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From Obedience and Shame to Freedom and Belonging: Transforming Patriarchal Paradigms of Child-Rearing in the Age of Global Warming

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • 33 pages
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
33 pages
What will it take to reclaim our fundamental relatedness with all things alive, surrender our attempts to control nature, and find a way of living that averts or mitigates the worst possible catastrophes awaiting us while it's still possible?

Trauma and Sanctuary

All Skill Levels • Article • Read time: 3 - 5 minutes
All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 3 - 5 minutes
One clue we have trauma is when we respond in a way we don't want (eg. being reactive, self sabotaging, etc). Even when we have high level NVC skills our trauma-related mechanisms can activate, and we can lose access to well honed NVC skills. Read on for approaches that involve healing trauma, and approaches that involve managing the effects of trauma and preventing additional trauma.

Getting Past Childhood Trauma To Transform Your Chronic Jackal Messages (Complete Course)

with Susan Skye
Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 7 - 9 hours
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
7 - 9 hours
Join Susan Skye as she guides you to experience profound transformation of the inner jackal messages resulting from childhood trauma. Discover how the limbic system of the brain works, and transform jackal messages stored there with compassionate connection. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

Understanding and Healing from Bullying, Giving and Receiving

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read Time: 6 - 9 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read Time: 6 - 9 minutes
When bullying occurs, if we do our own healing, our brains can become more sharp and present and willing to take action to connect and to begin to shift and mitigate the harm that trauma does in our world. We can reduce trauma inflicted upon others when we recognize the patterns of abuse and bullying, hold zero tolerance for it, bring in support for both sides of the conflict, and take action to...

Help for Overwhelm

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 3-5 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 3-5 minutes
Reducing overwhelm requires you to reconnect with your authentic choice, be present and compassionate with what's happening, heal trauma, and interrupt the trauma response. Read on for ways that may help you reconnect with your choice, presence and more on trauma.

Heartbreak For Self And The World Holding Our Broken Hearts With Compassion

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read Time: 3 - 5 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read Time: 3 - 5 minutes
When we're received with resonant understanding painful moments can lessen their charge and became part of the whole tapestry of life -- important but no longer able to hijack us into the eternal re-run of pain. When held this way, we can touch the memories with our attention the way one touches a newly repaired tooth with the tongue, searching for the old roughness, the old wound, but not...

Increasing Your Capacity to Feel

Introductory Skill Level • Article • Read time: 4 - 6 minutes
Introductory Skill Level
Article
Read time: 4 - 6 minutes
What's really going on underneath the surface when we bring or encounter blame, judgements, pain -- and thereby the inability to empathise, be present, attuned, or responsive? Why does this happen even if one or more people in a relationship dynamic is working hard at bringing in an NVC response? This article addresses these and more questions from the perspective of how our brains are affected...

Anger’s Two Kinds of Reactivity

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read Time: 6 - 9 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read Time: 6 - 9 minutes
There's reactive anger - the sudden outbursts of words, temper or action that create a nervous system response in another. And then there's the anger that's a reaction to someone's anger -- a nervous system startle-response. Instead of either of these, we can learn to heal with empathy, look for unequal power dynamics, take responsibility to make repairs, and shift into the clean, life-serving,...

Creating Peace and Change: A Multi-Level Approach

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 12 - 18 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 12 - 18 minutes
Why does NVC practice, and NVC training/coaching, appear to be not enough to bridge divides between people? This article takes a look at the trickle down effect of our societal conditioning, what we can add to our NVC lense, and what we can do "upstream" when NVC doesn't seem to be enough. Additionally, the article talks about unseen constraints that men, women and minority groups face in...

Prepare for Love (Complete Course)

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 09:07 hours:minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
09:07 hours:minutes
Join Eric Bowers in transforming past relationship pain, coming alive in community and creating thriving relationships. This 12 session Telecourse recording brings together Eric's passions for Nonviolent Communication, Attachment Theory and Interpersonal Neurobiology.

Adding Active Bystander Skills to Your NVC Toolkit

with Lore Baur
Intermediate Skill Level • Video • 44 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Video
44 minutes
CNVC Certified Trainer Lore Baur asks: "Have you ever seen something happen that made you feel uncomfortable and you didn't know what to do?" That's the "bystander effect:" a well-researched and commonly experienced phenomenon. Training can help you overcome it, enabling you to discern what to do and how to support others in ways that reduce trauma and increase safety.

Gender Through the Lens of IPNB plus Empathy

All Skill Levels • Article • Read Time: 4 - 6 minutes
All Skill Levels
Article
Read Time: 4 - 6 minutes
Our pattern-making minds make predictions about how best to survive in the world. So deep wounds from our past can influence our minds to make life long generalizations that harden into core beliefs about groups of people. Read on for a demonstration of how empathy can shift these wounds and thus the core beliefs.

Anatomy of a Trigger: Change Your Focus and Improve the Outcome

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 7-10 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 7-10 minutes
When you or anyone is upset, what could underneath it all? There may be more than is immediately visible. This article invites us to explore what it looks like to inquire deeper, take self-responsibility, examine our assumptions, attachments, interpretations, and "certainties" that could be hidden behind the needs that are aching to be attended to...

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 14. Admit to it Too

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page
It can be challenging to tell people that you don’t like a certain behaviour or action of theirs. Even with supportive intentions and compassionate language your message might be difficult for someone to receive. Of course, we are not responsible for others’ reactions, but we are responsible to care about each other, and there are effective ways to express ourselves with more care.

 
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