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Years ago, Marshall Rosenberg said, “Anger can be a wonderful wake up call to help you understand what you need and what you value.”

I have been sitting with this phrase during these devastating months of 2020, pondering what it is that each of us needs and values, and revisiting what exactly it is that I need and value. What comes up for me is connection. Compassion. Empathy. Clarity. To be seen and heard for our outrage. And for life to be equitable for us all.

But it isn’t.

Incidents of racism and discrimination – from tiny, easy-to-miss interactions that can traumatize in their repeated nature, to sudden and horrible killings – occur daily in our streets, our homes, where we work, in our places of worship, and our schools…

We have an undeniable problem, and we have work to do. We all have work to do.

Black lives matter.

We at the NVC Academy stand in solidarity with those who are protesting nonviolently across the world. We yearn to see an end to the violence and systemic racism that has had a chokehold on our country. The NVC Academy team chooses to educate ourselves on issues of racism and privilege and to offer educational opportunities to others.

As an individual, here are three things that I am doing to take action TODAY, and I hope you will join me:

  • Donate to your local Black Lives Matter organization, the global Black Lives Matter Foundation, or any other organization that is taking action in alignment with your values
  • Donate to local non-profit organizations that are run by or support people of color
  • Make a point to seek out and do business with companies, corporations, banks, or shops that are run by people of color

Here are a number of resources that you may find helpful in expanding your own understanding of the issues related to systemic racism and privilege:

NONFICTION BOOKS

  • How to Be an Anti-Racist, by Ibram X. Kendi
  • White Fragility, by Robin DiAngelo
  • The New Jim Crow, by Michelle Alexander
  • So You Want to Talk About Race, by Ijeoma Oluo

BOOKS FOR PARENTS WITH KIDS

PODCASTS / VIDEOS

PUDDLEDANCER PRESS

NVC MULTIMEDIA LIBRARY

NVC MARKETPLACE

I hope this list is supportive to you, and that you will join me in taking some kind of action today.

We have hundreds of years of history to rethink, and creating systems that truly value everyone is beyond most of our imaginations. Quick solutions seem impossible and naïve to dream of. And yet, I know individual action makes a difference – and doing nothing leaves me feeling even less hopeful that things will shift. I acknowledge that the actions I take today may not be seen or felt in my lifetime, yet they do have an impact and will be felt in the future.


We at the NVC Academy are holding you so tenderly in our hearts these days… Each of us is deeply aware that you and other members of our beloved community may need additional support during the coming months…

I want to invite you to count on us: we are here for you.

First, we are now offering several courses designed to help trainers upscale their ability to teach online, and supporting trainer teams in hosting large NVC gatherings. The NVC Conference – usually held in Southern California each spring – was the first of these events. Last weekend we hosted it on Zoom, and it was phenomenal: well over 300 people from every corner of the world registered!

Second, we have added newlive courses as well as crafted and curated resources that can help you navigate, rethink, and transform any challenges you may be facing. We hope these offerings provide you with a sense of support:

Free Resources
Help with stress, anger, fear, depression, rethinking this crisis, taking action (and more).

  1. Apart and Together: Responding to Opportunity in Extreme Times
    This crisis is an opportunity to shift habits, join forces, and respond freshly in ways that seemed impossible before.
  2. How to Stay Calm during a Pandemic
    Take a look at emotional-physiological regulation, self-empathy for fear and anxiety, and meaningful engagement.
  3. And much more, including meditation, course recordings, and articles!

NVC Multimedia Library Resources
Subscription required.

  1. Using NVC When the Going Gets Rough
    Discover the unexpected benefits of intense, overwhelming emotions.
  2. Fearless Loving and Living
    Master fear, transform scarcity, graduate to a gifting / receiving economy, and more.
  3. Embracing Your Emotions: Honoring the Wisdom of BIG Emotions
    Check out this POWERFUL course recording!

Live NVC Courses
Join us at one of our next live Zoom courses: registration is now open.

  1. Your Resonant Self Immersion Program: A Revolutionary Online Retreat
    Maintain your inner calm in the face of life’s challenges (starts May 8).
  2. Jump In Now: Facilitation Basics
    Clarify and accentuate your personal teaching style. Build a strong NVC network and support system (starts May 21).
  3. And much more.

Downloads

  1. Financial Integrity
    Create a relationship with money that is clear, empowered, purposeful, and stress-free.
  2. Living with the Power of Gratitude
    Rather than finding yourself at the mercy of challenging events, learn how to become a co-creator of life and a healing influence!
  3. Dealing with Loss: Coming Back to Life
    Unearth and process the feelings and issues that get tangled up with loss.

We hope you enjoy these resources, and find them to be of support.

In the meanwhile, may you experience nurturing… may you have moments of inner peace… and may you remember that you are loved.

Wishing you health and well being…


I confess I spent the first week after Donald Trump’s election as president of the United States in mourning, deep despair, and bewilderment. I felt as if someone I loved had punched me in the chest. Many people I love, in fact, voted for him. They too were feeling despair: despair that I didn’t vote for him, and confusion about why I felt so devastated.

During that first week, I led several meditations on peace in different national and international venues. I offered formal and informal empathy sessions to many people, and listened to many more: hundreds of stories about enormous pain from families, spouses, and loved ones who had suddenly found themselves deeply divided.

It was exhausting — until I said “STOP,” and allowed myself the space to receive empathy, to offer it to myself, and to grieve and grieve and grieve my own grief.

And then I got clear (really clear!) that I wanted to focus on healing the gap between those of us who didn’t vote for Donald Trump, and those who did – and all our life experiences that led us to this point.

Thich Nhat Hahn says, We need someone to be able to listen to us and to understand us.  Then, we will suffer less. But everyone is suffering, and no one wants to listen.”

I am listening.


Years ago, I was driving down the road listening to NPR (National Public Radio) and they were reporting about a pediatrician who had been molesting children for over 30 years; at that time, they estimated that hundreds of children had been affected.

My heart sank and I started to cry – deep mourning for the gravity of this. All the children whose lives had been affected, and everyone who came in contact with them throughout their lifetime. And, the pediatrician – everyone he came in contact with within his medical practice and beyond.

The more I thought about the growing number of people who would have been knowingly or unknowingly affected, my grief grew and grew – and overwhelm and hopelessness began to take over. How could this possibly be healed?

And, then I had a thought…


mary-mackenzie-150Happy Holidays!  This song / message from John Lennon and Yoko Ono was inspiring and lovely for me to receive.  I hope you enjoy it as well.  It reminds me that peace starts with me and it’s possible if I am committed to it in my life.  It takes true commitment, even a kind of fierceness, to live nonviolently and in such a way that values all needs.

On this day, I say I am committed for one more day to live my value of nonviolence.  I hope you’ll join me.

John Lennon and Yoko Ono:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8cJOm72QDDA&feature=related

Warmest Holiday wishes to you,

Mary


mary-mackenzie-150I have been feeling very sad about the killing of Osama Bin Laden – how it was handled and the joy with which people are responding to it.  I have been doing some personal work of late on forgiveness and atonement and so my way of dealing with the situation is to be honest with myself about what my part is, to take responsibility for my part, to forgive myself, to atone (I don’t have an idea for how to do this yet with regard to this specific situation but I’m praying about it), and especially to not add hatred or judgment to the situation.

It is challenging to understand in an intellectual way that I have a part in something happening thousands of miles away.  And yet, I know that we are all one and interconnected; every action I take has an affect on others.