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Dialogues with Our Shame

Dialogues with Our Shame

Dialogues with Our Shame

with Giorgos Tsitsirigkos

Beginner Skill Level • Video • 45 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Video
45 minutes

During this session, Giorgos will walk you through a series of short, meditative practices and exercises designed to help you practice noticing, experiencing, and bringing shame to light — transforming it from a burden to a playful fellow as well as a portal to self-knowledge and internal freedom. You'll discover how the deep power of human connectedness can dilute the fogginess of sensitive...

Finding Agency and Seeing Shame

Finding Agency and Seeing Shame

Finding Agency and Seeing Shame

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 3-5 minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 3-5 minutes

The ability to identify your needs and take effective action to meet them is one way to define agency. Access to agency is complex and varies widely from person to person. Access to agency depends upon a variety of conditions. For example, if you struggle with agency, shame may tell you that you're broken in some way. If agency comes easily in an area, then you may view others who struggle with...

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 11. Catching Hearts

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 11. Catching Hearts

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 11. Catching Hearts

with Eric Bowers

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page

When we take a leap in life and put our hearts out into the world in new or bigger ways—sharing a song, dance, or poem, writing a book, competing at a sporting event, giving a speech, and so on—there is greater potential for aliveness but also for shame and pain

Privacy vs. Secrecy & Boundaries

Privacy vs. Secrecy & Boundaries

Privacy vs. Secrecy & Boundaries

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 3 - 5 minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 3 - 5 minutes

What's the real reason you choose to talk about something or not? "Privacy" can become a misplaced label that's used to hide harmful behaviour. Secrets typically come from reactivity -- and can carry shame, fear or threat of harm, and take a toll. And yet, if something private gets mislabeled as a "secret" it can also trigger shame and fear. The key to all this may be in relating to privacy from...

Wanting Fully without Attachment

Wanting Fully without Attachment

Wanting Fully without Attachment

with Miki Kashtan

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 01:00 hours:minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
01:00 hours:minutes

Do you want to befriend your needs and live without shame about them? Would you like to increase your inner freedom by letting go of attachment to outcome? Join Miki Kashtan to learn skills and practices that will enable you to want fully without attachment.

Moving from Fault to Cause: Looking for Systemic Solutions to White Supremacy

Moving from Fault to Cause: Looking for Systemic Solutions to White Supremacy

Moving from Fault to Cause: Looking for Systemic Solutions to White Supremacy

with Miki Kashtan

All Skill Levels • Article • Read time: 13 - 19 minutes

All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 13 - 19 minutes

We can see throughout many examples in history that when we look for "who" is at fault, and thereby seek social change through shaming that person (or that group), it tends to lead to disastrous long term consequences. Even if it works in the short term. Instead, if we want to end cycles of violence we can seek to understand systemic causes and context of individuals' behaviour. And from there,...

Mourning Our Disappointments

Mourning Our Disappointments

Mourning Our Disappointments

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page

Trainer Tip: Taking time to mourn our regrets and unmet needs can lead to a deeper self-connection and feelings of peace.

Four Ways to Hear Any Message

Four Ways to Hear Any Message

Four Ways to Hear Any Message

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 1-2 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 1-2 minutes

Trainer tip: In every interaction, we have a choice of responding in one of these four ways: judge/blame self, Judge/blame others, empathize with self, and/or empathize with others. The goal is to make a conscious choice about our response. Notice the choices you have when you receive someone’s communication today.

Empathy Hurdles

Empathy Hurdles

Empathy Hurdles

with Miki Kashtan

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • 2 pages

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
2 pages

Miki Kashtan poignantly shares about the challenges of empathizing with another when we really don't understand their actions.

Transforming Power Relations: The Invisible Revolution

Transforming Power Relations: The Invisible Revolution

Transforming Power Relations: The Invisible Revolution

with Miki Kashtan

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • 9 pages

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
9 pages

Miki explains how teachers and administrators can become more effective in relating to themselves, other faculty and staff, and they can contribute more to students' ability to feel connected and energized. Nonviolent Communication provides specific tools to empower ourselves and others to live more in line with our values and deeper needs.

NVC Basics: A Foundational Course (Complete Course)

NVC Basics: A Foundational Course (Complete Course)

NVC Basics: A Foundational Course (Complete Course)

with Sylvia Haskvitz

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 06:49 hours:minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
06:49 hours:minutes

Sylvia Haskvitz uses 20+ years of experience to introduce the core concepts of Nonviolent Communication, leaving you grounded in the basics and ready to make transformative improvements to the quality of your communication.

What is the Shadow?

What is the Shadow?

What is the Shadow?

with Eric Bowers

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 4 - 6 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 4 - 6 minutes

What parts of yourself or others are hard to embrace, understand or even notice? What parts do others have difficulty embracing, understanding or noticing? Why do we condemn, loathe, hate, deny, judge, blame or feel shame around certain needs, feelings and parts of self and/or others? This article talks about the hidden parts of ourselves and others that shapes views and behaviours.

Dissolving Reactivity With Your Partner

Dissolving Reactivity With Your Partner

Dissolving Reactivity With Your Partner

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 3-5 minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 3-5 minutes

Most reactivity in intimate relationships comes from a lack of confidence in maintaining intimacy, autonomy, or security. What may help is naming what's happening, interrupting shame, and anchoring or reassuring yourself. You can also reflect on the effects of acting from reactivity. Knowing what helps center you, ask your partner to do or say specific things that might help. Read on for more.

Can We Un-Skew Resource Distribution?

Can We Un-Skew Resource Distribution?

Can We Un-Skew Resource Distribution?

with Miki Kashtan

Advanced Skill Level • Article • Read time: 14 - 21 minutes

Advanced Skill Level
Article
Read time: 14 - 21 minutes

In learning how to re-invent the economic system so that it distributes resources in a way that includes as many people's needs as possible, we would need to be in a process of mutual influence with one another. However, addressing resource distribution can be complex when people in different social locations have 1.)a different sense of what's considered "enough" 2.) different capacities to...

Speaking the Unspoken Conversation (Complete Course)

Speaking the Unspoken Conversation (Complete Course)

Speaking the Unspoken Conversation (Complete Course)

with Arnina Kashtan

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 07:10 hours/minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
07:10 hours/minutes

Reveal, own and share the inner chatter that plays over and over in your head, in between the words you speak aloud. Arnina Kashtan will help you discover, embrace and open up the places inside that you’ve hidden and judged.

Dealing with Loss: Coming Back to Life (Complete Course)

Dealing with Loss: Coming Back to Life (Complete Course)

Dealing with Loss: Coming Back to Life (Complete Course)

with Kristin Masters

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 02:55 hours:minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
02:55 hours:minutes

This gentle, healing telecourse recording will assist you in unearthing feelings and issues that have become tangled up with loss, enabling you to face whatever is blocking your grief. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

Embracing Your Emotions: Honoring the Wisdom of BIG Emotions (Complete Course)

Embracing Your Emotions: Honoring the Wisdom of BIG Emotions (Complete Course)

Embracing Your Emotions: Honoring the Wisdom of BIG Emotions (Complete Course)

with Christine King

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 3 - 4 hours

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
3 - 4 hours

Listen to this short 3 session telecourse recording with CNVC Certified Trainer Christine King, and you will learn how to honor the wisdom that your anger, fear, shame and other BIG emotions have for you. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

Healing the Blame that Binds

Healing the Blame that Binds

Healing the Blame that Binds

with Kelly Bryson

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • 3 pages

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
3 pages

Blame is the game that protects me from the understanding that the cause of all my emotional distress, fear, shame and guilt comes from the part of me I call "the inner voice."

The Value of Taking a Step Back

The Value of Taking a Step Back

The Value of Taking a Step Back

with Kelly Bryson

Beginner Skill Level • Article • 4 pages

Beginner Skill Level
Article
4 pages

Have you ever gotten a fishing line all tangled up? You got so frustrated you just started yanking on the different loops of line, which of course made the knots and tangles even tighter and more difficult to untangle. Wouldn’t it be great if you could notice the minute you were starting to tangle things up in a discussion with your loved one?

Transforming Painful Patterns

Transforming Painful Patterns

Transforming Painful Patterns

with Arnina Kashtan

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • 7 pages

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
7 pages

Why is it so difficult to change our patterns even when we want to, even when we experience shame or despair about them? Here are common pitfalls and concrete steps to overcome them in the future.

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