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From Obedience and Shame to Freedom and Belonging: Transforming Patriarchal Paradigms of Child-Rearing in the Age of Global Warming

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • 33 pages

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
33 pages

What will it take to reclaim our fundamental relatedness with all things alive, surrender our attempts to control nature, and find a way of living that averts or mitigates the worst possible catastrophes awaiting us while it's still possible?

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Is Nonviolent Use of Force an Oxymoron?

with Miki Kashtan

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 37 - 56 minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 37 - 56 minutes

What do we actually mean by “use of force” and what counts as such? Here's a template that will be unpacked in this article: "Use of force is consistent with nonviolence to the extent that we use the least amount of force possible, with the most love possible, aiming at (re)creating conditions for dialogue; that we make the choice using as much nonreactive discernment as possible, with as much...

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Dialogues with Our Shame

with Giorgos Tsitsirigkos

Beginner Skill Level • Video • 45 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Video
45 minutes

During this session, Giorgos will walk you through a series of short, meditative practices and exercises designed to help you practice noticing, experiencing, and bringing shame to light — transforming it from a burden to a playful fellow as well as a portal to self-knowledge and internal freedom. You'll discover how the deep power of human connectedness can dilute the fogginess of sensitive...

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Finding Agency and Seeing Shame

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 3-5 minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 3-5 minutes

The ability to identify your needs and take effective action to meet them is one way to define agency. Access to agency is complex and varies widely from person to person. Access to agency depends upon a variety of conditions. For example, if you struggle with agency, shame may tell you that you're broken in some way. If agency comes easily in an area, then you may view others who struggle with...

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Nonviolence In The Face of Rape or Assault

with Miki Kashtan

All Skill Levels • Article • Read time: 1 - 2 minutes

All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 1 - 2 minutes

Here's a brief anecdote showing how one woman was able transform a situation, where a man was about to assault or rape her. She responded in a creative way that lead them both to see each others' humanity -- navigating them both to safety. As part of her ingenuity he ended up spending the night in her house, in another room.

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Tips for the Road Series: Tip 11. Catching Hearts

with Eric Bowers

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page

When we take a leap in life and put our hearts out into the world in new or bigger ways—sharing a song, dance, or poem, writing a book, competing at a sporting event, giving a speech, and so on—there is greater potential for aliveness but also for shame and pain

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Privacy vs. Secrecy & Boundaries

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 3 - 5 minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 3 - 5 minutes

What's the real reason you choose to talk about something or not? "Privacy" can become a misplaced label that's used to hide harmful behaviour. Secrets typically come from reactivity -- and can carry shame, fear or threat of harm, and take a toll. And yet, if something private gets mislabeled as a "secret" it can also trigger shame and fear. The key to all this may be in relating to privacy from...

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Wanting Fully without Attachment

with Miki Kashtan

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 01:00 hours:minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
01:00 hours:minutes

Do you want to befriend your needs and live without shame about them? Would you like to increase your inner freedom by letting go of attachment to outcome? Join Miki Kashtan to learn skills and practices that will enable you to want fully without attachment.

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Moving from Fault to Cause: Looking for Systemic Solutions to White Supremacy

with Miki Kashtan

All Skill Levels • Article • Read time: 13 - 19 minutes

All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 13 - 19 minutes

We can see throughout many examples in history that when we look for "who" is at fault, and thereby seek social change through shaming that person (or that group), it tends to lead to disastrous long term consequences. Even if it works in the short term. Instead, if we want to end cycles of violence we can seek to understand systemic causes and context of individuals' behaviour. And from there,...

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Can We Un-Skew Resource Distribution?

with Miki Kashtan

Advanced Skill Level • Article • Read time: 14 - 21 minutes

Advanced Skill Level
Article
Read time: 14 - 21 minutes

In learning how to re-invent the economic system so that it distributes resources in a way that includes as many people's needs as possible, we would need to be in a process of mutual influence with one another. However, addressing resource distribution can be complex when people in different social locations have 1.)a different sense of what's considered "enough" 2.) different capacities to...

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Transforming Power Relations: The Invisible Revolution

with Miki Kashtan

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • 9 pages

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
9 pages

Miki explains how teachers and administrators can become more effective in relating to themselves, other faculty and staff, and they can contribute more to students' ability to feel connected and energized. Nonviolent Communication provides specific tools to empower ourselves and others to live more in line with our values and deeper needs.

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Empathy Hurdles

with Miki Kashtan

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • 2 pages

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
2 pages

Miki Kashtan poignantly shares about the challenges of empathizing with another when we really don't understand their actions.

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Mourning Our Disappointments

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page

Trainer Tip: Taking time to mourn our regrets and unmet needs can lead to a deeper self-connection and feelings of peace.

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Dealing with Loss: Coming Back to Life (Complete Course)

with Kristin Masters

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 02:55 hours:minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
02:55 hours:minutes

This gentle, healing telecourse recording will assist you in unearthing feelings and issues that have become tangled up with loss, enabling you to face whatever is blocking your grief.

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Speaking the Unspoken Conversation (Complete Course)

with Arnina Kashtan

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 07:10 hours/minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
07:10 hours/minutes

Reveal, own and share the inner chatter that plays over and over in your head, in between the words you speak aloud. Arnina Kashtan will help you discover, embrace and open up the places inside that you’ve hidden and judged.

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Embracing Your Emotions: Honoring the Wisdom of BIG Emotions (Complete Course)

with Christine King

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 3 - 4 hours

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
3 - 4 hours

Listen to this short 3 session telecourse recording with CNVC Certified Trainer Christine King, and you will learn how to honor the wisdom that your anger, fear, shame and other BIG emotions have for you. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

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NVC Basics: A Foundational Course (Complete Course)

with Sylvia Haskvitz

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 06:49 hours:minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
06:49 hours:minutes

Sylvia Haskvitz uses 20+ years of experience to introduce the core concepts of Nonviolent Communication, leaving you grounded in the basics and ready to make transformative improvements to the quality of your communication.

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The Power of Authenticity + Care

with Roxy Manning

All Skill Levels • Article • Read time: 9 - 13 minutes

All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 9 - 13 minutes

When we're on the receiving end of pain-stimulating assumptions, a microaggression, or prejudice --when we're reactive and resultingly have self-doubt, guilt or shame in ourselves-- is it possible to be intensely authentic while holding care for everyone in the situation? Can we effectively do this even as a third party witnesses to these things?

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Healing the Blame that Binds

with Kelly Bryson

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • 3 pages

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
3 pages

Blame is the game that protects me from the understanding that the cause of all my emotional distress, fear, shame and guilt comes from the part of me I call "the inner voice."

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The Value of Taking a Step Back

with Kelly Bryson

Beginner Skill Level • Article • 4 pages

Beginner Skill Level
Article
4 pages

Have you ever gotten a fishing line all tangled up? You got so frustrated you just started yanking on the different loops of line, which of course made the knots and tangles even tighter and more difficult to untangle. Wouldn’t it be great if you could notice the minute you were starting to tangle things up in a discussion with your loved one?

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