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Aligning Our Strategies with Our Values

Aligning Our Strategies with Our Values

Aligning Our Strategies with Our Values

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 1-2 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 1-2 minutes

Trainer Tip: What do you value the most? Take a look at your actions and notice the values that your actions demonstrate (not what you want them to show, but what they do show), and see if they are in alignment. Where there is a gap take steps to create actions that are in alignment with your values

Relating to the Value of Things Rather Than the Cost

Relating to the Value of Things Rather Than the Cost

Relating to the Value of Things Rather Than the Cost

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page

Trainer Tip: The exchange of resources, that is, exchanging money for an item or service, is enhanced and better appreciated when we are connected to its personal value rather than its cost.

Groups Tip Series: The Value of Groups

Groups Tip Series: The Value of Groups

Groups Tip Series: The Value of Groups

with Miki Kashtan

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 00:03 hours:minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
00:03 hours:minutes

Listen to Miki talk about the value of participating in groups, recognizing our inherent nature to do so, how industrialization has hindered our skills and the value of participating in a time when it's most needed.

Valuing My Needs When I Habitually Don't

Valuing My Needs When I Habitually Don't

Valuing My Needs When I Habitually Don't

with John Kinyon

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 00:09 hours:minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
00:09 hours:minutes

Listen to John answer an NVC Multimedia Library member's question about what we can do when we habitually place other's needs ahead our own. Healing and change can be reached through compassionate self-connection, mourning and mindfulness.

The Value of Transparency

The Value of Transparency

The Value of Transparency

with Kelly Bryson

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 00:05 hours:minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
00:05 hours:minutes

In this inspiring audio, Kelly discusses the true value of transparency and "truth." He defines truth as the whole truth, including our inner experience; this could also be called self transparency.

The Price of Nice

The Price of Nice

The Price of Nice

with Kelly Bryson

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • 8 pages

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
8 pages

Have you been nice? Well then you must be enjoying the reward: depression, intermittent explosiveness, job meaninglessness, ambiguous anxiety, low resentment and subtle self hate.

Differentiating Needs from Strategies

Differentiating Needs from Strategies

Differentiating Needs from Strategies

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 2-3 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 2-3 minutes

Trainer tip: When we focus on needs further possibilities are more likely to open up. When we focus on a particular strategy, our world can feel scarce and conflicts can arise. Resolution comes when we value everyone’s needs and seek mutually satisfying solutions. We can ask for support towards this outcome.

Acknowledging the Impact of Identity Within Social Change Movements (Part 1 of 2)

Acknowledging the Impact of Identity Within Social Change Movements (Part 1 of 2)

Acknowledging the Impact of Identity Within Social Change Movements (Part 1 of 2)

with Mary Mackenzie and Roxy Manning

All Skill Levels • Article • Read time: 23-35 mins

All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 23-35 mins

In this transcript, clinical psychologist and organizational consultant, Roxy Manning, PhD, offers ways for us to increase our capacity to (1) See things that we otherwise wouldn't; (2) Bring more relevance to our groups, organizations and social change movements; (3) Talk openly about microaggressions: statements or (in)actions that (inadvertently) minimize, diminish or negate somebody's...

Acknowledging the Impact of Identity Within Social Change Movements (Part 2 of 2)

Acknowledging the Impact of Identity Within Social Change Movements (Part 2 of 2)

Acknowledging the Impact of Identity Within Social Change Movements (Part 2 of 2)

with Mary Mackenzie and Roxy Manning

All Skill Levels • Article • Read time: 22-35 mins

All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 22-35 mins

In part two, of this two-part transcript, clinical psychologist and organizational consultant, Roxy Manning, Ph.D., offers a way we can help people from marginalized groups free more of their energy for greater joy, meaning and contribution to our groups, social change movements, and organizations. Roxy and Mary Mackenzie also show that while there's often that risk of inadvertently creating...

Money, Value, and Our Choices

Money, Value, and Our Choices

Money, Value, and Our Choices

with Miki Kashtan

Advanced Skill Level • Article • Read time: 10 - 15 minutes

Advanced Skill Level
Article
Read time: 10 - 15 minutes

How much money to pay? And how much money to ask for? The supply and demand logic basically say that we ask for the most that “the market can absorb” and pay “the least that we can get away with.” We can instead, we can engage in experiments that focus on connecting to and satisfying needs. We can also engage with our varying degrees of access to resources within the existing economy and...

The Value of Taking a Step Back

The Value of Taking a Step Back

The Value of Taking a Step Back

with Kelly Bryson

Beginner Skill Level • Article • 4 pages

Beginner Skill Level
Article
4 pages

Have you ever gotten a fishing line all tangled up? You got so frustrated you just started yanking on the different loops of line, which of course made the knots and tangles even tighter and more difficult to untangle. Wouldn’t it be great if you could notice the minute you were starting to tangle things up in a discussion with your loved one?

Integrity

Integrity

Integrity

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 1 page

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 page

Trainer Tip: What does integrity mean to you? Each person has a different definition. For me, integrity means that I live in harmony with my values.

Needs-Based Negotiation

Needs-Based Negotiation

Needs-Based Negotiation

with Mary Mackenzie

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 1-2 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 1-2 minutes

Trainer Tip: When we create situations that value one person’s needs at the expense of another, we open the door for someone to lose. Instead, look to see if you can speak openly and honestly, value the other person’s needs, and create solutions that value all stakeholder needs.

Moralistic Judgments

Moralistic Judgments

Moralistic Judgments

with Mary Mackenzie

Introductory Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 1-2 minutes

Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 1-2 minutes

Trainer tip: When we express moralistic judgments we are implying that other people are wrong or bad because they don’t act in ways that are in harmony with our values. Judging the situation or people can create distance and hurt. Instead, we can express our needs and how we're affected, bringing greater connection and healing. Today, notice how often you judge, and how you feel when you judge.

Free Your Heart From the "Difficult" Person

Free Your Heart From the "Difficult" Person

Free Your Heart From the "Difficult" Person

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 6-9 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 6-9 minutes

Reacting is deciding what to do based on what someone else does. Responding is deciding what to do based on your own needs and values. When someone isn't responding the way you want, and you want to respond in a way that embodies your values, with warmth and patience, examine your reactions. Ask yourself how you can access compassion and action that contributes to the well-being of all.

The Needs Underneath a Need for “Fairness”

The Needs Underneath a Need for “Fairness”

The Needs Underneath a Need for “Fairness”

with Miki Kashtan

Advanced Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 2 pages

Advanced Skill Level
Trainer Tip
2 pages

Ask the Trainer: "I'm practicing with 'transforming the pain of unmet needs into the beauty of the need.' In identifying my unmet needs, I come up with 'fairness.' However, fairness isn't on the needs list! I'm wondering what needs might be underneath 'fairness.'"

A Focus on Needs

A Focus on Needs

A Focus on Needs

with Mary Mackenzie

Introductory Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 1-2 minutes

Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 1-2 minutes

There are endless ways to meet our needs. Conflict occurs when we argue over strategies. When we actively value everyone’s needs, we foster openness and deeper connection in our relationships. Today look for opportunities to focus on needs in order to resolve an issue with at least one person.

How to Survive the Holidays: 6 Communication Tips

How to Survive the Holidays: 6 Communication Tips

How to Survive the Holidays: 6 Communication Tips

with Oren Jay Sofer

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read Time: 6 - 10 minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read Time: 6 - 10 minutes

For many, spending time with relatives over the holidays may be challenging. In addition to the love and care we may feel, family gatherings can bring up old hurts or expose painful differences. How many family meals have been marred by tense silence or devolved into harsh argument?

Life Force and the Spirituality of Human Needs (Complete Course)

Life Force and the Spirituality of Human Needs (Complete Course)

Life Force and the Spirituality of Human Needs (Complete Course)

with Robert Gonzales

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 6 - 9 hours

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
6 - 9 hours

Your needs and your values are your Life Force: the river that flows through your spirit and your life, giving life and light to your being. Explore this river with Robert, and map out routes that support your growth. Listen In. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 7. Talk about Conflict When You’re Not in Conflict

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 7. Talk about Conflict When You’re Not in Conflict

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 7. Talk about Conflict When You’re Not in Conflict

with Eric Bowers

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 4 pages

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
4 pages

Conflict is a normal and natural part of life. To varying degrees, it happens whenever two or more people consistently spend time together. Resolving conflict effectively and peacefully, in a way in which all parties feel respected and valued, does not feel natural for those of us who grew up with punitive, adversarial, or avoidant approaches to conflict. Eric offers some tips for approaching...

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