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Mourning Our Losses

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page

Trainer Tip: Mourning enables us to heal the pain and gain clarity about how to meet our needs in the present moment.

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NVC Life Hacks 6: Mourning

with Shantigarbha Warren

Beginner Skill Level • Video • 00:04 hours:minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Video
00:04 hours:minutes

Mourning is not just a process that happens after someone dies: it's an experience we go through with loss of any kind. Here, Shantigarbha offers us seven tips for working with mourning and healing.

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Celebrating Mourning

with Christine King

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • 2 pages

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
2 pages

On a recent vacation in a Mexican village, I was surprised to find myself in the midst of a community in mourning. Two days before I came, a 21-year-old girl the entire town knew had died in a car accident.

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Taste of Compassionate Leadership Series: Mourning and Celebration

with Jim & Jori Manske

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 00:35 hours:minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
00:35 hours:minutes

Join Jori and Jim Manske to explore, learn and practice an NVC approach to mourning and celebration.

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Mourning Our Disappointments

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page

Trainer Tip: Taking time to mourn our regrets and unmet needs can lead to a deeper self-connection and feelings of peace.

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Mourning and Celebration: Two Sides of Gratitude

with David Weinstock

Introductory Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read Time: 1 - 2 minutes

Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read Time: 1 - 2 minutes

Mourning, grief and celebration is a way to connect with what we love and want to honor. In this trainer tip we learn that these three things can become a way for us to understand our emotions regarding our losses and appreciations.

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Mourning Our Way to Acceptance

with Miki Kashtan

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 7 - 11 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 7 - 11 minutes

When something happens that we don't like no amount of resentment nor magical thinking will make it disappear. Instead, we can mourn to dissolve our own resistance, resentment, and numbness of resignation. Mourning can allow us to feel pain with acceptance, and without needing to be okay with what happened. Acceptance can bring us to a place where even all the anguish in the world is fully, part...

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The Shadow Side of Autonomy

with Rachelle Lamb

All Skill Levels • Article • Read time: 8 - 12 minutes

All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 8 - 12 minutes

Could our "need for autonomy" be getting in the way of "partnership consciousness" (as NVC is sometimes called). Could "autonomy" also block healthy relationships with not only ourselves and with others, but also with the planet? This article invites us to consider how "autonomy" may colour our NVC practice at the peril of our critical values. Values such as our care for impact, shared...

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Opening Hearts in Israel, Palestine, India and Sri Lanka

with Shantigarbha Warren

Beginner Skill Level • Article • 11 pages

Beginner Skill Level
Article
11 pages

CNVC Certified Trainer Shantigarbha Warren offers a report of his recent NVC training trip to Israel/Palestine, India and Sri Lanka and clarifies how NVC can support social change in three very different contexts. Included is an exercise, based on Gandhi’s teaching.

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Why Don’t They Get It?

with Roxy Manning

All Skill Levels • Article • Read time: 5 - 8 minutes

All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 5 - 8 minutes

What can we do when someone tells us we're contributing to a pattern we're genuinely not seeing (nor experiencing)? What makes these patterns visible to some people but not others? This article addresses these things by talking about what to factor in when receiving feedback; handling feedback; responding relationally; paying attention to social location; considering impact; plus, broadening our...

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Connecting Feelings and Needs

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page

Trainer Tip: When we connect our feelings to our needs, we put ourselves in a postion to get our needs met and mourn when they aren't met. Here's a practical tip you can practice daily to improve the quality of your life.

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Living Room Radio Show (Parts 1-3)

with Miki Kashtan

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 00:16 hours:minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
00:16 hours:minutes

Miki Kashtan hosts Living Room Radio Show on KPFA Radio 94.1FM in Berkeley, California, USA. Listen as she works with guests of the show to deal with some of their personal struggles.

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Valuing My Needs When I Habitually Don't

with John Kinyon

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 00:09 hours:minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
00:09 hours:minutes

Listen to John answer an NVC Multimedia Library member's question about what we can do when we habitually place other's needs ahead our own. Healing and change can be reached through compassionate self-connection, mourning and mindfulness.

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Connecting with Spiritual Clarity

with Jim Manske

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 2 - 3 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 2 - 3 minutes

We can cultivate spiritual clarity through bringing attention to our intentions, mourning, gratitude, and the dynamic flow of feelings and needs. This can bring more autonomy, choice and liberate the energy of connection and contribution. We can also awaken our hearts to see the reality that our well-being is mutually interdependent. Read on for more.

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From Obedience and Shame to Freedom and Belonging: Transforming Patriarchal Paradigms of Child-Rearing in the Age of Global Warming

with Miki Kashtan

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • 33 pages

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
33 pages

What will it take to reclaim our fundamental relatedness with all things alive, surrender our attempts to control nature, and find a way of living that averts or mitigates the worst possible catastrophes awaiting us while it's still possible?

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Let it RAIN!

with Jim Manske

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 5 - 8 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 5 - 8 minutes

This article outlines a four-part transformation process to help us recognize what's giving rise to our suffering and resentment -- and transform it into more freedom, creativity, and choice.

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How Do I Love Those Who Hate Me?

with Roxy Manning

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 6 - 9 minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 6 - 9 minutes

There are times when someone judges us, or meets us with prejudice, and its easier for us to respond by hating them, or judging ourselves as not good enough. How can we love another person instead without excusing their actions? Roxy tells us her story with wonderment, grief and mourning.

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Taste of Compassionate Leadership Series: The Zero Step

with Jim & Jori Manske

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 00:41 hours:minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
00:41 hours:minutes

Jori and Jim Manske offer a process they call "The Zero Step," encompassing the characteristics of warmth toward self and other, care for the vitality of both yourself and other(s), wonder/interest, vulnerability and empathy, which leads directly to connection requestsand an openness to outcome.

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Transforming Painful Patterns

with Arnina Kashtan

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • 7 pages

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
7 pages

Why is it so difficult to change our patterns even when we want to, even when we experience shame or despair about them? Here are common pitfalls and concrete steps to overcome them in the future.

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Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
00:40 hours/minutes

CNVC Certified Trainer Arnina Kashtan talks about what she calls "witnessing humanity," touching on the gift of presence, empathy vs. identification and staying present in the face of intensity.

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