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Foundational NVC Skills: Requests

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 01:25 hours:minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
01:25 hours:minutes
Marshall Rosenberg suggests that there are two requests that are the most transformative to relationships, (1) What’s alive in both of us? and (2) What would make life more wonderful for both of us? This telecourse recording offers an easy-to-digest overview of how carefully crafted requests inspire joyful relationships.

Working with a Difficult Counseling Situation

Intermediate Skill Level • Video • 00:30 hours:minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Video
00:30 hours:minutes
Clinical psychologist, Robert Gonzales, Ph.D., uses an open dialogue with a practitioner to explore effective, compassionate methods to handle a volatile counseling situation. This resource has been newly remastered to a larger, higher quality video.

Group Feedback

Advanced Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 2 pages
Advanced Skill Level
Trainer Tip
2 pages
Ask the Trainer: "I'm part of a small, self-led NVC group that's been working together for almost two years. We are experiencing some growing pains in that we're still not certain how and under what circumstances to make requests, especially negative ones."

Hidden Needs

Intermediate Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 2 pages
Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
2 pages
Ask the Trainer: "I've been feeling frustrated and angry quite a bit lately over very simple things. Can you help me get to the root of my hidden needs?"

Creating the Life You Want With Powerful Requests (Complete Course)

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 05:11 hours:minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
05:11 hours:minutes
In this telecourse recording, expert trainer Miki Kashtan will help you uncover what prevents you from asking for everything you want without fear. The class includes daily practices for ongoing skill building.

Valuing Everyone’s Needs

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 1-2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 1-2 minutes
Trainer tip: If you are in a relationship (whether personal or work related) that you are not happy with, consider talking to the other person in an effort to connect about both your needs. Talking about it doesn’t guarantee that you will like the resolution, but not talking about it guarantees continued unhappiness. Read on for more.

Liberating Ourselves from Our “Shoulds”

Introductory Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 1-2 minutes
Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 1-2 minutes
Trainer tip: When you tell yourself that you have to do something, you're more likely to disconnect yourself from the needs you’re trying to meet, and also diminish the joy in your life. Instead, experiment with translating your “shoulds” and “have tos” into the need you are trying to meet.

Meeting Our Needs

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 1-2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 1-2 minutes
Trainer Tip: Discovering the unmet needs is only a starting point. The other part is to understand what it will take to meet that need, and make a request that will accomplish this. This way, we can resolve situations before they escalate. Everyone benefits when we are clear about what we would like.

Meeting Our Need for Support

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 1-2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 1-2 minutes
Trainer Tip: Asking for support may feel awkward and uncomfortable. In these moments, we may forget that everyone needs support. We may also forget that there may be many options available to us, even if what's available isn't our preferred source of support.

We Don’t Need to Fix Other People

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 1-2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 1-2 minutes
Trainer Tip: The very process of giving someone space to talk about their issue without our judgment, to be truly understood by us, and to be deeply heard is very healing, enough so that most people will organically find their own creative ways to resolve their issues. Rely on this process and you will lose all desire to fix people’s problems. Try this out today.

A Talk About Needs

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 00:10 hours:minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
00:10 hours:minutes
"Everything someone does or says is an attempt to meet a need," says CNVC Certified Trainer Mary Mackenzie. Once you gain skills at living in a "needs-consciousness" you will literally change your life and improve all of your relationships.

 
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