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Pay attention to when you're motivated by guilt, duty, obligation, shame, and worry. How do you feel? Does it bring up resentment, rebellion, submission, reactivity or resistance? When you're motivated by joy notice how that feels, and how others respond. Read on for a related story.

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  • Skill Level Introductory Skill Level
  • Duration 1-2 minutes
  • Production Date 10/2005
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Where do you feel desperation, resentment, anger about your partner's choices? What do you want to demand of them? Rather than looking for what they're suppose to do, look for your feelings and needs, how would you would respond if you trusted your needs could be met without your partner, and what you choose to do given what your partner offers and does not offer.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 3 - 5 minutes
  • Production Date 2/2021
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Our brains tend to see those outside our circle of belonging as non-human. This occurs reflexively when we have more advantages than others. When we notice people that look like us, we'll think about them, wonder about them, and imagine their lives, and empathize more -- but not so for those of other affiliations, classes, "races", etc. Working with this is crucial if we want to live nonviolently. Read on for 7 related practices.

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  • Skill Level Advanced Skill Level
  • Duration 15 - 22 minutes
  • Production Date 2/2020
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Trainer Tip: On a scale of 1 to 10, how is your emotional bank account? If it’s lower than you like, consider what you can do right now to bring it closer to balance. Everyone in your life, and most especially you, will benefit from this. Even 15 mins of empathy may nourish you with accompaniment and perspective, even when the issues or circumstances in your life are the same.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 1-2 minutes
  • Production Date 10/2005
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  • Points 2
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Anger can bring in judgment and blame. Instead, use anger and frustration to identify what’s important and express what matters to you in a collaborative way.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 3 - 5 minutes
  • Production Date 9/2019
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Trainer Tip: If you're doing personal growth work, and changing your behaviors, you may find yourself wanting others to join your efforts with similar levels of enthusiasm. When they don't do so, you may feel frustrated and place judgments on them, thinking they aren't as caring. You'll be less likely to feel disappointed in people if you remind yourself that when you do personal growth work, what needs you are meeting for yourself.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 1-2 minutes
  • Production Date 10/2005
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  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1

Past hurt and pain can get triggered even when it doesn't have much to do with the present. When that happens we can gain perspective by self reflecting, engaging self empathy, grounding an "anchor", noticing the present-moment safety, naming needs and making requests.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 2 - 4 minutes
  • Production Date 6/2019
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Trainer Tip: Even if we don't agree, acknowledging others' realities can help demonstrate that we're including their feelings and needs in the conversation. Creating space for your reality and theirs can also bring a sense of connection, understanding, inclusion, abundance and fullness in life. Try it today. Read on for an example.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 1-2 minutes
  • Production Date 10/2005
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  • Points 1
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Listen as Mary Mackenzie shares an eight step path to create your own NVC learning activities, based on your own NVC learning experience. In this session, Mary uses the value of requests and observations as teaching examples.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 49 minutes
  • Production Date 11/16/2019
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  • Points 3
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Sylvia Haskvitz offers a practical and effective approach to making requests. Learn the two questions that can clarify your motivation for making a request, three ways to discern a request from a demand, and five possible reasons for meeting requests.

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  • Skill Level All Skill Levels
  • Duration 5 - 10 minutes
  • Production Date 7/18/2021
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  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 1