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Self-Empathy: A Direct Route to Personal Healing

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page

Trainer Tip: It is true that we cannot fully understand other people until we understand ourselves. Gain understanding and healing through self-empathy within the Compassionate Communication process.

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Reconciliation & Healing of Interpersonal Pain: Working with Marshall Rosenberg’s Four Part Process

with John Kinyon

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 02:05 hours:minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
02:05 hours:minutes

Experience John Kinyon's application of NVC Founder Marshall Rosenberg's 4-part model of reconciliation and healing, a model he developed over the course of decades of work with people around the world who have experienced the deep pain of violence.

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Healing Old Pain

with Robert Gonzales

Advanced Skill Level • Video • 00:41 hours:minutes

Advanced Skill Level
Video
00:41 hours:minutes

Watch this heartwarming video as Robert Gonzales works with a volunteer to heal old pain over a situation with her grandmother. By playing the grandmother role, and using three different role play scenarios, Robert guides the woman through three stages of healing.

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Houses of Healing: Kathleen Macferran at TEDx

with Kathleen Macferran

Beginner Skill Level • Video • 00:15 hours:minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Video
00:15 hours:minutes

Are we really safer when we put those who harm others behind bars and forget about them? Explore turning our prisons into houses of healing and creating connections that lead to greater safety for our communities.

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Anger’s Two Kinds of Reactivity

with Sarah Peyton

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read Time: 6 - 9 minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read Time: 6 - 9 minutes

There's reactive anger - the sudden outbursts of words, temper or action that create a nervous system response in another. And then there's the anger that's a reaction to someone's anger -- a nervous system startle-response. Instead of either of these, we can learn to heal with empathy, look for unequal power dynamics, take responsibility to make repairs, and shift into the clean, life-serving,...

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Understanding and Healing from Bullying, Giving and Receiving

with Sarah Peyton

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read Time: 6 - 9 minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read Time: 6 - 9 minutes

When bullying occurs, if we do our own healing, our brains can become more sharp and present and willing to take action to connect and to begin to shift and mitigate the harm that trauma does in our world. We can reduce trauma inflicted upon others when we recognize the patterns of abuse and bullying, hold zero tolerance for it, bring in support for both sides of the conflict, and take action to...

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Self-Empathy: Healing from the Inside Out (Complete Course)

with Mary Mackenzie

All Skill Levels • Audio • 5 - 7 hours

All Skill Levels
Audio
5 - 7 hours

Ever wish you knew how you might experience more choice when you've been triggered, instead of being trapped in old habits and unmet needs? Wish you could REALLY heal old internal messages that tell you you're not good enough… not loveable… or not deserving? Join veteran CNVC Certified Trainer, Mary Mackenzie, for this 6-session course designed to deepen your ability to connect with self and...

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Healing and Reconciliation (Complete Course)

with Ike Lasater and John Kinyon

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 7 - 9 hours

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
7 - 9 hours

Old emotional hurts and pains can easily erupt when you’re in the throes of conflict – even if you’re the mediator. Wouldn’t it be lovely if you could avoid all of that, and instead create more peace and happiness for yourself, your family, your co-workers and your community? The introductory session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy:

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Healing a Repetitive Reactive Dynamic

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 3-5 minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 3-5 minutes

In healing reactivity try identifying your most common complaints, wishes, or requests. Or when you tend to defend, justify, get angry, or protect. Find the tender needs. You can recall when you experienced deep nourishment of that need. Several times a week nourish your tender needs. Be clear about the strategy to address needs by answering key questions. Read on for more.

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Self-Empathy: Healing From the Inside Out (2017)

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Video • 00:44 hours:minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Video
00:44 hours:minutes

This session is from the NVC Academy's 2017 Telethon. Listen in as Mary offers two experiential self-empathy exercises: I Love It When, and What Do I Want / Why Do I Want It. Deepen your ability to connect with self — novel and effective ways to engage the process of Self-Empathy!

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Healing the Blame that Binds

with Kelly Bryson

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • 3 pages

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
3 pages

Blame is the game that protects me from the understanding that the cause of all my emotional distress, fear, shame and guilt comes from the part of me I call "the inner voice."

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Healing and Reconciliation (part 1)

with Ike Lasater and John Kinyon

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 01:10 hours:minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
01:10 hours:minutes

When you have intrusive thoughts about yourself and feel ‘crummy,’ Ike recommends using the Chooser / Educator map as a guide to lead you out of the primitive part of your brain and back to your prefrontal cortex. Both the Chooser and the Educator want to contribute to your well being, but in different ways. This map facilitates having a positive conversation with them.

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Self-Empathy: Healing from the Inside Out (part 1)

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 01:20 hours:minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
01:20 hours:minutes

Gain clarity around empathy and self-empathy with this perceptive teaching. Develop your capacity for presence, for connection, for discerning what's important, and more.

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Tips for the Road Series: Tip 13. The Eight Most Powerful Things You Can Do to Build an Inspiring Relationship

with Eric Bowers

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 4 pages

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
4 pages

What are the most powerful things I can do to build an inspired relationship? I answered the question with romantic relationships in mind; however, I believe the answer below applies to all important relationships.

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Past Stories, Present Feelings

with Sylvia Haskvitz

Intermediate Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 2 pages

Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
2 pages

Ask the Trainer: "I have noticed that sometimes when I am in a story-telling mood I am usually trying to prove that I am right and once I connect with a need the urge to give all the information goes away."

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Where Do Jackal Voices Come From?

with Stephanie Bachmann Mattei

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • 4 pages

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
4 pages

CNVC Certified Trainer Stephanie Bachmann Mattei explores the biological basis of our inner jackal voices.

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Prepare for Love (Complete Course)

with Eric Bowers

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 09:07 hours:minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
09:07 hours:minutes

Join Eric Bowers in transforming past relationship pain, coming alive in community and creating thriving relationships. This 12 session Telecourse recording brings together Eric's passions for Nonviolent Communication, Attachment Theory and Interpersonal Neurobiology.

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An Introduction to Self-Compassion (Complete Course)

with Robert Gonzales

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 11:12 hours:minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
11:12 hours:minutes

In this 10 session telecourse recording, world renowned CNVC Certified Trainer Robert Gonzales will help you discover a new level of self-acceptance that can lead to profound emotional healing and a deeper spiritual presence.

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Nonviolence in the Face of Hatred

with Miki Kashtan

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 14 - 21 minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 14 - 21 minutes

When Anita's sister reveals that the Ku Klux Klan broke into her home and dragged her out into a field towards a burning cross, Anita's commitment to nonviolence is challenged. Here, Miki highlights practices and lessons from her story of inner struggle -- including an insight about how, even in extreme polarization, our freedom and healing is wrapped up in others' freedom and healing.

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Self-Empathy Overview, Parts 1-3

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 00:34 hours:minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
00:34 hours:minutes

In this inspiring 3-part audio recording, Mary Mackenzie, renowned for her self-empathy practice, speaks about the value of self-empathy as a daily practice and the profound healing that naturally occurs as a result.

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