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Different Types of Requests

Intermediate Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 2 pages

Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
2 pages

Ask the Trainer: "Could you share a list of types of requests, with examples of each and a possible strategy for formulating requests in conversation?"

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Connection Requests: Motivations and Examples Article

with Inbal Kashtan and Miki Kashtan

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • 5 pages

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
5 pages

Connection requests focus on the quality of connection between people instead of on any particular strategy or solution.

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Foundational NVC Skills: Requests

with John Kinyon

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 01:25 hours:minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
01:25 hours:minutes

Marshall Rosenberg suggests that there are two requests that are the most transformative to relationships, (1) What’s alive in both of us? and (2) What would make life more wonderful for both of us? This telecourse recording offers an easy-to-digest overview of how carefully crafted requests inspire joyful relationships.

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Clarifying Our Requests to Meet Our Needs

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page

Trainer Tip: Clarifying our requests can make the difference between frustration and satisfaction, Mary shows you how.

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Tips on Making a Request

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page

Trainer Tip: Mary offers 3 foundational tips for making requests: positivity, specificity and doability.

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Navigating Individual Requests That Divert From Your Group's Purpose

with Mary Mackenzie

Intermediate Skill Level • Video • 00:09 hours:minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Video
00:09 hours:minutes

Mary illustrates how we can get diverted from our group's purpose by the needs of a single indvidual in the group, especially requests for prolonged empathy. Listen to Mary reframe these scenarios and offer three helpful tips for handling these situations.

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Tips for the Road Series: Tip 2. Cultivate Connection before Asking for Action

with Eric Bowers

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page

Learn when to use the two types of requests in the practice of Nonviolent Communication: Action Requests and Connection Requests. Both are important when working through conflict or difficult situations and for building connection.

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The Difference Between Needs and Requests

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page

Trainer Tip: Knowing the difference between what we need and what we want someone else to do about that need can have a profound impact on our relationships and our happiness.

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NVC Tools: Observations, Feelings, Needs and Requests

with Wes Taylor

Introductory Skill Level • Video • 00:28 hours:minutes

Introductory Skill Level
Video
00:28 hours:minutes

In this introduction to Nonviolent Communication (NVC), Wes Taylor discusses the two basic aspects of NVC, the consciousness and the tools that help manifest the consciousness.

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Parenting Series: Understanding Requests and Demands

with Inbal Kashtan

Beginner Skill Level • Video • 00:08 hours:minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Video
00:08 hours:minutes

Inbal speaks to a group about our habit of demanding something of our children but making it sound like a request, the components of a true request and the importance of being honest when making a demand.

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Creating the Life You Want With Powerful Requests (Complete Course)

with Miki Kashtan

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 05:11 hours:minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
05:11 hours:minutes

In this telecourse recording, expert trainer Miki Kashtan will help you uncover what prevents you from asking for everything you want without fear. The class includes daily practices for ongoing skill building.

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Requests, the Fourth Component of Compassionate Communication

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 1-2 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 1-2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Making a request is critical because it can greatly lessen any tension in the situation. Plus, it can clarify for you and the people in your life what it would take to meet your need. Make at least one specific and doable request to someone today.

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Mediating Conflict Conversations with Observation, Feeling, Need, and Request

with John Kinyon

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 00:44 hours:minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
00:44 hours:minutes

Mediating a conflict conversation can be challenging – but with tools and practice, that challenge can be transformed. If you're curious about the specific steps needed to achieve that transformation, join John for an exploration of his non-dual mindfulness practice.

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Can NVC Be Learned Without Learning Observation, Feeling, Need and Request?

with Bridget Belgrave, Jeff Brown and Mary Mackenzie

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 00:44 hours/minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
00:44 hours/minutes

In this enlightening Trainer Conversation, three veteran CNVC Certified Trainers discuss whether NVC can be learned without first learning Observations, Feelings, Needs, Requests (OFNR). The conversation naturally meanders as the trainers grapple with the question, eventually covering a wide-range of topics including the spirituality and true essence of NVC.

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Not Trusting the “Yes”

with Miki Kashtan

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 00:24 hours:minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
00:24 hours:minutes

In this audio recording, Miki demonstrates how to stay in a dialogue when you don't trust someone's "yes," how to equalize power between people and how to allow space for others to say "no" to our requests. In this 2-part audio series, Miki demonstrates how to stay in a dialogue when you don’t trust someone’s “yes,” how to equalize power between people and how to allow space for others to say...

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Confidentiality Agreement

with Miki Kashtan

Advanced Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 4 pages

Advanced Skill Level
Trainer Tip
4 pages

Ask the Trainer: "A participant in our beginners' NVC practice group asked the co-facilitators if there was a confidentiality agreement that was typically used in NVC practice groups?"

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The Gift of Compassionate Giving

with Jim Manske

Introductory Skill Level • Article • Read time: 5 - 8 minutes

Introductory Skill Level
Article
Read time: 5 - 8 minutes

What would the world be like if there was flow between all of us based on "mutual giving from the heart"? Using examples, this article offers models for us to follow that could inspire us to treat our NVC practice as one of compassionate giving and receiving.

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Facilitating Connection

with Jim & Jori Manske

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 00:59 hours:minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
00:59 hours:minutes

Expressing ourselves honestly is sometimes scary because we can't predict where the conversation will go after we've made ourselves vulnerable. This recording will demonstrate how the power of our honesty is enhanced by ending on a clear and present request.

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Opening Hearts in Israel, Palestine, India and Sri Lanka

with Shantigarbha Warren

Beginner Skill Level • Article • 11 pages

Beginner Skill Level
Article
11 pages

CNVC Certified Trainer Shantigarbha Warren offers a report of his recent NVC training trip to Israel/Palestine, India and Sri Lanka and clarifies how NVC can support social change in three very different contexts. Included is an exercise, based on Gandhi’s teaching.

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Group Feedback

with Sylvia Haskvitz

Advanced Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 2 pages

Advanced Skill Level
Trainer Tip
2 pages

Ask the Trainer: "I'm part of a small, self-led NVC group that's been working together for almost two years. We are experiencing some growing pains in that we're still not certain how and under what circumstances to make requests, especially negative ones."

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