If you ask for or give empathy and are met with accusations of codependency, there are a number of things you can do to check that you are coming from a place of healthy differentiation. You can see if you're doing so from a place of healthy differentiation -- and notice signs of healthy differentiation when you offer empathy. You can also bring a profound respect for differences, and clear boundaries. Read on for more.

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  • Skill Level All Skill Levels
  • Duration 4- 6 minutes
  • Production Date 08/2020
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Resentment is one sign that you need a boundary. You can set a boundary by requesting the behavior that would be most meaningful to you. Include why that behavior would be meaningful to you and share vulnerably. Then notice if you are holding any blame and ask yourself, “What do I need to feel underneath my blame?” If you can take responsibility for those feelings with compassion, the other person is more likely to collaborate.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 3 - 5 minutes
  • Production Date 07/2019
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Even in a conflict, you can offer emotional safety without being enmeshed -- and you can do this without sliding into strategies to gain power over another. You can prioritize connection, express your intention, make space for mutuality, honestly reveal what you care about and propose a way forward. This means caring for your needs regardless of their response -- and mourning if their response isn't what you want. Read on for more.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 5 - 7 minutes
  • Production Date 02/2020
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Trainer Tip: If someone has enriched your life (or moment) in some way, consider telling them about it. Your appreciation might be just the gift they need to contribute to brightening their day.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 1 - 2 minutes
  • Production Date 10/2005
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What have you lost this year? Are you grieving too? Recognition of loss can helped contextualize our emotions. When we can meet grief with understanding, patience and tenderness, when we create space to mourn our losses -- and to begin to process, heal and metabolize loss. This can helps us make sense of change and orient to a new reality. Grief is a longing for what we love.

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  • Skill Level Introductory Skill Level
  • Duration 2 - 3 minutes
  • Production Date 09/2020
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Trainer Tip: Every time you criticize yourself, you cause yourself to feel shame and guilt, which promotes depression and stagnation. Instead, bringing in more self compassion can increase opportunities for change. Do this by acknowledging your needs (or values) that aren’t met by your actions. Read on for how to do this.

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  • Skill Level Introductory Skill Level
  • Duration 1 - 2 minutes
  • Production Date 10/2005
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Worthlessness and shame are linked to the idea of not belonging or being unworthy of belonging -- that is, a deep sense of belonging to life, to your sense of self, and to our earth. Compensatory strategies to win worthiness and belonging arise from here and effectively block the very thing it is pursuing. Transformation occurs when there is a critical mass of clarity about the harm of a particular way of thinking and behaving.

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  • Skill Level All Skill Levels
  • Duration 4 - 6 minutes
  • Production Date 03/2020
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When someone responds with painful sarcasm, criticism, or dismissal you can respond with empathy, or with clarity about your intention, need and request. If you're unable to do this, later you can privately write what they said, identify the feelings and needs of both of you, then write possible responses. This can help you remember to stay with your intention and what’s true for you without getting caught in defensiveness or reactivity.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 3 - 5 minutes
  • Production Date 09/2019
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Interrupt cycles of conflict by creating a new ways forward. You can do this by connecting with the energy of the met needs you want in the dynamic; guessing the other person's needs; naming your needs; asking essential questions; identifying at least three different strategies to meet each need; and imagining the positive outcome.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 6 - 9 minutes
  • Production Date 12/2020
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What can you do to move towards connection when you you sense reactivity, defense, withdrawal or conflict arising? You can make a connection request, check the congruence between your body language and your words, and get curious about the impact of your actions. When you've tried everything you could also acknowledge that something is off, and choose to come back together when both parties have had time to reflect. Read on for more.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 4 - 6 minutes
  • Production Date 03/2020
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  • Points 1
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