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NVC Life Hacks 6: Mourning

Beginner Skill Level • Video • 00:04 hours:minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Video
00:04 hours:minutes

Mourning is not just a process that happens after someone dies: it's an experience we go through with loss of any kind. Here, Shantigarbha offers us seven tips for working with mourning and healing.

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Celebrating Mourning

with Christine King

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • 2 pages

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
2 pages

On a recent vacation in a Mexican village, I was surprised to find myself in the midst of a community in mourning. Two days before I came, a 21-year-old girl the entire town knew had died in a car accident.

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Mourning Our Way to Acceptance

with Miki Kashtan

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 7 - 11 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 7 - 11 minutes

When something happens that we don't like no amount of resentment nor magical thinking will make it disappear. Instead, we can mourn to dissolve our own resistance, resentment, and numbness of resignation. Mourning can allow us to feel pain with acceptance, and without needing to be okay with what happened. Acceptance can bring us to a place where even all the anguish in the world is fully, part...

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Mourning Our Disappointments

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page

Trainer Tip: Taking time to mourn our regrets and unmet needs can lead to a deeper self-connection and feelings of peace.

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Grief and Mourning for the World

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 5-7 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 5-7 minutes

As you witness injustices in the world, tension, anger, hopelessness, despair and more, may rise up in you. These feelings may lead to reactive thinking that doesn't contribute to healing nor wise action. Mourning is a universal need. If your culture pushed away grief and its emotional expression, you may have habits that block your access to the aliveness of grief. Read on for ways to give...

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Mourning and Celebration: Two Sides of Gratitude

with David Weinstock

Introductory Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read Time: 1 - 2 minutes

Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read Time: 1 - 2 minutes

Mourning, grief and celebration is a way to connect with what we love and want to honor. In this trainer tip we learn that these three things can become a way for us to understand our emotions regarding our losses and appreciations.

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Taste of Compassionate Leadership Series: Mourning and Celebration

with Jim & Jori Manske

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 00:35 hours:minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
00:35 hours:minutes

Join Jori and Jim Manske to explore, learn and practice an NVC approach to mourning and celebration.

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Opening Hearts in Israel, Palestine, India and Sri Lanka

with Shantigarbha Warren

Beginner Skill Level • Article • 11 pages

Beginner Skill Level
Article
11 pages

CNVC Certified Trainer Shantigarbha Warren offers a report of his recent NVC training trip to Israel/Palestine, India and Sri Lanka and clarifies how NVC can support social change in three very different contexts. Included is an exercise, based on Gandhi’s teaching.

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Don't Take It Personally

with Rachelle Lamb

All Skill Levels • Article • Read time: 10 - 15 minutes

All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 10 - 15 minutes

When we don't like what someone is saying to us, sometimes people encourage us to hear their needs, and "not take it personally" -- and we're inclined to agree. Could "not taking it personally" close our hearts and awareness to others, life and ourselves? Rachelle Lamb invites us to take a closer look at what it's like when we attend to the situation from our hearts, and skillfully reflect upon...

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Connecting Feelings and Needs

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page

Trainer Tip: When we connect our feelings to our needs, we put ourselves in a postion to get our needs met and mourn when they aren't met. Here's a practical tip you can practice daily to improve the quality of your life.

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Valuing My Needs When I Habitually Don't

with John Kinyon

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 00:09 hours:minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
00:09 hours:minutes

Listen to John answer an NVC Multimedia Library member's question about what we can do when we habitually place other's needs ahead our own. Healing and change can be reached through compassionate self-connection, mourning and mindfulness.

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Connecting with Spiritual Clarity

with Jim Manske

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 2 - 3 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 2 - 3 minutes

We can cultivate spiritual clarity through bringing attention to our intentions, mourning, gratitude, and the dynamic flow of feelings and needs. This can bring more autonomy, choice and liberate the energy of connection and contribution. We can also awaken our hearts to see the reality that our well-being is mutually interdependent. Read on for more.

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How Do I Love Those Who Hate Me?

with Roxy Manning

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 6 - 9 minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 6 - 9 minutes

There are times when someone judges us, or meets us with prejudice, and its easier for us to respond by hating them, or judging ourselves as not good enough. How can we love another person instead without excusing their actions? Roxy tells us her story with wonderment, grief and mourning.

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Is Nonviolent Use of Force an Oxymoron?

with Miki Kashtan

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 37 - 56 minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 37 - 56 minutes

What do we actually mean by “use of force” and what counts as such? Here's a template that will be unpacked in this article: "Use of force is consistent with nonviolence to the extent that we use the least amount of force possible, with the most love possible, aiming at (re)creating conditions for dialogue; that we make the choice using as much nonreactive discernment as possible, with as much...

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Diving Deeper Into the Spiral of Life (Complete Course)

with Robert Gonzales

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 06:02 hours:minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
06:02 hours:minutes

We invite you to dive into this voyage, where you and Robert will swim ever deeper into the Spiral of Life, coming face-to-face with your divine Life Force – that essential living energy that permeates all.

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Dealing with Loss: Engaging with Someone’s Grief for the World

with Kristin Masters

Beginner Skill Level • Video • 01:46 hours:minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Video
01:46 hours:minutes

When faced with someone’s grief for the world, how do you engage with them in a way that is informed? In this session, Kristin suggests exploring what they might be grieving… what they’re afraid of losing… and what it is that they love.

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Dealing with Loss: Coming Back to Life (Complete Course)

with Kristin Masters

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 02:55 hours:minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
02:55 hours:minutes

This gentle, healing telecourse recording will assist you in unearthing feelings and issues that have become tangled up with loss, enabling you to face whatever is blocking your grief. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

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Living Room Radio Show (Parts 1-3)

with Miki Kashtan

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 00:16 hours:minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
00:16 hours:minutes

Miki Kashtan hosts Living Room Radio Show on KPFA Radio 94.1FM in Berkeley, California, USA. Listen as she works with guests of the show to deal with some of their personal struggles.

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Let it RAIN!

with Jim Manske

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 5 - 8 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 5 - 8 minutes

This article outlines a four-part transformation process to help us recognize what's giving rise to our suffering and resentment -- and transform it into more freedom, creativity, and choice.

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Taste of Compassionate Leadership Series: The Zero Step

with Jim & Jori Manske

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 00:41 hours:minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
00:41 hours:minutes

This resource is free for all to enjoy during February. nvctraining.com Jori and Jim Manske offer a process they call "The Zero Step," encompassing the characteristics of warmth toward self and other, care for the vitality of both yourself and other(s), wonder/interest, vulnerability and empathy, which leads directly to connection requestsand an openness to outcome.

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