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How to Ask for Responsiveness

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 3-5 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 3-5 minutes
If it's a tender topic and/or you are looking for a particular level of responsiveness, you can let listeners know what you want back before you share -- or you can ask them for a particular kind of response right after you share. The more you can do this, the more it can create supportive relationships in your life. Read on for ways to ask for a particular kind of responsiveness to meet...

Self Responsibility

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 6 - 9 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 6 - 9 minutes
Being self-responsible is about empowerment — via noticing what is potentially in our locus of control, getting to know ourselves better, looking at our own role in how we experience life, and making conscious choices to act within our own power. This requires us to be mindful in relating our stories to our needs. Read on for more on this, and the various pifalls within thinking about self...

Taking 100% Responsibility for Every Relationship (Complete Course)

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 4 - 6 hours
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
4 - 6 hours
Taking 100% Responsibility offers a powerful antidote to the all-too-common dynamic of blaming that leaves you in the victim position and unable to have the relationship you want. Miki invites you to assume a stance of leadership while holding full care for both parties’ needs. No longer will you need to wait for the other person to change, nor will you need to give up your needs to reach...

Taking Responsibility for Meeting Our Needs

Beginner Skill Levels • Trainer Tip • Read time: 3 - 5 minutes
Beginner Skill Levels
Trainer Tip
Read time: 3 - 5 minutes
This trainer tip suggests ways to transform blame in to personal power. He suggests having multiple sources of support and multiple pathways to achieving the outcome you want, to allow more room to hear a "no". Read on for more.

Grounded Responses for Challenging Comments

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 3 - 5 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 3 - 5 minutes
When someone responds with painful sarcasm, criticism, or dismissal you can respond with empathy, or with clarity about your intention, need and request. If you're unable to do this, later you can privately write what they said, identify the feelings and needs of both of you, then write possible responses. This can help you remember to stay with your intention and what’s true for you without...

Change Your Response to Conflict — Change Your Life (Complete Course)

with Ike Lasater and John Kinyon
Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 05:12 hours:minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
05:12 hours:minutes
Listen to this introductory 4-session Mediate Your Life telecourse recording to change your response to conflict and change your life.

Embracing Leadership within Yourself (Complete Course)

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 4 - 6 hours
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
4 - 6 hours
Join Miki as she covers a lot of territory, defining leadership, helping us lead when we're not in the leadership chair, showing us how to have power in every moment and engage our fear instead of let it run us. Get some powerful leadership tools you can put to use today. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

Change Is Afoot: A New Paradigm For First Responses After Difficult Events

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read Time: 9 - 14 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read Time: 9 - 14 minutes
One way to understand trauma is it means we got a blow greater than our nervous system can tolerate – then we move into hyperarousal, and then hypoarousal or dissociation. This cycle can continue long after. Here, we're not able to fully process emotional cues, information, our body, and others. It's important we consider re-writing the cultural paradigm of separation so that our trauma doesn't...

Empathic, Powerful Responses To COVID-19 Inequities

Advanced Skill Level • Article • Read time: 15 - 23 minutes
Advanced Skill Level
Article
Read time: 15 - 23 minutes
The existing unequal risks and impacts people of certain race, class and identities face in society is magnified in these strenuous times -- especially with things such as illness, financial well being, discrimination, attacks, and death. As responsive NVC practitioners we can stand in solidarity with those who are differentially impacted. Read on for this, and additional ways to spot common...

Feelings Are a Response to Our Met or Unmet Needs

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 1-2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 1-2 minutes
Trainer Tip: Our particular needs and expectations in the moment, influences how we feel. So if you are feeling hurt, sad, angry, or disappointed, try to consider what your unmet needs are, and see if there are other ways you can get them met. Today, track how your needs affect your feelings.

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 7. Talk about Conflict When You’re Not in Conflict

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 4 pages
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
4 pages
Conflict is a normal and natural part of life. To varying degrees, it happens whenever two or more people consistently spend time together. Resolving conflict effectively and peacefully, in a way in which all parties feel respected and valued, does not feel natural for those of us who grew up with punitive, adversarial, or avoidant approaches to conflict. Eric offers some tips for approaching...

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 14. Admit to it Too

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page
It can be challenging to tell people that you don’t like a certain behaviour or action of theirs. Even with supportive intentions and compassionate language your message might be difficult for someone to receive. Of course, we are not responsible for others’ reactions, but we are responsible to care about each other, and there are effective ways to express ourselves with more care.

How I Changed My Relationship to Time

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 8 - 12 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 8 - 12 minutes
What would happen if you considered that time is a concept, and that it doesn't rule your life? What would it mean to make all choices based on needs and not on time? Do you obey the external rhythm of the clock over and above the internal rhythm of your life energy? This is an invitation into more responsibility, awareness, honesty, choice and freedom.

Prepare for Love (Complete Course)

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 09:07 hours:minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
09:07 hours:minutes
Join Eric Bowers in transforming past relationship pain, coming alive in community and creating thriving relationships. This 12 session Telecourse recording brings together Eric's passions for Nonviolent Communication, Attachment Theory and Interpersonal Neurobiology.

Key Assumptions and Intentions of NVC

with Inbal Kashtan and Miki Kashtan
Introductory Skill Level • Learning Tool • 3 pages
Introductory Skill Level
Learning Tool
3 pages
NVC practice is based on several key assumptions and intentions. When we live based on these assumptions and intentions, self-connection and connection with others become increasingly possible and easy, helping us contribute to a world where everyone’s needs are attended to peacefully.

 
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