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Moralistic Judgments

Moralistic Judgments

Moralistic Judgments

with Mary Mackenzie

Introductory Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 1-2 minutes

Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 1-2 minutes

Trainer tip: When we express moralistic judgments we are implying that other people are wrong or bad because they don’t act in ways that are in harmony with our values. Judging the situation or people can create distance and hurt. Instead, we can express our needs and how we're affected, bringing greater connection and healing. Today, notice how often you judge, and how you feel when you judge.

Releasing Our Judgments

Releasing Our Judgments

Releasing Our Judgments

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 1-2 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 1-2 minutes

Trainer Tip: It's impossible to value other people’s needs and remain compassionate if we simultaneously harbor judgments. If we're willing to shift this behavior we can translate our judgments into acknowledging how something affects us. Once I got into the habit of this, my judgments began to subside dramatically. It became easy to love people and feel compassion for them, and I experienced a...

Getting Past Our Judgments

Getting Past Our Judgments

Getting Past Our Judgments

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page

Trainer Tip: Using NVC as a tool to transform our judgments can revolutionize our perceptions and relationships.

Comparing Ourselves to Others

Comparing Ourselves to Others

Comparing Ourselves to Others

with Mary Mackenzie

Introductory Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 1-2 minutes

Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 1-2 minutes

Trainer tip: Comparisons are a form of judgment. The minute we compare ourselves to other people, we are setting ourselves up for pain and discouragement. We are setting them up too, and erecting a barrier between ourselves and them. Instead, notice how you feel about other people’s assets or foibles, and what needs come up for you. Read on for more.

Observing without Judgment

Observing without Judgment

Observing without Judgment

with Mary Mackenzie

Introductory Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 1-2 minutes

Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 1-2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Today, identify the facts, without adding your ideas about why people behave in certain ways. Then consider connecting with the person about what was going on with them. You will find that the more you observe life without judgment and evaluation, the more open you will be to hearing and connecting with other people.

Losing Our Judgments

Losing Our Judgments

Losing Our Judgments

with Mary Mackenzie

Introductory Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 1-2 minutes

Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 1-2 minutes

Trainer tip: Various life circumstances that can seem to be something that we don't want, and we may think of them as bad. And then later the situation may reveal that it's a circumstance that we do want, and we may think of it as good. Instead, of evaluating our day as good or bad we can acknowledge the feelings and needs that are present. Read on for a few anecdotes that illustrate this.

Are You Living Your True Potential?

Are You Living Your True Potential?

Are You Living Your True Potential?

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 5-8 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 5-8 minutes

How can we live up to our true potential, a life filled with relationships and experiences that truly meet our needs? In this article, Mary offers us a way to bring about inner transformation that can lead to seeing ourselves, others and life differently -- for greater agency, empowerment and choice.

I'll Work on Me, You Work on You

I'll Work on Me, You Work on You

I'll Work on Me, You Work on You

with Jim Manske

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 5-8 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 5-8 minutes

As a beginner in NVC, you might find your attempts to practice your NVC only increases conflict, disconnection and upset in your interactions with people. Or perhaps people start seeing you as inauthentic. From there, you may find yourself sinking deeper into self-judgement. In this article, Jim Manske shows us how to shift these potential unintended outcomes, into deeper NVC consciousness that...

Listening as an Essential Leadership Skill

Listening as an Essential Leadership Skill

Listening as an Essential Leadership Skill

with Lorraine Aguilar

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 00:08 hours:minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
00:08 hours:minutes

Lorraine perceives NVC-based listening to be an essential skill to cultivate for success in the business world. A key exercise for building your listening muscle is to work with your judgments of others by translating those judgments from “What’s wrong with them?” to “What's important to me?”

We Don’t Need to Fix Other People

We Don’t Need to Fix Other People

We Don’t Need to Fix Other People

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 1-2 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 1-2 minutes

Trainer Tip: The very process of giving someone space to talk about their issue without our judgment, to be truly understood by us, and to be deeply heard is very healing, enough so that most people will organically find their own creative ways to resolve their issues. Rely on this process and you will lose all desire to fix people’s problems. Try this out today.

Using Therapeutic Communication to Connect with Patients

Using Therapeutic Communication to Connect with Patients

Using Therapeutic Communication to Connect with Patients

with Melanie Sears

Advanced Skill Level • Article • 5 pages

Advanced Skill Level
Article
5 pages

"I was taught in Nursing School that when someone expressed a feeling to reflect it back. I tried this technique in the room of a patient who had just received a diagnosis of cancer."

Conflict Improv: She Talks Too Much!

Conflict Improv: She Talks Too Much!

Conflict Improv: She Talks Too Much!

with Christine King

Intermediate Skill Level • Video • 00:08 hours:minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Video
00:08 hours:minutes

In this edition of Conflict Improv, CNVC Certified Trainer Christine King navigates the challenging practice of expressing honesty when that expression might easily be heard as criticism.

What is Nonviolent Communication?

What is Nonviolent Communication?

What is Nonviolent Communication?

with Mary Mackenzie

Introductory Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 1-2 minutes

Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 1-2 minutes

Trainer tip: NVC focuses on shared human values and needs, and encourages the use of language that increases good will -- plus avoidance of language that contributes to resentment or lowered self-esteem. It emphasizes taking personal responsibility for choices and improving the quality of relationships as a primary goal. For today, focus on making observations without moralistic judgment in at...

Anatomy of a Trigger: Change Your Focus and Improve the Outcome

Anatomy of a Trigger: Change Your Focus and Improve the Outcome

Anatomy of a Trigger: Change Your Focus and Improve the Outcome

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 7-10 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 7-10 minutes

When you or anyone is upset, what could underneath it all? There may be more than is immediately visible. This article invites us to explore what it looks like to inquire deeper, take self-responsibility, examine our assumptions, attachments, interpretations, and "certainties" that could be hidden behind the needs that are aching to be attended to...

Nothing but the Facts

Nothing but the Facts

Nothing but the Facts

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 1-2 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 1-2 minutes

Trainer Tip: There's often a large gap between what we experience, and the story we make up about it. Noticing how our judgments and assumptions cloud our observations can be critical to creating a connection with others and maintaining a Nonviolent Communication consciousness.

Catch Unhealthy Relationship Dynamics Early

Catch Unhealthy Relationship Dynamics Early

Catch Unhealthy Relationship Dynamics Early

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé

Advanced Skill Level • Article • Read time: 4-6 minutes

Advanced Skill Level
Article
Read time: 4-6 minutes

Little negative impacts can become big when left unattended. Watch for things like using a sharp tone, choosing not to share something, going along with something when you don’t really want to, trying to convince your partner, impulsively turning away, shrinking, losing access to parts of yourself, hiding, daydreaming about a different life, and judgmental thoughts. Instead, shift the dynamic:...

Defusing Anger

Defusing Anger

Defusing Anger

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page

Trainer Tip: Many of us are afraid of our anger because we haven’t learned how to express it in a way that brings relief or that helps us meet our needs in the situation. Consider a different approach to anger, one that helps you fully express your anger and is more likely to help you meet your needs for relief, to be heard, or to be understood.

Developing Discernment

Developing Discernment

Developing Discernment

with Jim & Jori Manske

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 00:43 hours:minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
00:43 hours:minutes

Listen to Jim and Jori Manske share their understanding of discernment to gain clarity, insight, and wisdom for making life-serving distinctions and choices.

Open-Hearted Disagreement

Open-Hearted Disagreement

Open-Hearted Disagreement

with Miki Kashtan

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 00:06 hours:minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
00:06 hours:minutes

Miki demonstrates how to work with judgmental thinking, offering a two-step process to shift from right/wrong thinking about our disagreements to a more open-hearted state of being.

Power Relations and Connection Across Differences in US Society: An NVC Perspective (Complete Course)

Power Relations and Connection Across Differences in US Society: An NVC Perspective (Complete Course)

Power Relations and Connection Across Differences in US Society: An NVC Perspective (Complete Course)

with Inbal Kashtan and Roxy Manning

Advanced Skill Level • Audio • 03:17 hours:minutes

Advanced Skill Level
Audio
03:17 hours:minutes

Join CNVC Certified Trainers Inbal Kashtan and Roxy Manning, for a passionate and intimate exploration of how NVC can support personal and social transformation in the area of power relations and social divisions. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

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