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The Gift of Compassionate Giving

with Jim Manske
Introductory Skill Level • Article • Read time: 5 - 8 minutes
Introductory Skill Level
Article
Read time: 5 - 8 minutes
What would the world be like if there was flow between all of us based on "mutual giving from the heart"? Using examples, this article offers models for us to follow that could inspire us to treat our NVC practice as one of compassionate giving and receiving.

Opening Hearts in Israel, Palestine, India and Sri Lanka

Beginner Skill Level • Article • 11 pages
Beginner Skill Level
Article
11 pages
CNVC Certified Trainer Shantigarbha Warren offers a report of his recent NVC training trip to Israel/Palestine, India and Sri Lanka and clarifies how NVC can support social change in three very different contexts. Included is an exercise, based on Gandhi’s teaching.

Group Feedback

Advanced Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 2 pages
Advanced Skill Level
Trainer Tip
2 pages
Ask the Trainer: "I'm part of a small, self-led NVC group that's been working together for almost two years. We are experiencing some growing pains in that we're still not certain how and under what circumstances to make requests, especially negative ones."

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 4. Invite People to Say No

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page
When asking for support from another, you are most likely to enjoy receiving that support when the person giving support is giving from the heart—from a place of joy or delight. Inviting them to say "no" is a way of encouraging an authentic response, a response you can trust more fully.

Meeting Our Needs

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 1-2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 1-2 minutes
Trainer Tip: Discovering the unmet needs is only a starting point. The other part is to understand what it will take to meet that need, and make a request that will accomplish this. This way, we can resolve situations before they escalate. Everyone benefits when we are clear about what we would like.

The Heart of Conflict (Complete Course)

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 08:50 hours:minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
08:50 hours:minutes
Join CNVC Certified Trainers and Mediators Jori and Jim Manske in an exploration of using Nonviolent Communication in the context of Mediation and Conflict Resolution. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy. nvctraining.com

Preparing for Difficult Dialogue

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 3-5 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 3-5 minutes
Effective and connected dialogue requires significant self-awareness, mindfulness, and skill. You can focus on any of these six areas that most often escape your awareness: anchoring and staying grounded; boundaries; thoughts and beliefs; stuckness or attachment; feelings and needs; and requests. Read on for a list of questions to help you focus on how to do that.

Lonely Together

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 5 - 7 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 5 - 7 minutes
When conflict or criticism occurs, we can notice two layers of meaning to create connection: the content and the needs the speaker is holding. When we are able to recognize this --and ideally engage open-heartedly, with curiosity, make clear requests, imagining what they want, no matter how their expression was framed -- we have more opportunity to support the longevity of our relationships, and...

Peace Starts At Home (Complete Course)

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 06:13 hours:minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
06:13 hours:minutes
Through your dialogues at home, where the stakes are often very high, you can increase your ability to meet the challenges of life everywhere with empathy, goodwill and authenticity. Please listen to this inspiring recorded telecourse with Miki Kashtan and learn how!

Colloquial NVC Options

Intermediate Skill Level • Learning Tool • 2 pages
Intermediate Skill Level
Learning Tool
2 pages
How can we express ourselves in a way that supports a natural flow of connection while maintaining a focus on NVC consciousness? This handout from CNVC Certified Trainer, Miki Kashtan, offers seven options that support NVC enthusiasts in evolving from classical to colloquial NVC language.

NVC Principles

Intermediate Skill Level • Video • 00:22 hours:minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Video
00:22 hours:minutes
In this 3-part video, Miki Kashtan discusses the spiritual nature of NVC, delves deeper into the NVC concept of needs and offers practical tools to make requests in ways that others are more likely to respond to positively.

Poetic License

with Christine King and Jean Morrison
Beginner Skill Level • Article • N/A
Beginner Skill Level
Article
N/A
Poetic License is a fun group exercise that's sure to incite laughter in your NVC group!

What is Nonviolent Communication?

Introductory Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 1-2 minutes
Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 1-2 minutes
Trainer tip: NVC focuses on shared human values and needs, and encourages the use of language that increases good will -- plus avoidance of language that contributes to resentment or lowered self-esteem. It emphasizes taking personal responsibility for choices and improving the quality of relationships as a primary goal. For today, focus on making observations without moralistic judgment in at...

Meeting Our Need for Sexual Expression

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 1-2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 1-2 minutes
Trainer Tip: To reduce defensiveness and hurt feelings when talking to your partner about your sexual needs that haven't been met, keep the conversation focused on your needs, not her lack of skill, and make a very specific request. From there, you can both explore any shared needs, blocks, or support needed to bring you both closer to your needs.

Asking to be Known

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 7 - 12 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 7 - 12 minutes
There are various ways to be known. Learn how to engage and make clear requests accordingly. This includes getting clear in yourself about what exactly you want known; communicating how important it is to you; sharing examples in your life of being known; requesting and negotiating from the energy of the met need; letting the other person know whether or not the relationship is really...

Key Assumptions and Intentions of NVC

with Inbal Kashtan and Miki Kashtan
Introductory Skill Level • Learning Tool • 3 pages
Introductory Skill Level
Learning Tool
3 pages
NVC practice is based on several key assumptions and intentions. When we live based on these assumptions and intentions, self-connection and connection with others become increasingly possible and easy, helping us contribute to a world where everyone’s needs are attended to peacefully.

Partnership Paradigms in Schools: An NVC Integration Approach (Session 5)

with Jared Finkelstein and Lore Baur
Beginner Skill Level • Video • 01:04 hours:minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Video
01:04 hours:minutes
What do you experience when you give up on needs that are important to you, and are coerced into doing something you didn’t want to do? And why is it hard to make requests? Listen in and learn more.

 
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