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Don't Take It Personally

All Skill Levels • Article • Read time: 10 - 15 minutes
All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 10 - 15 minutes
When we don't like what someone is saying to us, sometimes people encourage us to hear their needs, and "not take it personally" -- and we're inclined to agree. Could "not taking it personally" close our hearts and awareness to others, life and ourselves? Rachelle Lamb invites us to take a closer look at what it's like when we attend to the situation from our hearts, and skillfully reflect upon...

How to Ask for Responsiveness

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 3-5 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 3-5 minutes
If it's a tender topic and/or you are looking for a particular level of responsiveness, you can let listeners know what you want back before you share -- or you can ask them for a particular kind of response right after you share. The more you can do this, the more it can create supportive relationships in your life. Read on for ways to ask for a particular kind of responsiveness to meet...

NVC and Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR)

Intermediate Skill Level • Video • 00:42 hours:minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Video
00:42 hours:minutes
Nonviolent Communication and Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction are both life-giving practices, deeply rooted in our natural abilities for attention, care, empathy, and compassion. Join Stephanie and Maurizio guide us through an exploration of both Nonviolent Communication and Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction and the relationships we cultivate with ourselves and others.

Asking to be Known

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 7 - 12 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 7 - 12 minutes
There are various ways to be known. Learn how to engage and make clear requests accordingly. This includes getting clear in yourself about what exactly you want known; communicating how important it is to you; sharing examples in your life of being known; requesting and negotiating from the energy of the met need; letting the other person know whether or not the relationship is really...

Laughter, IPNB and Empathy

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read Time: 3 - 5 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read Time: 3 - 5 minutes
Sometimes even a very skilled empathy practicitioner can go into offering a non-empathic response, even when asked for empathy. Why? One reason could be that our brains might be less receptive because of unseen forces that affect our brain and relationship with others. This article speaks to the deeper "why" and also to one thing we could do to turn it around...

Creating an Internal Secure Base

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 5 - 8 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 5 - 8 minutes
We each hold an internal model or set of expectations about how caring and comfort could be accessed in relationship. The ability to reflect upon and challenge our own dominant model of perceptions, beliefs, and behaviors --and to experience discomfort and vulnerability-- is a key feature of "security". If not, an "attachment reactivity" arises -- where sense of insecurity, separateness, and...

Expressing Ourselves Honestly

Introductory Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 1-2 minutes
Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 1-2 minutes
Trainer Tip: Be aware of opportunities to be honest holding the intention to connect with people. If you do this with the elements of brevity, directness, and respect, you can increase your chances of being heard. If they don't like your honesty, consider switching to empathizing with them by listening to their feelings and needs.

What is the Shadow?

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 4 - 6 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 4 - 6 minutes
What parts of yourself or others are hard to embrace, understand or even notice? What parts do others have difficulty embracing, understanding or noticing? Why do we condemn, loathe, hate, deny, judge, blame or feel shame around certain needs, feelings and parts of self and/or others? This article talks about the hidden parts of ourselves and others that shapes views and behaviours.

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 24. Shine a Light on Your Shadow: Projection Detection and Reclaiming Disowned Parts

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page
How do you know when you’re projecting disowned parts or replaying old relationship dynamics? It’s hard to know for sure, but if you find yourself upset or shutting down and unable to have a dialogue in which you can speak clearly about your feelings and needs and empathize with the other’s feelings and needs, there is likely a projection. The stronger your reaction, the more likely you are...

Connecting with Ourselves: An NVC Foundation for Inner Trust and Freedom

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 4 - 6 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 4 - 6 minutes
True inner freedom arises from self-connection. Without self-connection, we're mostly acting from habits, and those habits do not necessarily attend to our own needs. Here's a practice you can explore in your daily life to deepen your relationship with yourself, and experience true choice and inner freedom.

Addressing Needs Beyond Market Economies. (Part 2/9 from the "Apart and Together" series)

All Skill Levels • Article • Read time: 22 - 31 minutes
All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 22 - 31 minutes
Within the pandemic, limitations of our market economies are more visible. Extreme need is exposed when the economy is collapsing and so many people are without jobs. We can now see how it’s possible to direct resources where they are most needed, solely out of care and interconnection. This is a call to explore a more viable way of living, that centers relationship over transaction.

The Three Most Common Pitfalls in Nonviolent Communication

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read Time: 5 - 8 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read Time: 5 - 8 minutes
We're more likely to sacrifice trust, connection, and relationship quality when (1.) We use NVC to focus on being seen, understood, heard, or meeting our own needs in a way that eclipses our view and understanding of others needs; (2.) We don't clearly examine our intentions; and (3.) We use the NVC form so rigidly that it becomes difficult for others to connect with us authentically.

Compassion: Mature, Astute & Courageous

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 10 - 15 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 10 - 15 minutes
Getting "feel good" empathy can become an addiction. Even to the point of seeing people who don't offer empathy as "not being NVC". Rachelle urges us to notice how this view of NVC can be seductive, and even dangerous. In this article, she explains how we can expand our compassionate awareness when we go beyond equating NVC with harmony and empathy. She asks us to become more open to noticing...

Financial Freedom and Integrity (Complete Course)

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 07:32 hours:minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
07:32 hours:minutes
Jim and Jori Manske went from poverty to financial independence in 8 years, and they’re making the process they used available to you! Please join them in this inspiring 8-session program to transform your relationship with money, scarcity and abundance.

Cooperating with the Life Principle: Living the Heart of Life Unfolding (Complete Course)

Beginner Skill Level • Video • 6 hours
Beginner Skill Level
Video
6 hours
If you're interested in learning specifically how and what you can do to live compassionately – with plenty of hands-on practice time – this course is for you. Observe actual demonstrations of Robert guiding participants through the transformational territory of healing and integration. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

 
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