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Meeting Our Need for Honesty

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page

Trainer Tip: Mary offers a perspective on how to know if our need for honesty is being met.

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Honesty as a Means to Connect

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 1-2 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 1-2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Notice an opportunity today to use honesty as a means to connect with someone else. Consider what type of honesty might stimulate pain in others.

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Two-Way Street Empathy and Honesty

with Liv Larsson

Intermediate Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 00:03 hours:minutes/seconds

Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
00:03 hours:minutes/seconds

Ask the Trainer: "I recently attended an NVC workshop where the focus was entirely upon empathy, and expressing honestly was not covered. Aren't empathy and honesty both vital NVC components?"

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Expressing Vulnerable Honesty While Fearful

with Arnina Kashtan

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 00:30 hours/minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
00:30 hours/minutes

What do you do when you are thinking that it's not "emotionally safe" to speak honestly? Join CNVC Certified Trainer Arnina Kashtan as she explores this topic with a workshop participant.

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Overcoming Unworthiness to Express Vulnerable Honesty

with Arnina Kashtan

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 00:09 hours/minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
00:09 hours/minutes

Does unworthiness keep you from expressing vulnerably and honestly? Afraid of being "found out?" Join CNVC Certified Trainer Arnina Kashtan as she explores this topic with a workshop participant to discern stories from needs, recognize the tension between self-acceptance and personal development and sit with the discomfort of self-acceptance.

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Transparency: What We Are Afraid to Say

with Kelly Bryson

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 00:29 hours:minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
00:29 hours:minutes

Kelly Bryson, CNVC Certified Trainer known for teaching people how to live authentically, focuses this audio on honesty: how to express what you're most afraid to say, when honesty is the best choice to support connection and how to employ "naked" honesty.

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Compassion: Mature, Astute & Courageous

with Rachelle Lamb

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 10 - 15 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 10 - 15 minutes

Getting "feel good" empathy can become an addiction. Even to the point of seeing people who don't offer empathy as "not being NVC". Rachelle urges us to notice how this view of NVC can be seductive, and even dangerous. In this article, she explains how we can expand our compassionate awareness when we go beyond equating NVC with harmony and empathy. She asks us to become more open to noticing...

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The Price of Nice

with Kelly Bryson

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • 8 pages

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
8 pages

Have you been nice? Well then you must be enjoying the reward: depression, intermittent explosiveness, job meaninglessness, ambiguous anxiety, low resentment and subtle self hate.

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Differentiating Between Feelings And Faux Feelings

with NVC Academy

Introductory Skill Level • Learning Tool • N/A

Introductory Skill Level
Learning Tool
N/A

This chart is intended as an aid to translating words that are often confused with feelings. These words imply that someone is doing something to you and generally connote wrongness or blame. To use this list, when somebody says “I’m feeling rejected,” you might translate this as: “Are you feeling scared because you have a need for inclusion?”

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Conflict Improv: She Talks Too Much!

with Christine King

Intermediate Skill Level • Video • 00:08 hours:minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Video
00:08 hours:minutes

In this edition of Conflict Improv, CNVC Certified Trainer Christine King navigates the challenging practice of expressing honesty when that expression might easily be heard as criticism.

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How to Interrupt

with Jeff Brown

Intermediate Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 3 pages

Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
3 pages

Ask the Trainer: "I feel a lot of fear or nervousness about approaching a neighbor who uses 'wastebasket talk.' Once she's engaged, there are only two techniques that interrupt the flow: leaving or interrupting."

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How I Changed My Relationship to Time

with Miki Kashtan

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 8 - 12 minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 8 - 12 minutes

What would happen if you considered that time is a concept, and that it doesn't rule your life? What would it mean to make all choices based on needs and not on time? Do you obey the external rhythm of the clock over and above the internal rhythm of your life energy? This is an invitation into more responsibility, awareness, honesty, choice and freedom.

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Facilitating Connection

with Jim & Jori Manske

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 00:59 hours:minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
00:59 hours:minutes

Expressing ourselves honestly is sometimes scary because we can't predict where the conversation will go after we've made ourselves vulnerable. This recording will demonstrate how the power of our honesty is enhanced by ending on a clear and present request.

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Connection Requests: Motivations and Examples Article

with Inbal Kashtan and Miki Kashtan

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • 5 pages

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
5 pages

Connection requests focus on the quality of connection between people instead of on any particular strategy or solution.

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Group Feedback

with Sylvia Haskvitz

Advanced Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 2 pages

Advanced Skill Level
Trainer Tip
2 pages

Ask the Trainer: "I'm part of a small, self-led NVC group that's been working together for almost two years. We are experiencing some growing pains in that we're still not certain how and under what circumstances to make requests, especially negative ones."

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Key Differentiations in Nonviolent Communication

with Sylvia Haskvitz

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 01:00 hours:minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
01:00 hours:minutes

Veteran CNVC Certified Trainer, Sylvia Haskvitz, reviews the key distinctions (sometimes referred to as the key differentiations) in Nonviolent Communication.

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Understanding I’m Not Responsible for Another's Feelings

with Jeff Brown

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 2 pages

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
2 pages

Ask the Trainer: "I understand that I'm not responsible for someone else's feelings, but my girlfriend doesn't. Do you have ideas for how I could get her to understand this concept?"

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Truth as an Act of Love

with Kelly Bryson

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 02:14 hours:minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
02:14 hours:minutes

Speaking the truth creates congruence, which creates trust, facilitating understanding and cooperation. Without truth there is no growth in our relationships and community. If this is true, then what keeps us from speaking our truth?

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A List of Needs We All Have

with NVC Academy

Introductory Skill Level • Learning Tool • N/A

Introductory Skill Level
Learning Tool
N/A

In a Nonviolent Communication model, we believe that everything someone does or says is an attempt to meet a need. That means that all actions or words are in service to a deep internal need. The following list of needs is neither exhaustive nor definitive.

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Expressing Ourselves Honestly

with Mary Mackenzie

Introductory Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 1-2 minutes

Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 1-2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Be aware of opportunities to be honest holding the intention to connect with people. If you do this with the elements of brevity, directness, and respect, you can increase your chances of being heard. If they don't like your honesty, consider switching to empathizing with them by listening to their feelings and needs.

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