on for five foundational and advanced core practices you can start using today to improve your...

Naturalizing NVC Language Series: I Don't Know Whether to Express Myself or Offer Empathy

Naturalizing NVC Language Series: I Don't Know Whether to Express Myself or Offer Empathy

Naturalizing NVC Language Series: I Don't Know Whether to Express Myself or Offer Empathy

with Miki Kashtan

Intermediate Skill Level • Video • 00:05 hours:minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Video
00:05 hours:minutes

CNVC Certified Trainer Miki Kashtan discusses how focusing on connection and care can guide us in expressing honestly and offering empathy.

Can the Social Order Be Transformed through Personal Practice? The Case of Nonviolent Communication - Part 1 of 2

Can the Social Order Be Transformed through Personal Practice? The Case of Nonviolent Communication - Part 1 of 2

Can the Social Order Be Transformed through Personal Practice? The Case of Nonviolent Communication - Part 1 of 2

with Miki Kashtan

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 15 - 23 minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 15 - 23 minutes

By focusing on NVC process and practice without factoring in the interdependent, systemic dimension we unwittingly diminish the power of NVC. We reinforce the dominant paradigm, rather than challenging it -- making NVC one more tool for compliance. NVC principles can turn against its own purpose in cruel ways. NVC could also empower social change. We'll need our attention on this matter if we...

From Obedience and Shame to Freedom and Belonging: Transforming Patriarchal Paradigms of Child-Rearing in the Age of Global Warming

From Obedience and Shame to Freedom and Belonging: Transforming Patriarchal Paradigms of Child-Rearing in the Age of Global Warming

From Obedience and Shame to Freedom and Belonging: Transforming Patriarchal Paradigms of Child-Rearing in the Age of Global Warming

with Miki Kashtan

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • 33 pages

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
33 pages

What will it take to reclaim our fundamental relatedness with all things alive, surrender our attempts to control nature, and find a way of living that averts or mitigates the worst possible catastrophes awaiting us while it's still possible?

Dialogue with Extended Family

Dialogue with Extended Family

Dialogue with Extended Family

with Miki Kashtan

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 01:14 hours:minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
01:14 hours:minutes

Many families are far more complex and varied than they used to be. In this recording, Miki works with participants, focusing on specific challenges they’re facing with family members. Listen In.

Meeting Our Need for Sexual Expression

Meeting Our Need for Sexual Expression

Meeting Our Need for Sexual Expression

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 1-2 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 1-2 minutes

Trainer Tip: To reduce defensiveness and hurt feelings when talking to your partner about your sexual needs that haven't been met, keep the conversation focused on your needs, not her lack of skill, and make a very specific request. From there, you can both explore any shared needs, blocks, or support needed to bring you both closer to your needs.

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