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Mourning Our Losses

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page

Trainer Tip: Mourning enables us to heal the pain and gain clarity about how to meet our needs in the present moment.

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NVC Life Hacks 6: Mourning

with Shantigarbha Warren

Beginner Skill Level • Video • 00:04 hours:minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Video
00:04 hours:minutes

Mourning is not just a process that happens after someone dies: it's an experience we go through with loss of any kind. Here, Shantigarbha offers us seven tips for working with mourning and healing.

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Celebrating Mourning

with Christine King

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • 2 pages

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
2 pages

On a recent vacation in a Mexican village, I was surprised to find myself in the midst of a community in mourning. Two days before I came, a 21-year-old girl the entire town knew had died in a car accident.

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Mourning Our Disappointments

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page

Trainer Tip: Taking time to mourn our regrets and unmet needs can lead to a deeper self-connection and feelings of peace.

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Taste of Compassionate Leadership Series: Mourning and Celebration

with Jim & Jori Manske

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 00:35 hours:minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
00:35 hours:minutes

Join Jori and Jim Manske to explore, learn and practice an NVC approach to mourning and celebration.

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Mourning and Celebration: Two Sides of Gratitude

with David Weinstock

Introductory Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read Time: 1 - 2 minutes

Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read Time: 1 - 2 minutes

Mourning, grief and celebration is a way to connect with what we love and want to honor. In this trainer tip we learn that these three things can become a way for us to understand our emotions regarding our losses and appreciations.

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Opening Hearts in Israel, Palestine, India and Sri Lanka

with Shantigarbha Warren

Beginner Skill Level • Article • 11 pages

Beginner Skill Level
Article
11 pages

CNVC Certified Trainer Shantigarbha Warren offers a report of his recent NVC training trip to Israel/Palestine, India and Sri Lanka and clarifies how NVC can support social change in three very different contexts. Included is an exercise, based on Gandhi’s teaching.

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Why Don’t They Get It?

with Roxy Manning

All Skill Levels • Article • Read time: 5 - 8 minutes

All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 5 - 8 minutes

What can we do when someone tells us we're contributing to a pattern we're genuinely not seeing (nor experiencing)? What makes these patterns visible to some people but not others? This article addresses these things by talking about what to factor in when receiving feedback; handling feedback; responding relationally; paying attention to social location; considering impact; plus, broadening our...

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Don't Take It Personally

with Rachelle Lamb

All Skill Levels • Article • Read time: 10 - 15 minutes

All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 10 - 15 minutes

When we don't like what someone is saying to us, sometimes people encourage us to hear their needs, and "not take it personally" -- and we're inclined to agree. Could "not taking it personally" close our hearts and awareness to others, life and ourselves? Rachelle Lamb invites us to take a closer look at what it's like when we attend to the situation from our hearts, and skillfully reflect upon...

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Connecting Feelings and Needs

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page

Trainer Tip: When we connect our feelings to our needs, we put ourselves in a postion to get our needs met and mourn when they aren't met. Here's a practical tip you can practice daily to improve the quality of your life.

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Let it RAIN!

with Jim Manske

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 5 - 8 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 5 - 8 minutes

This article outlines a four-part transformation process to help us recognize what's giving rise to our suffering and resentment -- and transform it into more freedom, creativity, and choice.

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Living Room Radio Show (Parts 1-3)

with Miki Kashtan

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 00:16 hours:minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
00:16 hours:minutes

Miki Kashtan hosts Living Room Radio Show on KPFA Radio 94.1FM in Berkeley, California, USA. Listen as she works with guests of the show to deal with some of their personal struggles.

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From Obedience and Shame to Freedom and Belonging: Transforming Patriarchal Paradigms of Child-Rearing in the Age of Global Warming

with Miki Kashtan

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • 33 pages

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
33 pages

What will it take to reclaim our fundamental relatedness with all things alive, surrender our attempts to control nature, and find a way of living that averts or mitigates the worst possible catastrophes awaiting us while it's still possible?

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Valuing My Needs When I Habitually Don't

with John Kinyon

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 00:09 hours:minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
00:09 hours:minutes

Listen to John answer an NVC Multimedia Library member's question about what we can do when we habitually place other's needs ahead our own. Healing and change can be reached through compassionate self-connection, mourning and mindfulness.

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Taste of Compassionate Leadership Series: The Zero Step

with Jim & Jori Manske

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 00:41 hours:minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
00:41 hours:minutes

Jori and Jim Manske offer a process they call "The Zero Step," encompassing the characteristics of warmth toward self and other, care for the vitality of both yourself and other(s), wonder/interest, vulnerability and empathy, which leads directly to connection requestsand an openness to outcome.

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Steps Towards Meaningful Action

with Miki Kashtan

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 4 - 6 minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 4 - 6 minutes

We're in difficult times - possibly at the brink of extinction. What can we do in response? Some nonlinear steps: A.) Notice what isn't working; B.) Mourn so that we can move "towards" from an expanded space inside; C.) Analyze to bring a fuller understanding of what's happening and what's needed; D.) Reframe our inner and outer narratives; E.) Discern what we can contribute; F.) Care; and G.)...

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It Takes a Community to Raise a Relationship

with Eric Bowers

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • 4 pages

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
4 pages

Using his own life experience, Eric explores why we need support from others, what support might look like, and what blocks us from asking for support for our relationships.

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Developing Compassion for Humans, Animals and All Life (Complete Course)

with LoraKim Joyner, DVM

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 5 - 7 hours

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
5 - 7 hours

Join LoraKim Joyner to investigate how merging science, the social and emotional intelligence of humans, animals and other species and Nonviolent Communication can bring a greater sense of belonging and wholeness to your life, and care and justice to the lives of others. The first part of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy:

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How Do I Begin Bringing Nonviolent Communication (NVC) to Work?

with Jeff Brown

Beginner Skill Level • Video • 00:05 hours:minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Video
00:05 hours:minutes

CNVC Certified Trainer Jeff Brown explains that it's truly easy to begin bringing NVC to your workplace. Start internally and avoid using NVC as a structured or "right" way to speak.

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A List of Needs We All Have

with NVC Academy

Introductory Skill Level • Learning Tool • N/A

Introductory Skill Level
Learning Tool
N/A

In a Nonviolent Communication model, we believe that everything someone does or says is an attempt to meet a need. That means that all actions or words are in service to a deep internal need. The following list of needs is neither exhaustive nor definitive.

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