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Releasing Our Judgments

Releasing Our Judgments

Releasing Our Judgments

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 1-2 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 1-2 minutes

Trainer Tip: It's impossible to value other people’s needs and remain compassionate if we simultaneously harbor judgments. If we're willing to shift this behavior we can translate our judgments into acknowledging how something affects us. Once I got into the habit of this, my judgments began to subside dramatically. It became easy to love people and feel compassion for them, and I experienced a...

Getting Past Our Judgments

Getting Past Our Judgments

Getting Past Our Judgments

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page

Trainer Tip: Using NVC as a tool to transform our judgments can revolutionize our perceptions and relationships.

Observing without Judgment

Observing without Judgment

Observing without Judgment

with Mary Mackenzie

Introductory Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 1-2 minutes

Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 1-2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Today, identify the facts, without adding your ideas about why people behave in certain ways. Then consider connecting with the person about what was going on with them. You will find that the more you observe life without judgment and evaluation, the more open you will be to hearing and connecting with other people.

Losing Our Judgments

Losing Our Judgments

Losing Our Judgments

with Mary Mackenzie

Introductory Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 1-2 minutes

Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 1-2 minutes

Trainer tip: Various life circumstances that can seem to be something that we don't want, and we may think of them as bad. And then later the situation may reveal that it's a circumstance that we do want, and we may think of it as good. Instead, of evaluating our day as good or bad we can acknowledge the feelings and needs that are present. Read on for a few anecdotes that illustrate this.

Are You Living Your True Potential?

Are You Living Your True Potential?

Are You Living Your True Potential?

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 5-8 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 5-8 minutes

How can we live up to our true potential, a life filled with relationships and experiences that truly meet our needs? In this article, Mary offers us a way to bring about inner transformation that can lead to seeing ourselves, others and life differently -- for greater agency, empowerment and choice.

Listening as an Essential Leadership Skill

Listening as an Essential Leadership Skill

Listening as an Essential Leadership Skill

with Lorraine Aguilar

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 00:08 hours:minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
00:08 hours:minutes

Lorraine perceives NVC-based listening to be an essential skill to cultivate for success in the business world. A key exercise for building your listening muscle is to work with your judgments of others by translating those judgments from “What’s wrong with them?” to “What's important to me?”

I'll Work on Me, You Work on You

I'll Work on Me, You Work on You

I'll Work on Me, You Work on You

with Jim Manske

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 5-8 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 5-8 minutes

As a beginner in NVC, you might find your attempts to practice your NVC only increases conflict, disconnection and upset in your interactions with people. Or perhaps people start seeing you as inauthentic. From there, you may find yourself sinking deeper into self-judgement. In this article, Jim Manske shows us how to shift these potential unintended outcomes, into deeper NVC consciousness that...

The Price of Nice

The Price of Nice

The Price of Nice

with Kelly Bryson

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • 8 pages

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
8 pages

Have you been nice? Well then you must be enjoying the reward: depression, intermittent explosiveness, job meaninglessness, ambiguous anxiety, low resentment and subtle self hate.

Using Therapeutic Communication to Connect with Patients

Using Therapeutic Communication to Connect with Patients

Using Therapeutic Communication to Connect with Patients

with Melanie Sears

Advanced Skill Level • Article • 5 pages

Advanced Skill Level
Article
5 pages

"I was taught in Nursing School that when someone expressed a feeling to reflect it back. I tried this technique in the room of a patient who had just received a diagnosis of cancer."

We Don’t Need to Fix Other People

We Don’t Need to Fix Other People

We Don’t Need to Fix Other People

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 1-2 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 1-2 minutes

Trainer Tip: The very process of giving someone space to talk about their issue without our judgment, to be truly understood by us, and to be deeply heard is very healing, enough so that most people will organically find their own creative ways to resolve their issues. Rely on this process and you will lose all desire to fix people’s problems. Try this out today.

Conflict Improv: She Talks Too Much!

Conflict Improv: She Talks Too Much!

Conflict Improv: She Talks Too Much!

with Christine King

Intermediate Skill Level • Video • 00:08 hours:minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Video
00:08 hours:minutes

In this edition of Conflict Improv, CNVC Certified Trainer Christine King navigates the challenging practice of expressing honesty when that expression might easily be heard as criticism.

Anatomy of a Trigger: Change Your Focus and Improve the Outcome

Anatomy of a Trigger: Change Your Focus and Improve the Outcome

Anatomy of a Trigger: Change Your Focus and Improve the Outcome

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 7-10 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 7-10 minutes

When you or anyone is upset, what could underneath it all? There may be more than is immediately visible. This article invites us to explore what it looks like to inquire deeper, take self-responsibility, examine our assumptions, attachments, interpretations, and "certainties" that could be hidden behind the needs that are aching to be attended to...

Developing Discernment

Developing Discernment

Developing Discernment

with Jim & Jori Manske

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 00:43 hours:minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
00:43 hours:minutes

Listen to Jim and Jori Manske share their understanding of discernment to gain clarity, insight, and wisdom for making life-serving distinctions and choices.

Open-Hearted Disagreement

Open-Hearted Disagreement

Open-Hearted Disagreement

with Miki Kashtan

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 00:06 hours:minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
00:06 hours:minutes

Miki demonstrates how to work with judgmental thinking, offering a two-step process to shift from right/wrong thinking about our disagreements to a more open-hearted state of being.

Defusing Anger

Defusing Anger

Defusing Anger

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page

Trainer Tip: Many of us are afraid of our anger because we haven’t learned how to express it in a way that brings relief or that helps us meet our needs in the situation. Consider a different approach to anger, one that helps you fully express your anger and is more likely to help you meet your needs for relief, to be heard, or to be understood.

Judging and Feeling Judged

Judging and Feeling Judged

Judging and Feeling Judged

with Miki Kashtan

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 00:18 hours:minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
00:18 hours:minutes

In this potent audio, expert trainer Miki Kashtan demonstrates the eye-opening experience of translating judgments into needs. She works with a mother who is stuck in a loop of feeling judged by family members and judging them back.

Enemy Images Process and Exercise

Enemy Images Process and Exercise

Enemy Images Process and Exercise

with Jeff Brown

Intermediate Skill Level • Practice Exercise • N/A

Intermediate Skill Level
Practice Exercise
N/A

Ask the Trainer: "What guidance do you have for working with enemy images? Can you say some things about processes and/or exercises that can bring relief from this trap?"

Self-Empathy "Wrap" Process

Self-Empathy "Wrap" Process

Self-Empathy "Wrap" Process

with Mary Mackenzie

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 00:46 hours:minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
00:46 hours:minutes

In this inspiring audio, Mary takes to a more profound level the traditional NVC self-empathy process of identifying judgments, feelings and needs, by adding a "wrapping" component.

Past Stories, Present Feelings

Past Stories, Present Feelings

Past Stories, Present Feelings

with Sylvia Haskvitz

Intermediate Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 2 pages

Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
2 pages

Ask the Trainer: "I have noticed that sometimes when I am in a story-telling mood I am usually trying to prove that I am right and once I connect with a need the urge to give all the information goes away."

Key Assumptions and Intentions of NVC

Key Assumptions and Intentions of NVC

Key Assumptions and Intentions of NVC

with Inbal Kashtan and Miki Kashtan

Introductory Skill Level • Learning Tool • 3 pages

Introductory Skill Level
Learning Tool
3 pages

NVC practice is based on several key assumptions and intentions. When we live based on these assumptions and intentions, self-connection and connection with others become increasingly possible and easy, helping us contribute to a world where everyone’s needs are attended to peacefully.

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