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Dialogues with Our Shame

Beginner Skill Level • Video • 45 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Video
45 minutes
During this session, Giorgos will walk you through a series of short, meditative practices and exercises designed to help you practice noticing, experiencing, and bringing shame to light — transforming it from a burden to a playful fellow as well as a portal to self-knowledge and internal freedom. You'll discover how the deep power of human connectedness can dilute the fogginess of sensitive...

Finding Agency and Seeing Shame

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 3-5 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 3-5 minutes
The ability to identify your needs and take effective action to meet them is one way to define agency. Access to agency is complex and varies widely from person to person. Access to agency depends upon a variety of conditions. For example, if you struggle with agency, shame may tell you that you're broken in some way. If agency comes easily in an area, then you may view others who struggle with...

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 11. Catching Hearts

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page
When we take a leap in life and put our hearts out into the world in new or bigger ways—sharing a song, dance, or poem, writing a book, competing at a sporting event, giving a speech, and so on—there is greater potential for aliveness but also for shame and pain

Privacy vs. Secrecy & Boundaries

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 3 - 5 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 3 - 5 minutes
What's the real reason you choose to talk about something or not? "Privacy" can become a misplaced label that's used to hide harmful behaviour. Secrets typically come from reactivity -- and can carry shame, fear or threat of harm, and take a toll. And yet, if something private gets mislabeled as a "secret" it can also trigger shame and fear. The key to all this may be in relating to privacy from...

Moving from Fault to Cause: Looking for Systemic Solutions to White Supremacy

All Skill Levels • Article • Read time: 13 - 19 minutes
All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 13 - 19 minutes
We can see throughout many examples in history that when we look for "who" is at fault, and thereby seek social change through shaming that person (or that group), it tends to lead to disastrous long term consequences. Even if it works in the short term. Instead, if we want to end cycles of violence we can seek to understand systemic causes and context of individuals' behaviour. And from there,...

Four Ways to Hear Any Message

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 1-2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 1-2 minutes
Trainer tip: In every interaction, we have a choice of responding in one of these four ways: judge/blame self, Judge/blame others, empathize with self, and/or empathize with others. The goal is to make a conscious choice about our response. Notice the choices you have when you receive someone’s communication today.

Transforming Power Relations: The Invisible Revolution

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • 9 pages
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
9 pages
Miki explains how teachers and administrators can become more effective in relating to themselves, other faculty and staff, and they can contribute more to students' ability to feel connected and energized. Nonviolent Communication provides specific tools to empower ourselves and others to live more in line with our values and deeper needs.

NVC Basics: A Foundational Course (Complete Course)

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 06:49 hours:minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
06:49 hours:minutes
Sylvia Haskvitz uses 20+ years of experience to introduce the core concepts of Nonviolent Communication, leaving you grounded in the basics and ready to make transformative improvements to the quality of your communication.

What is the Shadow?

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 4 - 6 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 4 - 6 minutes
What parts of yourself or others are hard to embrace, understand or even notice? What parts do others have difficulty embracing, understanding or noticing? Why do we condemn, loathe, hate, deny, judge, blame or feel shame around certain needs, feelings and parts of self and/or others? This article talks about the hidden parts of ourselves and others that shapes views and behaviours.

Dissolving Reactivity With Your Partner

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 3-5 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 3-5 minutes
Most reactivity in intimate relationships comes from a lack of confidence in maintaining intimacy, autonomy, or security. What may help is naming what's happening, interrupting shame, and anchoring or reassuring yourself. You can also reflect on the effects of acting from reactivity. Knowing what helps center you, ask your partner to do or say specific things that might help. Read on for more.

Can We Un-Skew Resource Distribution?

Advanced Skill Level • Article • Read time: 14 - 21 minutes
Advanced Skill Level
Article
Read time: 14 - 21 minutes
In learning how to re-invent the economic system so that it distributes resources in a way that includes as many people's needs as possible, we would need to be in a process of mutual influence with one another. However, addressing resource distribution can be complex when people in different social locations have 1.)a different sense of what's considered "enough" 2.) different capacities to...

Speaking the Unspoken Conversation (Complete Course)

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 07:10 hours/minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
07:10 hours/minutes
Reveal, own and share the inner chatter that plays over and over in your head, in between the words you speak aloud. Arnina Kashtan will help you discover, embrace and open up the places inside that you’ve hidden and judged.

Dealing with Loss: Coming Back to Life (Complete Course)

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 02:55 hours:minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
02:55 hours:minutes
This gentle, healing telecourse recording will assist you in unearthing feelings and issues that have become tangled up with loss, enabling you to face whatever is blocking your grief. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

Embracing Your Emotions: Honoring the Wisdom of BIG Emotions (Complete Course)

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 3 - 4 hours
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
3 - 4 hours
Listen to this short 3 session telecourse recording with CNVC Certified Trainer Christine King, and you will learn how to honor the wisdom that your anger, fear, shame and other BIG emotions have for you. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

The Value of Taking a Step Back

Beginner Skill Level • Article • 4 pages
Beginner Skill Level
Article
4 pages
Have you ever gotten a fishing line all tangled up? You got so frustrated you just started yanking on the different loops of line, which of course made the knots and tangles even tighter and more difficult to untangle. Wouldn’t it be great if you could notice the minute you were starting to tangle things up in a discussion with your loved one?

 
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