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Different Types of Requests

Intermediate Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 2 pages

Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
2 pages

Ask the Trainer: "Could you share a list of types of requests, with examples of each and a possible strategy for formulating requests in conversation?"

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Connection Requests: Motivations and Examples Article

with Inbal Kashtan and Miki Kashtan

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • 5 pages

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
5 pages

Connection requests focus on the quality of connection between people instead of on any particular strategy or solution.

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Differentiating Needs from Strategies

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 2-3 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 2-3 minutes

Trainer tip: When we focus on needs further possibilities are more likely to open up. When we focus on a particular strategy, our world can feel scarce and conflicts can arise. Resolution comes when we value everyone’s needs and seek mutually satisfying solutions. We can ask for support towards this outcome.

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Foundational NVC Skills: Requests

with John Kinyon

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 01:25 hours:minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
01:25 hours:minutes

Marshall Rosenberg suggests that there are two requests that are the most transformative to relationships, (1) What’s alive in both of us? and (2) What would make life more wonderful for both of us? This telecourse recording offers an easy-to-digest overview of how carefully crafted requests inspire joyful relationships.

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Distinguishing Life-Serving Boundaries From Requests

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 3-5 minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 3-5 minutes

For effective dialogue clarify your needs, boundaries, and requests beforehand. Setting boundaries is telling someone what you're going to do in order to meet or protect needs for yourself or others. Whereas with requests, even if you have preferences, you still hold open curiosity about strategies to collaborate with others in meeting needs. Read on for more.

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Requests in a Moment of Reactivity

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 3-5 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 3-5 minutes

Here are 16 helpful requests you can make before you're swept up in your own reactivity.

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Clarifying Our Requests to Meet Our Needs

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page

Trainer Tip: Clarifying our requests can make the difference between frustration and satisfaction, Mary shows you how.

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Tips on Making a Request

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page

Trainer Tip: Mary offers 3 foundational tips for making requests: positivity, specificity and doability.

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Navigating Individual Requests That Divert From Your Group's Purpose

with Mary Mackenzie

Intermediate Skill Level • Video • 00:09 hours:minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Video
00:09 hours:minutes

Mary illustrates how we can get diverted from our group's purpose by the needs of a single indvidual in the group, especially requests for prolonged empathy. Listen to Mary reframe these scenarios and offer three helpful tips for handling these situations.

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Cradle of Compassion (Connecting with Request Energy)

with Jim & Jori Manske

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read Time: 3-5 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read Time: 3-5 minutes

Here are two practices for connecting with "request energy". One of them helps us practice in the moment (7 steps). The other one helps us connect to ourselves (11 steps).

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Tips for the Road Series: Tip 3. Get Empathy before Making Important Decisions

with Eric Bowers

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page

Eric explains how we can often avoid regret by getting empathy before making important decisions.

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The Difference Between Needs and Requests

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page

Trainer Tip: Knowing the difference between what we need and what we want someone else to do about that need can have a profound impact on our relationships and our happiness.

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NVC Tools: Observations, Feelings, Needs and Requests

with Wes Taylor

Introductory Skill Level • Video • 00:28 hours:minutes

Introductory Skill Level
Video
00:28 hours:minutes

In this introduction to Nonviolent Communication (NVC), Wes Taylor discusses the two basic aspects of NVC, the consciousness and the tools that help manifest the consciousness.

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Creating the Life You Want With Powerful Requests (Complete Course)

with Miki Kashtan

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 05:11 hours:minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
05:11 hours:minutes

In this telecourse recording, expert trainer Miki Kashtan will help you uncover what prevents you from asking for everything you want without fear. The class includes daily practices for ongoing skill building.

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Requests, the Fourth Component of Compassionate Communication

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 1-2 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 1-2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Making a request is critical because it can greatly lessen any tension in the situation. Plus, it can clarify for you and the people in your life what it would take to meet your need. Make at least one specific and doable request to someone today.

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Demands vs Requests

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 2-3 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 2-3 minutes

Trainer tip: Demands are more likely to limit the possibilities and create distance between people. The trick to asking something as a request is valuing everyone’s needs equally. When you value everyone’s needs equally, then you are more willing to come to solutions that satisfy everyone. It thus opens possibilities and helps build connection.

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Parenting Series: Understanding Requests and Demands

with Inbal Kashtan

Beginner Skill Level • Video • 00:08 hours:minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Video
00:08 hours:minutes

Inbal speaks to a group about our habit of demanding something of our children but making it sound like a request, the components of a true request and the importance of being honest when making a demand.

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Making Requests for Respect

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 3 - 5 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 3 - 5 minutes

When asking for respect it helps to first get clear about your interpretations of other's behavior. You can do this by asking about the other's intentions before believing your thoughts. You can also make a clear request for what specifically you want to see happen instead. Read on for more.

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Mediating Conflict Conversations with Observation, Feeling, Need, and Request

with John Kinyon

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 00:44 hours:minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
00:44 hours:minutes

Mediating a conflict conversation can be challenging – but with tools and practice, that challenge can be transformed. If you're curious about the specific steps needed to achieve that transformation, join John for an exploration of his non-dual mindfulness practice.

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Can NVC Be Learned Without Learning Observation, Feeling, Need and Request?

with Bridget Belgrave, Jeff Brown and Mary Mackenzie

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 00:44 hours/minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
00:44 hours/minutes

In this enlightening Trainer Conversation, three veteran CNVC Certified Trainers discuss whether NVC can be learned without first learning Observations, Feelings, Needs, Requests (OFNR). The conversation naturally meanders as the trainers grapple with the question, eventually covering a wide-range of topics including the spirituality and true essence of NVC.

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