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Meeting Our Need for Sexual Expression

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 1-2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 1-2 minutes
Trainer Tip: To reduce defensiveness and hurt feelings when talking to your partner about your sexual needs that haven't been met, keep the conversation focused on your needs, not her lack of skill, and make a very specific request. From there, you can both explore any shared needs, blocks, or support needed to bring you both closer to your needs.

The Shadow Side of Autonomy

All Skill Levels • Article • Read time: 8 - 12 minutes
All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 8 - 12 minutes
Could our "need for autonomy" be getting in the way of "partnership consciousness" (as NVC is sometimes called). Could "autonomy" also block healthy relationships with not only ourselves and with others, but also with the planet? This article invites us to consider how "autonomy" may colour our NVC practice at the peril of our critical values. Values such as our care for impact, shared...

The Ultimate Romance

All Skill Levels • Article • Read time: 6 - 9 minutes
All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 6 - 9 minutes
For the ultimate romance to unfold, as an expression of your care for how your words and actions affect others, prioritize digging into your inner work before addressing conflict with them. This means doing the inner work necessary to get to the root of the issue, which can bring bigger shifts, more aliveness, love, creativity, inspiration and compassion. This doesn't mean letting the other...

The Value of Taking a Step Back

Beginner Skill Level • Article • 4 pages
Beginner Skill Level
Article
4 pages
Have you ever gotten a fishing line all tangled up? You got so frustrated you just started yanking on the different loops of line, which of course made the knots and tangles even tighter and more difficult to untangle. Wouldn’t it be great if you could notice the minute you were starting to tangle things up in a discussion with your loved one?

How to Survive the Holidays: 6 Communication Tips

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read Time: 6 - 10 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read Time: 6 - 10 minutes
For many, spending time with relatives over the holidays may be challenging. In addition to the love and care we may feel, family gatherings can bring up old hurts or expose painful differences. How many family meals have been marred by tense silence or devolved into harsh argument?

A List of Feelings We All Have (Emotions and Sensations)

Introductory Skill Level • Learning Tool • N/A
Introductory Skill Level
Learning Tool
N/A
The following list of words are used to express a combination of emotional states and physical sensations. This list is neither exhaustive nor definitive. It is meant as a starting place to help you develop your emotional vocabulary and further support your communication with others.

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 11. Catching Hearts

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page
When we take a leap in life and put our hearts out into the world in new or bigger ways—sharing a song, dance, or poem, writing a book, competing at a sporting event, giving a speech, and so on—there is greater potential for aliveness but also for shame and pain

The Cause of Our Feelings

with John Kinyon and Miki Kashtan
Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 3 pages
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
3 pages
Ask the Trainer: “I would love some clarity about the NVC perspective on the cause of our feelings. It seems to me that my needs may be met or not, but the cause of my painful feelings is my story around the situation.”

Embracing Nonviolence (Part 4)

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 00:44 hours:minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
00:44 hours:minutes
Listen to Miki place NVC within the tradition of nonviolence and to support you in learning what it takes to integrate the commitment to nonviolence all the way into the deepest structures of your thoughts; to speak in ways that carry this commitment forward into all your relationships; and to apply this consciousness in all your actions, including your participation in the collective enterprise...

Embracing Nonviolence (Part 3)

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 00:48 hours:minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
00:48 hours:minutes
Listen to Miki place NVC within the tradition of nonviolence and to support you in learning what it takes to integrate the commitment to nonviolence all the way into the deepest structures of your thoughts; to speak in ways that carry this commitment forward into all your relationships; and to apply this consciousness in all your actions, including your participation in the collective enterprise...

Embracing Nonviolence (Part 2)

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 00:47 hours:minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
00:47 hours:minutes
Listen to Miki place NVC within the tradition of nonviolence and to support you in learning what it takes to integrate the commitment to nonviolence all the way into the deepest structures of your thoughts; to speak in ways that carry this commitment forward into all your relationships; and to apply this consciousness in all your actions, including your participation in the collective enterprise...

Embracing Nonviolence (Part 1)

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 00:42 hours:minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
00:42 hours:minutes
Listen to Miki place NVC within the tradition of nonviolence and to support you in learning what it takes to integrate the commitment to nonviolence all the way into the deepest structures of your thoughts; to speak in ways that carry this commitment forward into all your relationships; and to apply this consciousness in all your actions, including your participation in the collective enterprise...

 
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